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  • Dec 9, 2008, 07:59 PM
    BlackVY

    Haha... that's evil... hey what's the deal with this..

    Women tell us there is something wrong, or there is a problem, but they don't want us to fix it or make things better... they just want to complain about it, and want us to sympathize with them... and when we try to fix the issue, we get in trouble!
  • Dec 9, 2008, 08:03 PM
    neverme

    Men are fixers, Women are talkers.

    I really believe in that sense we are just wired differently. A woman voices an opinion simply to voice it and for it to be recognised. A man, when he does decide to voice it (as his final option!) does so because he has tried every other way and can't do it alone :p
  • Dec 9, 2008, 08:31 PM
    simoneaugie

    Women want to be heard, understood. Men want to be admired, appreciated and worshipped.

    It's rarely a mistake for a woman to "worship at the throne." But when we are always telling him what a stud he is, while we are faking enjoyment? Lying is a mistake!
  • Dec 9, 2008, 08:34 PM
    BlackVY
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by simoneaugie View Post
    Women want to be heard, understood. Men want to be admired, appreciated and worshipped.

    It's rarely a mistake for a woman to "worship at the throne." But when we are always telling him what a stud he is, while we are faking enjoyment? Lying is a mistake!

    Yup... lying is not good... but it is nice for a man to feel appreciated... but then again, a woman wants that too...
  • Dec 10, 2008, 03:17 PM
    roxypox

    Hehe omg I'm a butch gay man trapped in a woman's body... or well... no I was a woman of today that's right... panic attack over!
  • Dec 10, 2008, 03:22 PM
    BlackVY

    Haha... very funny... but nothing wrong with being a butch gay man trapped in a woman's body... lol... some guys might find that quite appealing... lol ;)
  • Dec 10, 2008, 04:14 PM
    satswid

    Try for years to change everything in her man's life that she doesn't like
    And after that years, speaks sadly, "You have changed so much, i think you are not the one i was in love with before"
  • Dec 11, 2008, 05:57 AM
    roxypox
    BlackVY: hehe oh there might be. Geez I hope... ;)

    Btw I got a funny email from a friend of mine today:

    (1)FineThis is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.


    (2)Five Minutes:If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.


    (3)Nothing:This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.


    (4)Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!

    (5)Loud Sigh:This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)

    (6)That's Okay:This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

    (7)Thanks:A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome' that will bring on a 'whatever').

    (8)Whatever:Is a woman's way of sayingF--YOU!

    (9)Don't worry about it, I got it:Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to # 3.
  • Dec 11, 2008, 06:16 AM
    roxypox

    KC: BTw comment on your rep comment hehe good to hear that I'm not a lost womanly case hehe :P
  • Dec 11, 2008, 06:22 AM
    ZoeMarie
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by BlackVY View Post
    Haha... thats evil... hey whats the deal with this..

    Women tell us there is something wrong, or there is a problem, but they don't want us to fix it or make things better... they just want to complain about it, and want us to sympathize with them... and when we try to fix the issue, we get in trouble!!

    You know what's hilarious? This is really true. And yesterday I was complaining because my wrist hurt. I was going to wait until I got home to put on my brace because I forgot it. Well the guy at work was telling me to rearrange my whole work area thinking it would be more ergonomic. Like raise my chair, move my keyboard, mouse, computer screen. I looked him and said, "oh I'm just complaining, I wasn't looking for suggestions." we both just started laughing.
  • Dec 11, 2008, 02:44 PM
    BlackVY

    Tru... from the last few posts, I've observed something...

    If women were lot more straight-forward and told men what they really mean, or gave them a warning before a female instinct kicks in, things would be a lot better for men and women... ie: telling us when you are just complaining, not looking for a solution, or when nothing means something, or when go ahead means don't u dare...

    I mean not all men are smart enough to decipher this code women have... and we don't all know how a woman's mind works... I know its fun for women to confuse the hell out of men, but maybe once in a while, you could cut us some slack and tell it like it is... just a suggestion... thanks... :)
  • Dec 11, 2008, 03:17 PM
    TrueFaith

    I love the go ahead.

    And then you do

    And then she is all

    Oh No you did.. Int!

    Sigh :)..

    Well men and women both have the same issues
    I think if it was easy. There would be no fun in relationships :)
  • Dec 11, 2008, 04:12 PM
    Alty

    I don't think that women are the only confusing ones, you men are hard to figure out too. ;)

    Communication is key, if both sides say what they think, tell how they feel, let it be known what they like and dislike, then there are less problems.

    The thing is, most couples don't want to talk about negative things because they think it brings negativity into the relationship. So they remain quiet, soon they start to resent the other person "if he/she really loved me s/he'd know this bothers me" and then they get angry. If both parties had just talked about it from the beginning it would have been okay.

    Talk, talk, talk, it really is the most important aspect of any relationship.
  • Dec 11, 2008, 04:13 PM
    TrueFaith

    Say what you think

    Mean what you say :)
  • Dec 11, 2008, 05:21 PM
    simoneaugie

    It's pretty cool, actually that women and men are so different in the way they see things. Relationships are everything. So relating is what we seek to master. What is sad is that some feel that there is only one way to communicate... Everything else is other people's crap.

    My pet rock and I still have plenty in common. The talking is all one way though. When the rock has something to say, it's crap, so no one listens. Women are less like rocks than they used to be in Western society.
  • Dec 11, 2008, 08:19 PM
    southerngalps

    I couldn' help but post these in regards to women and men...

    When Dan found out he was going to inherit a fortune when his sickly father died, he decided he needed a woman to enjoy it with. So one evening he went to a singles bar where he spotted the most beautiful woman he had ever seen. Her natural beauty took his breath away.
    "I may look like just an ordinary man," he said as he walked up to her, "but in just a week or two, my father will die, and I'll inherit 20 million dollars."
    Impressed, the woman went home with him that evening and, three days later, she became his stepmother.

    Women are so much smarter than men..

    AND...

    SHORT STORY

    Man driving down road.
    Woman driving same road...
    They pass each other...
    The woman yells out the window, PIG!
    Man yells back out window, B I T C H!
    Man rounds next curve.
    Crashes into a HUGE PIG in middle of road and dies.
    Thought for The Day: If only men would listen......

    No matter what, I still love you guys!
  • Dec 11, 2008, 08:27 PM
    Moparbyfar
    Hmmm, so now the problem is that a woman doesn't train her dog properly? Well ladies, just hope that you live with a Retriever(easily trained) and not an Afghan Hound(stubborn). Be firm, confident and consistent, yet loving and patient in order to build trust and obedience. If necessary use stand over tactics to show them who's boss. And when you take them out, make sure they're always a step behind you.
    You should have them eating out of your hand in no time. :D
  • Dec 11, 2008, 08:43 PM
    southerngalps

    And to show that I love you guys, here's one for you...

    A store that sells husbands has just opened in Dallas, TX, where a woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a
    Description of how the store operates.

    "You may visit the store ONLY ONCE! There are six floors and the attributes of the men increase as the shopper ascends the flights. There is, however, a catch. You may choose any man from a particular floor, or you may choose to go up a floor, but you cannot go back down Except to exit the building!"

    So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband.. .

    On the first floor the sign on the door reads: Floor 1 - These men have
    Jobs.

    The second floor sign reads: Floor 2 - These men have jobs and love kids.
    The third floor sign reads: Floor 3 - These men have jobs, love kids, and
    Are extremely good looking. "Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep
    Going.

    She goes to the fourth floor and sign reads: Floor 4 - These men have jobs,
    Love kids, are drop-dead good looking and help with the housework. "Oh,
    mercy me!" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it!"

    Still, she goes to the fifth floor and sign reads: Floor 5 - These men
    Have jobs, love kids, are drop-dead gorgeous, help with the housework, and
    Have a strong romantic streak.

    She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor and the sign
    Reads: Floor 6 - You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor. There are no
    Men on this floor.. This floor exists solely as proof that women are
    Impossible to please. Thank you for shopping!
  • Dec 12, 2008, 09:58 AM
    Lovelee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by roxypox View Post
    BlackVY: hehe oh there might be. Geez I hope... ;)

    Btw I got a funny email from a friend of mine today:

    (1)FineThis is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.


    (2)Five Minutes:If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.


    (3)Nothing:This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.


    (4)Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!

    (5)Loud Sigh:This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)

    (6)That's Okay:This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

    (7)Thanks:A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome' that will bring on a 'whatever').

    (8)Whatever:Is a woman's way of sayingF--YOU!

    (9)Don't worry about it, I got it:Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to # 3.

    Roxypox that is so funny and yet so incredibly true.
    I don't understand how men just don't get it. I use some of those expressions and my boyfriend simply can't grasp where I'm coming from, which usually leads to an argument later on.
  • Dec 12, 2008, 10:53 AM
    plonak

    I like this post but to be fair there should be one for men!

    Mistake: Trying to control the mans shortcomings and make him a better man

    Corrections: Let go and let God.
  • Dec 12, 2008, 10:54 AM
    kctiger

    Mistake: Women always thinking the man is the problem

    Correction: Perhaps they should look in the mirror for once

    :)
  • Dec 12, 2008, 04:12 PM
    simoneaugie

    Women look into the mirror too much. What they see is all wrong compared to what they see on porn sites and in magazines. They cannot win... except with the person sitting on the couch, doing nothing...
  • Dec 12, 2008, 05:59 PM
    plonak

    Couldn't agree more with Simon..

    Girls see this at very young ages and it's pounded in our brain! And they feel inadequte

    Women and Men ALIKE have their problems.. I get so sick of men whining all the time about women controlling everything.. In fact I'm going to start a post right now about how men screw up relationships./

    FYI I'm not a feminist.. but I get so sick and tired of hearing guys whine and complain about women... face it guys... you'd be lost with out us!!
  • Dec 12, 2008, 06:24 PM
    DoulaLC
    Mistake: Playing out a scenerio in your head of what you expect he will do or how he will respond in a given situation and then being disappointed and hurt when he doesn't follow the script!


    Correction: Stop setting yourself up for disappointment... speak up with what you want/need.
  • Dec 12, 2008, 11:27 PM
    kitten420

    I honestlt think that us women have our little codes because every time we do say how we feel about things men just try to avoid the situation and all the sudden us women are emotional and as you men like to call it "crazy"
    Maybe its not the women that need to do the talking. It's the men that needs to start doing some listening and maybe they need to sit down and shut up for a change and put down that remote control! I also don't understamd that when a women does try to state her feelings a guy tries to either flip the script or he simply acts like he cars for about 2 seconds and goes back to what he was doing.
  • Dec 12, 2008, 11:34 PM
    kitten420

    One mistake that I believe a lot of women make is that they tend to think less of themselves all the time and no man likes a woman that is always downing herself. Confidence is key and men love a confident woman.
  • Dec 12, 2008, 11:38 PM
    Justwantfair

    Mistake: Revolving their life around the man in their life.

    Correction: Don't give up the things that you enjoy as women alone, it helps ensure yourself confidence and independence.

    Think we see all too much of this out there.
  • Dec 13, 2008, 01:05 AM
    Starbucks21

    Mistake: Talking to him every second of every day with text messages/emails/phone calls

    You pretty much know how his day is going if you just talked to him 5 minutes ago

    Correction: Put down the phone (being any device that can receive and send a voice signal and/or text message)

    Pull the plug on the computer. (being any device that can receive this/or some form)

    Limit yourself to short contact and maybe a phone call a day... He'll probably chase you more. Answer :p
  • Dec 18, 2008, 02:11 PM
    roxypox

    So true about the expectations. he he. women do have a tendency to make up scenarios in their heads, but like true faith said, doesn't guys do something similar?

    And the self image thing... it can get pretty bad for some people. It is pretty important to remember that the person you are with is more often then not with you b\c of your personality AND looks.

    Hehe and starbucks is right on the money with the calling, texting etc. :P
  • Dec 18, 2008, 02:26 PM
    liz28

    I guess my mistake would be wanting my fiancé to turn the football game off sometimes. And limit his sport intake and realize life isn't over if the giants doesn't win the super bowl.

    Next would be expecting him to do the laundry correctly. I done showed him a thousand of times on how to use our washing machine but he still don't get it. He pretending not to know how to to use it, maybe, but I know that last time he did it he turned all my white stuff pink.

    Mistake, was me asking him to open up and expressed his feelings. Now he can't stop and sometimes I want to say shut up however I do say it in my head.
  • Dec 18, 2008, 03:01 PM
    roxypox

    my dad did the laundry once and he ended up ruining a pair of pants that belongs to my sister and after that my mom made a rule: NO ONE!!!! does the laundry except me!

    I made some mistakes in with my x boyfriend... we lived together and I was pretty much a WOW widow... I made the mistake of thinking that I could get him to step away from his game and go out with the garbage :P


    another mistake I made... I never respected the fact that he likes to have a tidy house. I just threw my stuff around and left it for days until I cleaned it up. (I was a lucky gal though, he did 60\70 percent of the cleaning I did the rest :P)
  • Dec 18, 2008, 04:22 PM
    liz28

    Yeah, the video game is another issue. I can't get too mad because I play it too but I play a variety of games instead of one. All he does is play Madden 09. I used to be stuck on Grand Theft Auto but now all I play is Wii and Guitar Hero. I even went and brought the complete rock band set for everyone to play.
  • Dec 18, 2008, 04:30 PM
    roxypox

    Hehe yeah that was our problem as well... he was totally consumed with Wow! I Played a little, but I could be 'consumed' for a week and then I didn't play for weeks, months and then I played for a week and so on. I like variation
  • Dec 18, 2008, 11:24 PM
    TrueFaith

    World of warcraft for me lucky enough I got my girl into it hehe
  • Dec 19, 2008, 03:18 AM
    roxypox

    hehe yeah that is pretty lucky, my x got me into it at first as well, but I don't have enough interest or game 'stamina' to keep it up in the long run :p
  • Dec 19, 2008, 03:27 AM
    artlady

    One mistake I've seen with younger women in particular is giving their all to a man and losing them self in the process.
    They live only to please their mate and they become clingy and possessive.
    You must be happy and healthy by yourself before you can be so in a relationship.
  • Dec 19, 2008, 04:24 AM
    liz28
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by TrueFaith View Post
    World of warcraft for me lucky enough I got my girl into it hehe

    Your lucky because one of my exes was into those types of games and tried to get me into it, but I couldn't get into it.
  • Dec 19, 2008, 04:30 AM
    liz28

    I don't know if this was already said but another mistake some women make is having babies with guys that they know aren't any good but they still have babies with them in hopes that they will change. However that doesn'e happen but then they want to complain about them being a deadbeat. Duh, you knew that before hand.
  • Dec 19, 2008, 07:27 AM
    jmw0713

    OK. I have two more.

    Mistake: Women always trying to change their man, so they are perfect to them

    Correction: Accept your man's flaws and either deal with them or find someone more suited for you.



    Mistake: Women trying to let there BF down easy during a break up.

    Correction: Be straight and honest and tell them how it is. None of this "I need space...", "We need a break...", "I'm confused...." What the heck does any of that mean?

    Instead just say "I don't love you anymore. We need to break-up" Simple, plain, blunt, and honest. No reason for hope there.

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