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  • Sep 16, 2008, 07:41 AM
    Romefalls19
    Nope it won't... It shows your not going to take the mind games anymore, and that you are better off not even seeing her page
  • Sep 16, 2008, 07:55 AM
    bigbird213
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Jay_Bird
    but by deleting her myspace

    won't that show that she got to me????????????

    My opinion...

    If she is going to read into it that way, and think that she has "gotten to you" or "won the game" then she is too immature for your interests anyway. If someone is going to act that petty, they don't deserve you anyway...
  • Sep 16, 2008, 08:03 AM
    happy_jester
    Quote:

    I don't want her to know that she got to me
    I can understand that would hurt your feelings,BUT is it not better,to preserve
    Your health,to maintain no contact with her?
  • Sep 16, 2008, 09:53 AM
    busterite
    Quote:

    but by deleting her myspace

    Won't that show that she got to me??
    All it will show is your determination to cut all ties. So what do you think is more worth it:
    1. Keeping her on myspace to make her think she is not getting to you but in reality not being able to move on because you keep on checking on her and falling for her mind games?
    OR
    2. Deleting her from myspace and never letting her hurt you ever again, and which will give you the time you need to get over this?

    You might feel that by deleting her from myspace you are accepting defeat but isn't it worth it if you are going to spare yourself pain similar to the one you feel every time you check upon her? You are in control here and you are the only one responsible for letting her get to you.
  • Sep 16, 2008, 11:58 AM
    Jay_Bird
    I'm going to do it

    For some strange reason though I think this could be her way to get at me

    Cause she was talking so much about how she is not ready for a relationship

    And now all of a sudden she has a boyfriend

    And its weird,how on her friends comments

    Her friends was like "I think you should change your status cause your not single anymore"
  • Sep 16, 2008, 12:16 PM
    bigbird213
    That's the exact reason to get rid of it.. Nothing you will ever find on her myspace will make you feel better...

    If it says she's dating someone, you will be miserable..
    If it says she is miserable (chances are) you will be miserable...

    Just ditch the damn thing...
  • Sep 16, 2008, 03:32 PM
    Jay_Bird
    I fixed it on myspace where I didn't delete her

    But I designed it to where,I could not see her profile at all

    I don't hate her,but I really dislike her actions

    She use to call me immature... but this was really a crazy move

    Her relationship with this guy is not going to work at all,they hooked up too fast
  • Sep 16, 2008, 03:59 PM
    jjwoodhull
    Good for you! Now put your energy into something positive.
  • Sep 16, 2008, 04:02 PM
    wikedjuggalo
    Good move, Don't leave space for you to see anything like that. It will only drive you insane. You took a step in the right direction.
  • Sep 19, 2008, 11:43 AM
    Jay_Bird
    Well its been a week and a half of me not talking to her

    Come to find out the guy that she is dating now,was her best friend cousin she met at a quinceanera(sorry if I didn't spell that right)

    She hooked up with him a few days after we got into that argument


    The weird thing is,the guy doesn't even really live were we live,because he works out of town all the time,sometimes he works out of state

    Do you guys think that this will work out?

    Its just funny because she was lip locking with me,a week before all this...
  • Sep 19, 2008, 01:50 PM
    Jay_Bird
    ^
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  • Sep 19, 2008, 02:07 PM
    BrewCrew0981
    What difference does it make if it works out? Let go and move on.
  • Sep 20, 2008, 04:15 PM
    Jay_Bird
    I'm feeling better everyday I really do,it don't take long for me to get over a person 2 to 3 weeks at the most

    But I have one more question

    Do you think this is a rebound relationship

    Something for her to do,to get over me,over the on and off relationship me and her have?
  • Sep 20, 2008, 04:28 PM
    jjwoodhull
    Seriously, Jay, it doesn't matter what their relationship is. You need to get out with friends and start meeting new girls. There is someone so much better out there! :)
  • Sep 20, 2008, 06:53 PM
    BrewCrew0981
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by jjwoodhull View Post
    Seriously, Jay, it doesn't matter what their relationship is. You need to get out with friends and start meeting new girls. There is someone so much better out there!!:)

    I agree with this. Does it really matter? No, it doesn't. She is with someone else. If you want to take solace in the fact that 95% of rebounds never work out, go for it. But, that shouldn't matter. Why do you care/want someone he jumps into bed with a new guy anyway? My ex has done it. While it hurts, I now never want her back.
  • Sep 25, 2008, 09:54 AM
    Jay_Bird
    Its been 16 days of nc

    And I know I won't be going back

    I'm not going to be going back to something that will only keep causing me pain

    I just want to think you guys for helping me out

    This is just a end of a chapter and a begenning to a new one,thanks guys
  • Sep 25, 2008, 10:05 AM
    DonaldM_23
    You made two mistakes, 1. You ask her if she is in love with you. 2. Your reaction to question number 1 show she is in control. To tell you the honest truth, she is not ready for a relationship right now. This is what she wants a FWB (Friend With Benefits). In this situation she knows when ever she needs a little physical TLC your there. When she needs a little shoulder to lay on your there. When ever she needs a friend, your there. You have two chooses here; You can either let her be by cutting all ties or you can keep it on a friendship level. When you get emotions involve get ready to be hurt. Remember your more in control than you think. Keep me updated
  • Sep 25, 2008, 11:47 AM
    jjwoodhull
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Jay_Bird View Post
    its been 16 days of nc

    and I know I won't be going back

    I'm not going to be going back to something that will only keep causing me pain

    I just want to think you guys for helping me out

    this is just a end of a chapter and a begenning to a new one,thanks guys

    Glad to hear your doing well! :)
  • Sep 25, 2008, 12:49 PM
    Jay_Bird
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by DonaldM_23 View Post
    You made two mistakes, 1. You ask her if she is in love with you. 2. Your reaction to question number 1 show she is in control. To tell you the honest truth, she is not ready for a relationship right now. This is what she wants a FWB (Friend With Benefits). In this situation she knows when ever she needs a little physical TLC your there. When she needs a little shoulder to lay on your there. When ever she needs a friend, your there. You have two chooses here; You can either let her be by cutting all ties or you can keep it on a friendship level. When you get emotions involve get ready to be hurt. Remember your more in control than you think. Keep me updated


    Nope,its not good for me to be friends with her right now

    I wish her the best with this new relationship she is in

    But I can tell it's a wirlwind relationship,they already talking about how bad they miss each other only been 2 weeks,it will eventually crash and burn,and fast as it started

    My friend is like a guru when it comes to relationships,he told me about wirlwhind relationships,lmao

    I'm so close to being over her,that I know when this month is wrapped up,I will be just fine

    Sometimes you just got to let go

    Maybe a couple of months from now me and her could be friends,but I'm not ready for that right now
  • Sep 25, 2008, 03:33 PM
    candybaby9

    It sounds like you have way more feelings for her than she does for you. Don't look back and find someone who loves you as much as you love her.
  • Sep 30, 2008, 02:55 PM
    Jay_Bird
    Its been 21 days of nc


    What's weird though... I just got a private call from someone

    I picked up,and heard a little music in the background but no one said a word

    None of my friends ever call me private

    I wonder if that was her...

    Oh well nc has been good to me,I sometimes hit those waves were I think about her,but its starting to go numb though

    I have been working out,and have learned from all my past mistakes
  • Sep 30, 2008, 03:04 PM
    wikedjuggalo
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Jay_Bird View Post
    its been 21 days of nc


    whats weird though.........I just got a private call from someone

    I picked up,and heard a little music in the background but no one said a word

    none of my friends ever call me private

    I wonder if that was her.............

    oh well nc has been good to me,I sometimes hit those waves were I think about her,but its starting to go numb though

    I have been working out,and have learned from all my past mistakes

    That's good man keep trucking as we all are. Sooner rather then later you will be over this.
  • Oct 1, 2008, 02:42 PM
    DonaldM_23
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Jay_Bird View Post
    but by deleting her myspace

    won't that show that she got to me????????????


    I don't want her to know that she got to me

    what you guys think?

    Let me tell you man to man... Move on case close, don't worry about what she would think or myspace or Facebook etc. Do your own thing and let her be.

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