First of all, I appreciate your love
Your story says that, you are a true lover.
You care for her but she thinks you don't trust her.

And one thing you may not know is that
"She thinks you are someone who loves her so much that you will accept everything and no matter what she does, you will surely return back to her.", In simple words, your value in her eyes is next to nothing.

Imagine how much would you care for a dog, who comes back to you even after several kicks you gave.

Don't mind, it was just an example.

The basic idea is that "you have bowed so much for your love that she is taking you for granted"

Its up to you to now decide but remember.

When you love someone true heartedly,
Set her TOTALLY free
If she reurns, she's yours
If she doesn't, you are luckier than her

But look at it at my point of view I love this girl so she says she has some feelings for someone else I'm a positive thinker and I think I can make things work out with her you might think I'm immature or stupid or dumb but I love this girl with all my heart and you telling me to just leave her out of my thoughts is harder than you think.. trust me I'm trying and when I do I just think of all the fun times we've had iand I just tear up. I'm not immature I'm not stupid or dumb I'm in love its what I feel

I know dude... but the best thing for u to do right now is let her make up her mind and decide for herself... u can't decide what another person does... it's their life, their choice...

Don't tell me I think you're dumb. I am 21 years old and I am engaged. I have been with my fiancé for 5 years. I am not telling you to straight up leave, you need to step back and think about what is going on. When she starts having feelings for another guy that to me is a sign of giving up on you 2. You can be positive all you want but that desn't change the facts. It is what it is.

P.s. Try capitalizing and using proper punctuation, it makes it easier to read.

The more you push the issue, the more you will push her away. I've been there, LISTEN TO US, please!

Hmmm seems like we are all speaking from experience... seriously dude... if she has feelings, or thinks she has feelings for another guy, then something is very wrong here... even if she does stay with u, things will never be the same again... so no point... best to cut your losses and live your life...

To be honest I re-read your post and it sounds like you are young and nieve. You're afraid of rejectiona and loss, you got mad because she went to party while you were stuck at home playing playstation! Sounds to me like you have a control problem and can't stand being by yourself.

Dude, get RIPPED for the summer! Trust me.. Set weekly work out goals, this will HELP WONDERS.

But it's so hard I may be young but it's just really hard

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Originally Posted by R1U1S1T1Y1

but it's so hard i may be young but it's just really hard

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Nothing in life worth doing comes easy...

I'm young too man, I'm dying inside too, I'm having sleepless nights, I wake up from dreams with her by my side. BUT I'm mature enough to accept the fact that only time will heal me. YOU NEED TO DO THE SAME.

Hey if you want another example to give you another word of thought. Take me. I been in a long distance relationship for 5 months. In the beginning. Was all cool. We fell in love because we knew each other for a while. I know its different because we lived in different states. But I started to not trust her. And I would become more and more clingy as well as insecure. Thinking that at times I might not be good enough for her. And because of all this the relationship ended and we both moved on. It just was not working.

Look man. I ono how many posts you have put up about this issue. But whatever the case. You can't be so uptight over her. You got your friends and she has her friends. No matter how many guy friends she has. You need to be the better person and TRUST your girl or whatever girl you ever start to have a relationship with. No trust. No relationship. Period.

Only thing you can do. Is let her be. And at the same time. Evaluate yourself on how you handled things.

Hope this helps you out sir.

I feel for you bobby.

But it's a good lesson learnt. Isn't it.
And your mind now is so much stronger!
And that is my point here.

Life, Relationships.. they never get easy!
There is always going to be something that knocks you for six.

But it is how you deal with it that counts.
Yes we all fall.
But we don't stay down do we?


So come on Rusty. Get out of that PIT of self pitty, and move on
I know. You know it's the right thing to do

All the best

Last warning, any more new threads on this subject will be deleted, Stick to this one rusty.

You say she is thinking about breaking up. Well then there is still room for improvement. She is warning you not threatening you. Talk to her in a calm manner and tell he what you are worried about. You have to have trust or you won't get very far. I know that it is very hard when you are crazy about someone. You have to believe that she loves you I she stays with you, if she wants someone else then it will be over anyway.
Focus on the things she likes about you and forget everything else. Give her what she needs. As I said she is still hanging around and that is a good sign.
Best of luck.

I have tried to talk to her and just have a decent conversation like last night she went to the movies with some guy friends and I trusted her and I stopped talking to her for a bit because I didn't want to annoy her and when I did start talking to her again its like she is confused and doesn't no what to do. Its really hard from talking to her everyday to not talking to her at all. And today I tried to talk to her again and she said she didn't want want to talk. And she does say she still loves me but I don't no if she means it or not

RUSTY RUSTY RUSTY!

THe past couple days I've been reading your posts and just imagining the situation and the more you write the more obvius it is that she is not in the same place as you emotionally.

The other niht she hung outwith guys while you stayed at home and did NOTHING but worry. Last night she went out with guys and you probably stayed at home and did NOTHING but worry To me it sounds like she's over you but she's cared to tell you. Why would you want someone like that, I realize you have strong feelings for her but look at her behavior, there is no effort on her part to revive this mangled mess. If this is a look into your two's future then I would suggest get out NOW!

Later man!

I have a great idea... instead of sitting on your butt and worrying about her, why don't you get up and have fun with your friends? Or... you could just sit there and let her play with your emotions awhile longer, until she selects another guy to be with. Up to you...

What to do while my girlfriend tells me she wants to think about breaking up with me?

A. Sit at home crying until she makes up her mind (While she is seeing a movie with her guy friends)
B. Go out, have fun, and don't let someone use me constantly
C. Break up with her first, and tell her that I am a human being and not some dog
D. None of the above

Its in one ear and out the other for you isn't it rusty..

I give up.

End.

Rusty, I'm really trying to have some patience here with you.. You need to take the time to evaluate all the responses that are given to you.. . How many times do we have to tell you that this girl is no good for you until you even bother to listen? SHE'S with OTHER GUYS while your at home sitting on your butt like a sad little puppy waiting for his owner to come home. Geez, make your life more productive go work out, get ripped for the summer. Improve yourself in the things you love to do. Learn something new, Go clean the house.. ANYTHING to keep your mind off this female.

OK well you should give her some space and say well in a little bit can you get back together with me and let her think about her answer girls hate it when man makes them speed up theur answers. How do I know this because I am a girl.


Bye
Hopes this helps

To be honest Rusty as many times as you posted this same dilemma I'm starting to think it's a joke! TONS of people have given you advice (all saying leave the wench) and you still act like you're 10 years old and in love.

I hope to god you're not wasteing our time by playing a little joke. If it's not a joke think hard about what the people on here are telling you!

Well this wasn't a joke this was for real. And believe me its really hard trying to figure out how to fix things and what she is going to say when you see her cause she will only break up with you in person. And all in all who just have to think positive to get through the night. Because you can't eat, or sleep, and sometimes you might feel like you have to puke but you can't cause you have nothing in your stomach. I'm 17 and this is the first girl I have ever loved I might be young but I know what I want. And this weekend I talked to my girl to try and work things out and of cousre she was mad but all you have to do is try to make her have fun and tell her how she means to you and tell her everything she does it will be okay. People come on this site to get help with there problems and there concerns and to some people the things you tell them they might not like. Like me for example I did not like the answers you guys gave me but I figured out that you shouldn't have to let people or get advice from people to help you with your problems. Everyone is smart and can always find a way themselves. That's why me and my girl are still together because I found out I didn't need anyone's advice. So you I do thank everyone for the advice but people do need to know they can alwys solve things on there own.

I wish you the best of luck.

Thanks that means a lot

I hope it goes well, keep us updated.

Ah, the long distance relationship. Trust is very important in an relationship regardless long distance or not. It's hard to express emotion on a long distance relationship. I know a lot of guys have a hard time expressing there emotion in general. For example, I'm dating a girl at the moment that took me a year to figure out I loved her. Right now we are in a little issue because I said something that wasn't to great for me to say but, she needs time. I'm giving her time, the best thing you can do is give her time. Don't get all clingy and worry about saying things. Just be yourself. If you are being yourself then you won't have to worry because if she loves YOU, then she will love you for YOU. Being away from you partner makes you realise what your missing. It's all good and fine to be clingy, but being to clingy is a problem because girls get bored quick. It's not a fact of why she is doing this, it's a stage that everyone has been there and all girls go threw during there relationshps. They feel a lot of emotion on a regular basis. I had a girlfriend that told me she loved multiple people and it waas hard to decide which one sshe wanted to be with. The besst thing to do is give them time/space and not say a thing. Rmake them realise what there misslng