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My Ex left me once for about a month... I got used to being without him and was hanging out with friends and was moving on... Then he came back telling me it would never happened again.. blah blah blah... I accepted him... now he dumped me again!. fool me once shame on you, fool me twice SHAME ON ME!. w.e... I'm better off without him any ways!. :D
Yes u are! My ex dumped me 3 times - ALL BY TEXT! What does that make me? Hahaha
Yes it sounds like yor are better off without him.Quote:
Originally Posted by damaged
We are all better off without people are aren't going to give as much as we do!
There is a DJ on a morning show around here who has mentioned, more than once, that there is no such thing as a 50/50 relationship. He claims that all relationships are 55/45 or 60/40 etc etc...Quote:
Originally Posted by srulik86
He states that it is never good to be the higher end person - you should always be the one on the lower side. Now I'm sure some of you will disagree, and state that 50/50 relationships do exist (as in each person cares equally, one person doesn't love more or better than the other), but the point is the same. If you love more than someone else, you have more to lose and therefore are in a worse position...
Not sure I buy the argument, but its something that makes you think.
bigbird213 I am not sure I like that point of view either even if the DJ was right. Sounds like he has been burnt too.
I get so intense when I like someone I cannot imagine ever being the one on the lower side.
Me too. At first I am always the one that is the higher and not as fussed, then usually one day I switch and become very intense... something I really need to work on.
For some reason I agree with that DJ... my mom told me all the time.. He who loves more, looses more... & I think its true... In my opinionn 1 person loves or is more committed than the other one---->l.. I guess I was the higher end person.:rolleyes:
Next time I need to be the one on the lower side...
I too always start at the lower end but as soon as they tell me they love me then I totally flip the other way.
I feel you!. lol
At the moment I'm going through the anger stage! I keep getting angry every time I think about her... angry at how she used me, how she let this go and how she just doenst realise! I think I'm on te right trac to recovery :)
I know how you feel...
Wait till she realizes what she lost!.
Yes I think you are on the right track to recovery. Now get out there and hand out those flyers and get those posters up sport ; )
Haha cheers buddy! Well I did it! I managed to get all the posters up! At long last! Keep staying strong buddy! As for her realising she claims she did realise what she lost 2 months ago when she started breaking down in tears in front of me... obviously she didn't REALLY realise and I hope someday she does and when she does ill reject her!. hopefully!
srulik86 I hear you mate, hear you lound and clear.
Well put Sadsack.
Exactly! I wudnt want to her back. And if I'm honest I just want her to be feelinmg ty like I am feeling! If I knoew she was feeling like crap then id be happy... wel not happy... but at least id feel something other than what I'm feeling.
I know.. I don't wish bad things to other people because I'm not like that.. but I think they deserve to feel like we feel... Is not a good feeling at all... but you know what don't worry about it, because right now they may be laughing or w.e but one day they will go through this crap... then they will realize how we felt... KARMA baby!. (*evil laugh*)
Just so you know: Im a dork!. lol
Hahaha your the best dork there is! Uve just put a smile on my face!
Awww.. thx... always glad to help :D
I've been out with my mate today, and was looking thorugh his sketch book... so many things he wrote I could relate with... al about his life, his girlfriend etc... heres someone I thought was so happy... I may av been wrong. But speaking of happy, 2 months ago I was at the highest of happiness. Ieverything career wise was going amazing, I had my girl, my bdan was on TV, everything was great and I couldn't av been more happier... thats when I got scared, I was just wiating for things to fall apart and stupidly rocked the boat and things did start to fall apart. I went out last night, spoke to afew girls in clubs, but nothing felt right. I just want to be with my ex... yet saying that I could never trust her again.
I know you you feel. I am at school at the moment so I can't IM you. But I can identify with the way you are feeling mate. It sucks. So what are you doing today? Are you being good to yourself?Quote:
Originally Posted by srulik86
Hey buddy,
I'm all good. I'm going out tonight. I went out last night and I just couldn't get it into my head that me and her are really over. It just wudnt sink in last night, I was thinking 'is she serious? Does she seriously want nothing to do with me ever again?' I wanted to text her and say 'look I'm not asking you back, just you need dto know that one day u WILL regret letting us go and will realise!' but there's no point in my sending that. I just want to spend my night with her 2nitem, but instead I'm seeing friends which will be cool, but id rather be snuggled up in bed with her. I just feel like I'm not making any progress.
Mate you are making progress. You wanted to text her but you did not. That is progress. I felt the same way yesterday.Quote:
Originally Posted by srulik86
Just remember we are all doing this one day at a time. You are not alone. We are all sucking wind at the moment but we will be okay with time. YOu are a source of inspiration to me. Keep letting us know you feel. I know it hurts like blazes but that's okay and normal. YOu are a good person. Hang in there mate.
Just keep going. Its not easy, but you will come out the other end of the tunnel your in now.
Ooo witchywoman,
I like what Damaged said about making a doll out of her,
Let me know if you want an authentic voodoo doll in her image,lol!
Feel better it takes time
Haha thank you witchywoman!
I actually came on here at 3:30am this morning after a night out ready to rant about my ex... f104 got it on msn haha... sorry buddy!
But I've just had enough, I went out last night,saw my friends and the goirls were euther getting their breatst out much to the annoyance of their bfs, every couple there had an augment by the end of the night and were all miserable with each other and the girls I did talk to all had bfs... which made me think 'how can I ever trust a girl?' and not only that but is there really such thing as love. I'm a big romantic, and a big flirt, but when I av a girl in my life who I love oim compltly devoted to her, I just, after my bad experience with women, don't think I can ever trust another woman again. Why is it that after a night out couples must argue, why do some girlsscream for guys attention by flashing or talking to other guys whilst their bfs aren't about
I just don't think I can ever love/trust again afterf being hurt so bad by all my ex;s especially my previous, but I don't want to end up alone but know I will with this mentality.
Try something new and different, like volunteer work at a local hospital. Trust me after seeing others who are in need and have issues, you'll get a much clearer, and healthier perspective of life.
Your lousy love life, is not the only thing happening around you, and you must open your eyes, to see it.
Yep your right! But being surrounded by EVERYONE in a couple it makes me think that's what I should be doing, being in a relationship. Like it's the 'done thing'. And I know it isn't, which is why I just want to get out and away from everyone in these couples. I spent 3 years in college with everyone paire dup except me, noe I'm out of college all my mates and I mean ALL of them are who keep bringing their girls out. Wudnt say I'm jeaous, but its depressing.
Sorry guys I just feel so low at the moment. I really really miss her, and want to just be the way things were which I know is just not the case. All my friends av their own lives now, who I rarely see and when I do I just get to see the coiuples rub it in my face. I just feel so lonely at the moment. My best mate is in another country and won't be back for ages. I just want to call her and have a chat. I just want to av a laugh again and smile again. A month ago I wa son top of the world. I had everything.. now I feel like I don't av anything.
Hi Srulik,
I am so sorry that you are feeling so sad. I know it is hard, and I know how you feel. My friends are all married and have moved to different states. I am basically alone here. I miss my ex so much. I love him with all of my heart, and it is so tough. I try and keep myself busy, but there are days were I have no 'get up and go'. We all must keep ourselves occupied, especially when our friends are in relationships or not around. We have to be our own best company. I know that sucks, but we have to some how do this. Do you have any hobbies or things that you would like to do that you have never done before?
I actually used to love spedning time with myself and am one for doing that and can av fun on my own, but since splitting with her she is all I can think about. I'm a trained actor, recently graduated, and so kind of doing the networking, writingletters, auditioning and setting up my own company with my mates which is awsome. But she is an actress too, in her first year so my only thoghts of drama school are of her now which is really sad and every time I go back, which I do at least once a week for dance, and seeing friends, I see her and that gets me down. I would really love to travel to america but I really av no money at all. I really want to read more, would lovbe to join a baseball/softball team... and above all, meet someone new. Like you said I just don't av the get up and go sometimes. But I need to drive myself and be who I was before I met her, a very confident young actor, driven, hard working and happy with my station in life. But now I just feel low, I've never felt so alone in my life. I just want to do something life changing and stop feeling that I should be like my friends who have steady jobs and settled down with their girls. Right that's it! Today I'm going to write the rest of my play, going to read a book and sig up to join a baseball team. I'm currently working so I'm getting money which is nice. I'm not saying I even want my ex back because I don't think I could ever trust her again, but I just miss her company so much.
I hate to be such a MOTHER, on FATHER'S day, but getting off the pity pot, and getting some action going, even if its cleaning your mirrors is what you need.
ACTIONS, NOT WORDS.
Yep your right buddy, had a good chat with a friend earlier who put a lot of things in perspective, going to go do what I want to do.
AGGHHHH! I was just on Facebook and a friend added a video from college, which I watched and my bloody ex is in it! AND now she's all ing up my mind! Agghh! I want to contact her, but I just know I shudnt. And wats worse is in 2 weeks I have to go watch my student films and she'll bloody be there! I don't want her back but I miss her like mad. I just got to ride the seas!
Srulik mate don't do it. Man my computer at home is down at the moment or I would IM you.
Hang in there mate.
Cheers buddy. I won't. Its just s hard... knowing she is out there and knowing watshe is doing and seeing her happy.
Well then you should try to be happy too!. Its hard, but you got to try.. Smile even if you don't feel like it.. lol... you"ll see you'll end up felling better afterwards :)... I've tried it..
Hi Srulik,
Everyone is right. Try and do something that will make you happy! I wouldn't contact your ex though, because even at the moment you feel good talking with her, when the converstation is over, you will feel miserable. You are doing so well, try not to give in!
I won't! I really won't! I just had news on a big audition today and its horrible because I want to share the news with her. Though I'm sure it has got back to her since I told mutual friends. I couldn't have her back, I just miss her.
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