So I should flat out ask him what his intentions are? So I do not have to assume especially since we already sleep w/each other...

Absolutely!! Since when is having sex a commitment?? We fellows do tend to get sloppy when sex is involved. Hmmmm, so do females.

Clear the air, so you both can make a decision based on facts.

Thanks so much for responses.. 1 more question do you think I might have ruined the possibility of having something serious w/him because we slept together... can my actions that I do now give me another chance..?

Right now your just friends or maybe dating with a big question mark. He's not obligated to call you everyday nor call. You stated he's a lawyer so he might be busy.

The only difference between messing around with him or another random guy is that if things don't end up how you want it to, can you face him again because he's your best friend brother.

If you truly want to know where you stand with him then ask but be prepared for any answer and again if he state he don't want a relationship, then its up to you for what road you take.

Mkay... lets get back on the subject and away from bickering among respectable AMHD members...

So... you most likely had "rebound" sex with a guy you know and trust and there is clearly a charge there. Fine.

If a persons says "im not looking for a relationship"... id trust that. Period.

As interesting as he is, as good of a connection you have, as much of a history you have together knowing each other... I really would make him chase you down.

And then, id make sure you knew what you wanted, and he knew what you wanted.

You didn't go to the local dive and sleep with the first guy who bought you a drink.

But even if he is a "great catch"... if he doesn't want to be caught, it's a waste of time.

Unless casual sex with a person you trust and have a connection with is fine for now.

No judgement here. Its all up to you. I've abstained for dumb reasons and had sex for dumb reasons. No rocks thrown by me.

kp2171-thanks I felt some members were throwing rocks@me too... lol yes I want to be chased & to be honest alcohol did not help the situation because after it happened I got teary eyed because I know outcome of sleeping w/a guy w/no commitment...

Like I said my plan is to refrain from sex w/me if he attempts I will tell him how I feel... thanks everyone for input :)