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More info, you know better.
No not my ex, a girl who I recently met who wants me but wants to end it with her current bfriend before she wants anything to happen... she would have done it sooner only he got final exams...Quote:
Originally Posted by talaniman
So to a women is a few two/three?
I wouldn't even talk to her. NEVER date a girl in this kind of circumstance... NEVER!!
Why?Quote:
Originally Posted by kctiger
Sounds like she is leading you on. I would use whatever time it is to seriously think about if this is the type of relationship you would want to be in.
Because it sets up poorly for you. If she can just leave someone for you that quickly, do you honestly think she is relationship material? Nothing good can come of this, nothing. I don't care how you spin it. I have seen this before, and it is bad news.
If she's shopping at other stores when she is already a preferred customer at another place, do you really think she won't continue to do it?
You aren't even the latest, I bet she has a few guys dangling on this line.
She is for sure a midnight madness shopper.
I call people like this monkeys... they won't let go of one branch before they have a grasp on another.
Do ye reckon she will come for me or is she just playing me?
I asked her did she want me, she replied yes of course I do, do you want me?
She told me I will hear from here in a few weeks when she sorts out all her crap...
What do ye think?
Of course she wants you on some level... for now.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mac Lovin
But people always tell you who they are, and their past behaviour is a great indicator of future behaviour. Take my ex for example. I knew early on that she'd had more boyfriends (although the vast majority were non-sexual owing to age) than any other woman around our age I'd met (of who's relationship history I was aware) and that she had a hard time maintaining relationships in the long-run as she had dumped all of them eventually, even if the longevity varied and she'd never cheated. I tried hard, we worked well for a long time but eventually I ended up where all the rest of the guys were even if it lasted longer than them.
Don't ignore past behaviour, because people don't change who they fundamentally are without major effort and introspection. She will almost certainly do the same to you that she is doing to him.
May be she's bored of the current relationship and wanted someone who really cares. So go ahead but don't show much curiousity and even if she's playing with u, if u love her truly, love can turn even make a stone cry
First of all, there is no way you LOVE her yet. If you do, then you are a complete fool! I don't mean to sound harsh, but protect yourself. Maybe she's board of the current relationship?? Are you kidding me? We call those people that jump from relationship to relationship when they get 'bored' whores! Guys and girls! Take offense if you want, but don't buy into all this BS...
Respected kctiiger
You can never make a general statement about a person, you haven't even met or talked. It may differ from person to person. I think u had a tough experience, but it can be a different case here
I am talking about character in general. It is the same for everyone. You DO NOT want to be the guy who breaks up another relationship. That isn't a healthy way to start a relationship, period.
But have you thought that the guy who is in relationship with the girl can be a playboy. There is a possibility of that
The guy in this instance isn't the one who is cheating. The girl is cheating on her current boyfriend right now, maybe not physically, but emotionally. So, I ask you, would you want a cheater to break up with her boyfriend so you could date her?
Almost every other person in this world is a cheater.
I ask you that even if u get a perfect girl, is there any guarantee for her to remain the same throughout her life?
What are you saying? You think every other person in the world is a cheater? Why would you take a chance on a proven cheater, when there are other girls out there without a boyfriend who have NEVER cheated? He needs to be looking out for himself, and not chasing a girl with a boyfriend already. That is classless on both himself and her.
Wow that is a huge generalization... I guess I have more hope in humanity then you do. People do change... and there is not such thing as a perfect girl or guy for that matter!Quote:
Originally Posted by satswid
Sorry for that comment. But it was just to show you that we cannot generalise anything without proper knowledge.
I never generalized anything. I am speaking and giving my advice off general knowledge and experience of my own or of people I know. It is the job of people who give advice on this forum to help others and as much as possible, to protect them from getting hurt. I call it like I see it... however that is why I tell people not to take offense, as it is MY OPINION, and nothing more. That and a buck will get you a cup of coffee.
Thanks for your advice. But let me tell u something before that
Just a few minutes back you said
"I am talking about character in general. It is the same for everyone"
And now you say "I never generalized anything.".
Maybe you need that advice much more than I do,
Thanks
You said I was generalizing when I referred to people jumping from relationship to relationship were whores, not when I said the character comment. Character is the same for everyone... I guess I should make it clear for your brain to comprehend: Character is about morality and right and wrong, in which case you can generalize that to the ENTIRE HUMAN race!
So, for example:
Generally, anyone who has negative feedback on this board gives extremely poor advice and clearly needs to re-evaluate their position on things. (Generalization that may not be fair of users such as yourself)
Generally, anyone who cheats or jumps from relationship to relationship has poor character (Generalization that is pretty true)
Get it now?
Ok, I agree with u on that. But will it be good for him to just reject her before even knowing her character and just because the world says so?
I have to spread the rep but KC is right. People who jump from relationship to relationship are what we call "rebounders" they do this to avoid dealing with the pain and rarely do those relationships work out because they are carrying emotional baggage from another relationship into the next one.
She is cheating on her current boyfriend! I don't know why you don't see that. That is my issue with this entire situation.
I know she is cheating with her current boyfriend and it can be due to her nature and character, but it can also be a case that her boyfriend deserves it
Nobody ever deserves to be cheated on! Just end the relationship before you cheat, never stoop to someone else's level
Two wrongs = right... wait a minute, no... that's not right!
And maybe the reason for their splitting could be a mutual decision. Thenk where's the question of cheating?
How old are you? If she has been seeing this guy (the OP) and has an obvious connection with him enough to break up with her current boyfriend, then she is cheating...
I said it could be a mutual decision, means may be both of them have intentions for the breakup, and if they both decide to break up, no one is cheated, all three characters are safe.
Having said that, I also agree that I am supporting someone I don't even know, I know I could be wrong as I cannot judge anyone like this, but even other people cannot oppose her and decide something against her character without having sufficient knowledge.
I have sufficient knowledge because I have seen the other posts the OP has posted regarding this topic. Have you read the other threads he has started?
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Your right KC, the OP is still fresh from his long term relationship break up, as will be the new girl in a few weeks, after Christmas, and New Years, more than likely, and even if both have good characters, its still a rebound relationship for them both, and I really doubt if either of them is emotionally ready for a relationship at this time.
Dating as friends maybe, but waiting for someone to be available is a red flag in my book.
At some point you have to give yourself some healing time, not just jump from relationship to relationship. That's fair to no one.
I would think twice before getting involved with any one, fresh from a break up, just me.
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Ok just got back with my girlfriend of 4 years and I'm delighted, we were off 10 weeks and it was the worst period of my life were everything suffered... now she says that she wants to go on a girls holiday to the sun... I told her that I don't mind her going away for weekends shopping and stuff but I do have an issue with her going away on a sun holiday with girls whom most are single as these arnt things you do when you are in a relationship?
Advice please?
There is obviously not much trust in your relationship. If there was, you would have no problem with her going on a vacation with her friends. If you can't trust her, you aren't communicating, and your relationship is bound to fail again. There is nothing wrong with a group of friends, male or female, going on a vacation. What is wrong, is that you don't trust her to do that. You are setting yourself up if you tell her she can't or shouldn't go.
I agree with STARBUCK totally on this one. Trust is one of the most imortant things you need in a relationship.
If you really want this to work, you should start trusting her and tell her to go and enjoy herself with her friends- just because your in a relatonship, does not mean you can't enjoy time with friends.
Perhaps you can have a nice chat with her, and offer your support and maybe she will respect you trusting her- you never know she may even get you a nice present from her hoilday trip!
If you can't trust her- then you should not be in a relationship with her- best to let her go and let her be free. It is the kindest thing you can do.
Let her go, what's the big deal??
My man, you are in for a rude awakening if you think you can control the actions of your girlfriend, especially if it is a "girls" weekend. Quit acting like a child and let her go do her thing. My ex went to VEGAS for crying out loud, and she was the only one who had a boyfriend at the time, the rest of her girls were single. Do you think I would have come in between that? NO! Pick your fights wisely, and learn to temper your trust issues. Let the girl go do her thing, and you should also be able to enjoy a "man" weekend while she is gone...Quote:
Originally Posted by Mac Lovin
Carry on... :cool:
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