I'm not sure, she just felt the need to separate me from the situation, so that it wouldn't effect our relationship at all.. which is my understanding of it.
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I'm not sure, she just felt the need to separate me from the situation, so that it wouldn't effect our relationship at all.. which is my understanding of it.
Sweetie, that is what I am concerned with. She "felt the need to separate you from the situation". What situation is she referring to?
The one in her family, it involves her dad, and if he gets his way she has to live with him.
You sound pretty affected to me.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wiggy22
Well I mean the break is affecting me, but to her, having to deal with moving would have really hurt our relationship, just telling me we need a break just kind of.. I guess placed us on pause.. and I doubt she'll get another partner, I'm taking her word for it, and I'm going to allow her time to sort things out in her family.. and if she does get into another relationship, then I'll have learned a lesson.
If she did move in with her dad, is that far from you? Maybe that is why she broke things off with you, because she is moving further away from where you live?Quote:
Originally Posted by Wiggy22
I feel for you, it's a tough situation, that's why I say stay busy with other things as it works out.
Yeah its further, but the chances of her being taken away are highly unlikely.. and what would happen would she'd have to live with her dad for the remainder of the summer.. which is why I think she told me we needed this break.. I honestly believe what she was telling me about us getting back together.. she's just going through a stressful time.
Yeah its further, but the chances of her being taken away are highly unlikely.. and the most likely thing to happen would be she'd have to live with her dad for the remainder of the summer.. which is why I think she told me we needed this break.. I honestly believe what she was telling me about us getting back together.. she's just going through a stressful time.
That is what it sounds like to me. Just hang in there as best as you can, and keep us posted. You will be fine, too :)
Will do, I just want it work out where we're together in the end.
Stop thinking about YOU! She's crying out for your help. She's been saying she's stressed, so mabe she just couldn't handle everything. Just try to help her with her "stress" and I'm sure you guys will be back together in no time!
Thanks 99, the only way I could contact her was through a myspace message, in which I told her I still loved her and didn't want to lose her, and after this thing has settled, ill still be here for her... I don't know if it was the right thing to do, I just felt it was something I had to tell her.
Going to work on my dads farm, try to keep busy and clear my head..
Not really. All I said was that a break up never killed anyone. It hurt several of us more times than we like in life, but we still survived and live on.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wiggy22
A break does not always mean for ever.. You just need to learn to cope with the time you have on your hands without constantly being pre-occupied with her and fearing that you might loose her if not around - that's called insecurity. If you have a lot going for each other, and she is of the age where she can still be forced to live with one of her parents - then you can wait until she is legally able to make her own choices - and just let her know that you will support her and will be there for her when she needs you. But please don't make anyone the center of your universe - that makes you very vulnerable - which is not healthy.
I wish you the best of luck, keep busy, and don't drag yourself down over something you have no control over.
Good luck dear.
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Originally Posted by Chery
Hi Chery,
Excellent advise. I have to try that for myself too. For the past 4 years, he was the center of my universe
I couldn't help it, this was like my first serious relationships, all the other ones were just like.. hey, lets have sex, and that was it.. basically just a sexual partner, but her.. she's the only real one I've ever had feelings for.
Only on my second day of no contact, I really want to talk to her :S.. I mean I really just want to ask her how she feels about me now.
If she isn't contacting you leave her alone, especially for a selfish reason like that.Quote:
I really just want to ask her how she feels about me now.
Boy do you sound insecure!Quote:
Originally Posted by Wiggy22
One way we can find out more about ourselves, is to be able to hang around with ourselves, and discover the things we like about or dislike about ourselves... COPE with being alone first before forcing yourself on others.
Once you like who you are, then you can be secure in sharing yourself with others.
I don't know if it's still in print, but see if you can find a book called:
''How to be your own best friend'' - because essentially that's what we all need to do before expecting others to like us and believe they are being sincere. If you fear that 'out of sight, out of mind' is what will happen, you don't really like who you are yet.
Don't look for reassurance from others, look in the mirror and work on it yourself - you are still young and have plenty of time finding and being secure in what you found.
Good luck.
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Hey guys, its been a while since I've updated you all.. but.. the relationship ended.. im sure it was because she wanted her ex boyfriend back.. but I'm fine, I'm fully over it, and I've moved on to another girl.
She may not be comfortable with having a boyfriend, or maybe she just needs some time to think. If you're her first long time boyfriend she may want to see what else is out there, I'm sure she really does love you though.
Sorry I didn't read what you wrote before me but its good that your over it I guess.
RED FLAG! You really ticked me off with that statement... after crying and professing love and now this!Quote:
Originally Posted by Wiggy22
Oh, boy, here we go again. You are so 'sure' it's because of the 'other guy'. Well, if you need an excuse, that's the one all of you guys always use.. You are not being fair to the poor other girl either - because you have not worked on yourself and will cling to her too. Rebound relationships are not honest and in my opinion disrespectful to the new girl.
Be honest with yourself, you were insecure and reflected this to her - she also has to do what her parents tell her to do and has probably just as much fear, confusion and frustration in her life as you do - and you added to it. The way you act, any girl with sense will drop you... you are too clingy.
Get a life, stop making another person the center of your universe and get to know yourself better. From what I can read, the only thing that makes you tick is when you are jumping on and clinging to another person - I repeat... this is NOT HEALTHY.
You freaked out after two days without her?? Again, no wonder it's over...
Now, read the first four stickies in the relationship's section and start working on some self-respect and grow up. Sorry to sound so harsh, but you really need a kick in the rear to wake up and start respecting yourself and others instead of jumping from one girl to the other.
Good luck.
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Haha, no, I'm sure it was her ex.. and I've got quite a life.. this new girl, I didn't mean I had jumped into a relationship with her, I waited until I felt like I was over the first girl.. it turned out it wasn't family issues after all.. it was just she wanted her ex back, and she got him.. anyway.. I didn't mean I started a relationship with this new girl, its just that I'm getting to know her better..
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