What do you hope to gain from this type of comment?

Isn't this like step 1.5 from "How to get my ex back"? I believe this is an e-book step right...

Ha ha yep KC you are right! It is an e-book step on those "promise to get your ex back" scams

Umm... I don't see the point of agreeing with a choice they made with out your input anyway. What would doing this give you anyway? A false sense of friendship? Are you trying to relieve his/her guilt? Or would you just be playing mind games in order to throw them off track?

No, I wouldn't tell her she made the right choice by breaking up with me. I didn't think it was the right choice, so why should I pretend it was by telling her it was? To her it was already the right choice, why else would she do it?

Give me a break!

Stay to NC and stop trying to force a situation to work. It is was meant to work out it would. There is nothing you can say or do to win someone back. That is a choice that they have to make for themselves, whether to come back.

If they come back, it's not because of what you said or what you did that brings them back, it was the choice their choice that they made to come back.

I want to spend more time with my boyfriend. We both attend school and also have part-time jobs during the school year. I think that I can make more time for him, but when I broach the subject of spending more time together, he says that we're too busy.

Then, during the summer he said that we were too busy for each other then too. We both worked full-time during the summer (40 hrs/week).

My questions are:
1) Do you think we were too busy to spend time together during the summer?
2) Do you think we were too busy to spend time together during the school year?

I'd just like a fresh outsider's perspective on this. Sometimes I feel like I'm over-thinking things.

Working 40 hours, are you working days and he working evenings? I mean people work 40 hours, then work another job 20 hours and still belong to bowling teams and teach Sunday school.

Now people can be too busy, I found a lady I really liked, went out a couple of times, but we both work 40 plus hours a day, but she is on 4 committes at her church, and is teaching classes at church and more. So she only has one evening a week free, and that is split amount many things.
So people can be too busy, but you two sound like one or the other just does not want to make the time

I'm pretty sure your question is rhetorical, but I'll answer it anyway. No, we were both working day shifts during the summer.

Yes, I agree with your statement Fr_Chuck. Sometimes I feel like I'm questioning him too much in my mind.

Oh, something I forgot to mention is that I live with my sister and we rent a house. He, however, lives with his dad and I guess he could be busy doing chores around the house?

What do you guys think?

You're only as busy as you think you are. If Both of you start thinking that you are too busy to see each other then you will be too busy. You'll find excuses not to. However, if this is a relationship that both of you are committed to, then you will both find time to make time for each other. But remember, that it takes two to tango. You can't be trying to do all of the work in this.

My ex and I... we are not enemies and we probably would like to be friends again. He sent me a message saying "Hi." I wasn't at home, so I didn't reply at the time. Should I send him a message back?

Sure, he may be trying to reestablish!

It's all very situational. How long have you two been broken up? Are you over him? Are you looking to reconcile? Would you be OK with him discussing a possibility of a new relationship with another woman? We need more information.

Lol. I laugh because I know that if I am not over him, then I shouldn't call him. If I'm looking to reconcile I shouldn't call him. If I'm not OK with your last question, then I shouldn't call him. Am I correct in this assumption?

Good. Now, you know the answer to your own question (:

NO! What has changed between you?

5 or 6 threads merged, as you have so many questions, it was getting confusing keeping the facts straight. Please just respond to one thread, and have mercy on our poor heads-Thank you

Talaniman - sorry about having so many questions. =( Um, also, the thread "Was this a good relationship?" was actually a different relationship. It was not the same as the main relationship that I keep discussing.

Also, to "what has changed between you," I'm not as resentful of him not coming over and his lack of attention towards me.

I'm waiting for him to come online so that I can send him a message back while he's there. What do you guys think?

NO, NO, AND NO.

No contact is no contact.

Hey teastalk, let me put it this way: the very fact that you don't know what to do means that you should just forget it. Live your life, OK? Don't wait. If whatever he wanted to tell was important, he will try to contact you again. He probably has your phone number or e-mail or something.

You don't want to be his toy, do you?

I was away from my computer and I received a message from him once again. He was JUST checking on me to see how I was and that it was the second time he tried. So how do I respond or do I?

Another question--campus is not that large, if I should stumble across him or know for sure that we will be attending an upcoming meeting---do I linger, walk in the opposite direction, ignore him, make sure I don't make eye contact, or get the information I went there for and leave quickly.

First, don't respond to his message

Second, be polite and respectful. Say hello and a few words then say you must go as you had a prior engagement.

I don't understand why I shouldn't respond to his message...

Help, anyone?

Also, I really want to see him...

You don't know what you want do you??

Your choices, move on and leave him alone, or see about getting back together.

What do you want to happen?

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I want to tease and flirt with him to see if there is anything there. By "anything there," I mean any vestiges of the feelings he once had for me, so that I could fan them into flames of desire/love again. Whenever I find a guy I like, I clam up. This is a problem of mine.

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This is a game you need to drop! Be yourself.

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Originally Posted by teastalk

I was away from my computer and I received a message from him once again. He was JUST checking on me to see how I was and that it was the second time he tried. So how do I respond or do I??

Another question--campus is not that large, if I should stumble across him or know for sure that we will be attending an upcoming meeting---do I linger, walk in the opposite direction, ignore him, make sure I don't make eye contact, or get the information I went there for and leave quickly.

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You are thinking way too much about this. If he says hi say hi, if he doesn't don't.You don't have to have it all mapped out

I want to see him. But it appears that I shouldn't contact him until I view us as nothing more than friends, even though I still want to get back together.

Is this right?

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Originally Posted by teastalk

I want to see him. But it appears that I shouldn't contact him until I view us as nothing more than friends, even though I still want to get back together.

Is this right?

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Post #66 - yes, that's right.

Do you really think you can get him back with some cheap flirting a and teasing??

I think I got trompled.

Seems like maybe I had no control. I'm not saying I want to be controlling, I'm just saying that I maybe was controlled.

Unfortunately, I'm still wondering what happened.

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Originally Posted by teastalk

I think I got trompled.

Seems like maybe I had no control. I'm not saying I want to be controlling, I'm just saying that I maybe was controlled.

Unfortunately, I'm still wondering what happened.

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I think if you can't figure it out after over 60 answers maybe there is no answer you can accept.