If you can't make yourself stop listening/reading from him, make sure you ARE still going out as often as possible having fun with your friends like you already mentioned. Do more of that... a LOT more.
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If you can't make yourself stop listening/reading from him, make sure you ARE still going out as often as possible having fun with your friends like you already mentioned. Do more of that... a LOT more.
I'm going through a similar situation. My man told me he needs time. I always find myself wanting to text or call, but recently I have not and that has hin calling to check up on me. If you fail to show him how vulnerable you truly are and how much you want him back, he may open his eyes. Like the old saying goes: You don't know what you have until it's gone. If he doesn't come around, maybe your better off. Just don't give him the satisfaction to know how bad your hurting.
Let me say this : I don't think changing your number is the way to go.Why go into all this trouble of changing numbers and informing everyone just so you can avoid someone?It shows that someone has all this power on you and your life even after the break.F that.I'm not going to change my life around so that I can avoid anyone.Just don't answer.Simple,no?
I say again,this whole deal is a chance for a trip inside yourself.Unpleasant thoughts always find someway to your mind,making you wonder who's really in control,you over your mind or your mind over you?And which is which?.
It's going to be a sucky time,that's a given.Why not make something out of it,like working out like crazy?
Personally I've been windsurfing like crazy,playing tennis,swimming,going to the gym,going for long runs etc.Sure beats staying in all the time feeling like sh!t.. I strongly recommend taking care of your body,it will help feel better in general.I have been receiving a lot of interest from women,and although I'm really not interested in any of them right now since my mind,heart and soul are not clear yet,it does feel nice to know that.Listening to a lot of music..
Just do stuff,read books,paint,play the guitar,whatever works for you,whatever you enjoy.
Go
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Originally Posted by ka1111
Yea, I'm not going to change my number. The problem is, I actaully want to hear from him again. That's where I get into trouble. I haven't yet reached the point yet where I don't want to talk to him. Given the circumstances, I know it's not healthy. But I still love him.
I think you're right. That's the only reason I haven't contacted him yet. Just don't want to be that needy, desperate girl begging for his attention. I know I'm better than that, and I guess I'm hoping my heart will catch up to my head eventually and not hurt so much. I don't want hm to know how vulnerable I am. I believe he still cares, but for some reason he is pushing me away. I just want to get to a point where it doesn't hurt so much.Quote:
Originally Posted by confused1145
Yeah,tell me about it.. She calls and texts me occasionaly,and it's really hard to not answer or respond,cause I really want to hear her.But I know how it's going to go and it would be worse.Plus I'm going through major bereavement and she was the one person I could lean on to.So I'm twice messed up.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lilyloo
More time,more time has to pass,it's still too soon..
Im going through the same thing girl, Just remember that we all go through breakups and WE STILL SURVIVE! Don't let him bring you down to the point that you lose yourself.
Me and mine were together 3 years and had a child... thats especially tough!
You will make it! I promise!
Sorry for your loss. :( I hope you find some peace and feel better soon.Quote:
Originally Posted by ka1111
So when she texts you, you don't respond? Does she continue to text you after that? I tried to ignore him the other night when he started texting, and he got kind of passive aggressive which I thought was odd. He was like "oh, no answer.....ok." Very confusing behavior. I mean he dumped me! What does he expect? Sigh... :confused:
He expects you to be friends as he wants. He may not even realise your hurt, or doesn't care.
We mans are sometimes really jerks.
OK. He did finished the relationship. It was his decision - so let him eat that and digest it alone.
Don't make him know what you feel right now, give him a freeze Even if you like to get some message from him, don't answer and don't let him know that you like to get messages.
It looks a lot like he is 'trying' you. Some guy's think a relationship is like a game where they have to play with the girl a little from time to time.
By showing no sign's of deadly unhappy or close to get nut's you kill his intentions and if he still loves you he will try to come back.
You have to find the balance between setting your rules for the future with him and not making it look like a dictatorship. He just has to understand that you talk serious stuff when it comes to your relationship, no room for games.
If this doesn't work out, drop it and go on with your life.
G.
I don't answer cause,what's the point really?. She knows how I feel and where I stand.She knows I love her.The texts and calls are just stupid.Sometimes it's like "last one".And then yeah,after a few days,with some excuse she will send again,for example to wish me luck for my next match or something.. Or she will call at 1 past midnight Saturday night at home and won't talk,just to see if I'm there and stuff... But who cares?? SHE'S NOT HERE.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lilyloo
I believe that she,like so many people and probably your guy too,is scared
Sh!tless.I think that people like that are governed by fear.Fear of feeling,letting go,getting hurt,fear of losing control,fear of me seeing her vulnerability which she hides proficiently behind huge walls of pseudo-confidence and false ego.So they run away.
But then they realise what they are running away from.They miss it.They know it doesn't come every day.They find it hard to erase it.So they call and text and stuff.Just to keep it alive and convince themselves it was true.
They are too weak to go and be gone but terrified of staying.
Fear prevails in the end.
Lily,
I feel your pain. He is texting you and trying to contact you because he feels guilty. He wants to know if you are there, hurting with him. Remember the saying "Misery loves company"? Well its true. Just like you would love to talk to him and find out he is miserable, he would like the same.
The difference - your strong enough to know better. Your strong enough not to let it happen. You know better than to put yourself back a few steps and have to relive those feelings of the last week and a half. You don't want that, so you Won't let it happen. Good for you.
Ignore his phone calls, he will get the hint. The text's mean NOTHING. Don't read into them, that's not helpful. I know that's MUCH easier said then done. My mind is my own worse enemy, which is why you need to remain busy. You had fun, and like JB said: KEEP DOING THAT. That way, you can not think about him without thinking about not thinking about him. Does that make sense??
Oh, and ka1111
... That was terrifying hahaQuote:
She hides proficiently behind huge walls of pseudo-confidence and false ego.So they run away.
But then they realise what they are running away from.They miss it.They know it doesn't come every day.They find it hard to erase it.So they call and text and stuff.Just to keep it alive and convince themselves it was true.
They are too weak to go and be gone but terrified of staying.
Fear prevails in the end.
Rules to live by in a relationship
• Don’t live by someone else’s standards, only your own.
• men love men that give off a devil-may-care quality and have an edge.
• A dreaman won’t kill himself to impress anyone.
• A nice girl/boy makes the mistake of being available all the time.
• get back to him when you are free
• see him when its convenient for you
• has no clue where the relationship is going and leaves it like that
• A man will always want what he can’t have.
• hold yourself with dignity and pride
• believe you are a catch
• trying too hard gives the impression you are desperate
• don’t be mothering
• Love yourself and don’t want anyone that doesn’t want you.
• Ignore him and he is intrigued; make him the center of attention all the time and he runs.
• When you don’t pay attention, his more intrigued and chase you even more
• If you don’t make him feel locked down, he'll come your way.
• If you try to corner him, he'll bolt
• fun equals freedom
• give the appearance that he has plenty of space; will drop his guard
• If you feel strongly about something, don’t be afraid to say so.
• Men are attracted to someone who can speak their mind.
• Begin a relationship with a voice
• Space is very important. Makes you look proud rather than desperate. You remain a challenge, because you choose to be w/ him, you didn't need to be.
• Independence rather than dependence.
• That you can hold your own
• demand treatment as if you are worthwhile
• be slightly standoffish
• be sexy, don’t try to be sexy
• play by your own rules
• Be unpredictable.
• Reassure in 2 areas: 1.that he is sexually desirable to you and (2) that he sees that he’s still in the game
• give kisses that are sexy and sensual
• smile allot, be happy
• Compliment him; let him know he’s desirable to you. Tell him he looks great
• don’t be needy
• Be secure with yourself, that he doesn’t feel like he has 100 a hold on you.
• Eliminate these words: “we need to talk”
• Tell it like it is in a matter of fact way.
• Be relaxed, secure and happy with him or with out him. Be happy go lucky
• he should always feel free to go
• leave some questions unanswered
• don’t stop going to the gym or your lifestyle to accommodate him
• don’t stop spending time with friends and family
• don’t check messages too often
• focus on work
• don’t check emails constantly
• don’t stop moving at your own rhythm
• do not abandon your routines
• don’t put pressure him so that he’ll want to be around you
• value your priorities
• stay boss of yourself
• act as your own guide/boss
• you don’t need his approval for anything
• Have more confidence, some else’s mood doesn’t have much impact on you.
• Only give when reciprocal
• When a relationship starts lightning speed, at some point someone will pull back to regain the need for space.
• Stay in control
• The candle that burns twice as bright burns half as long.
• Once you lose your rhythm, you lose your psychological equilibrium an you become needy.
• Power is the control you have over yourself.
• When someone is being too cocky, they are trying too hard to convince that they are stronger that they really are.
• When treated with disrespect and you take it, they begin to loose respect for you.
• Prioritize yourself over melting into someone else. “No” means no.
• Be clear and direct of what you need without second-guessing yourself
• Don’t wait more than ½ hour for anyone. Leave and you will get respect and it won’t happen again. Remember, you are a prize!
• Know who you are and what you will or will not accept
• Having self-control because true power is the control you have over yourself
• When you have control over yourself, you don’t need to be emotional all the time. – stay the boss of you.
• People get spooked by too much sappy emotional talk, particularity early on in the relationship.
• Do not send tear-jerker cards early on.
• Don’t pout or whimper when you don’t receive calls. Make them wonder every now and then what you are doing and why you are not together. When you regulate the timing, it keeps them wanting and it charges up the batteries.
• Never call more than once in arrow or too much.
• Don’t leave mushy messages; keep the messages friendly, short and sweet.
• Don’t email more than once in a row or send emails about feelings, issues and what you need that you are not getting. Don’t respond to emails immediately every time.
• Don’t stop eating, socializing, sleeping and exercising.
• Avoid last minute dates because you miss him
• Don’t walk in the door, check your messages or call right back. Settle in, eat dinner and relax, move at your own rhythm and then call back. He has to know you have a life.
• Don’t sit by the phone and wait for a call.
• Don’t ask for affection. Don’t coax affection out of him.
• If ignored, don’t try harder to get attention.
• Stay focused on your life. Stay sassy, perky and happy.
• Stay ever so slightly just outside a persons reach, because it charges up the batteries.
• Don’t be governed by fear of losing a man, because a real price to pay is when you loose yourself.
• If you feel you are going to resent something after you give, don’t give it.
• Give only what feels comfortable to give.
• It’s better to give and receive
• Love yourself first
• Never say, “We never spend time together” this is a sign to person that he/she has a right where he wants you. Don’t be needy.
• If taken for granted, pull back a little with no explanation, it catches the person off guard and gets their attention big-time.
• Avoid being a “mother”, transition back to being a “lover”
• Win him back by acting as though you can take him or leave him.
• Treat him casually as though your friend and he’ll come your way because he wants things to be romantic and he wants to be the pursuer.
• Alter the pattern that has become convenient for him; pull back without an attitude and without warning.
• Don’t be a , be kind and strong.
• If it seems as though he’s slightly rejecting you, it can be a compliment in disguise. He wants you so much that he doesn’t want to appear too obvious about it.
• When you act as if you don’t care, it will scare him.
• Get creative and don’t be predictable talking about the relationship all the time instead of going out and having one.
• Never sit home waiting for a call from a guy or that he’s your whole life. It’s like waiting for water to boil.
• Live by your own rules.
• Move to your own rhythm instead of moving to the beat of some else’s drum.
• Decide how you want to be treated.
• Choose what you will or will not tolerate.
• Discreetly leave if you don’t get what you want.
• No one person should be doing all the giving.
• Don’t give too much
• Getting a life will make it seem like you are no longer impetuous, or impatient. When you are relaxed, you’ve take the “need” out of the equation. You no longer appear needy and strong, which immediately changes the dynamic of a stale relationship.
• If you want to renew the challenge, it is imperative to continue the activities you did before he came to the scene.
• When you will not drop everything to be with him, your appear as though you have more going for you.
• Never stop living you life. You are happy with or without him, this will keep you just outside his reach.
Well the thing is, if you've read my other posts... I'm trying to deal with my boyfriend dumping me about a week ago after becoming distant witihin the last month. We got along very well, I thought things were progressing then he says that he can't juggle a GF with all of his problems... has too much going on, etc. This was after being together for a few months and after meeting his family and becoming close. Bam, he doesn't want to be with me anymore.
So, I haven't been contacting him... in fact he texted me over the weekend that he "misses me" and really screwed up my head. The thing is, and I know this is not good... he is still one of my friends on my myspace page. I know that sounds juvenile, but I only keep my page because it's a great way to keep up with friends and also my brother who is out of state. Anyway, I haven't been looking at his page, but I do look at my friends status updates, and he changed his tonight to "blissful". Oh ****ing great! I am sitting here with my heart in pieces, barely making it from day to day and he left me in the dust and now he is blissful?!
I know, I know, what else should I expect right? I was so good to him, and he just threw me away like nothing. I wish I could turn off my feelings. :( :(
Look, you need to realize that yes it is over. I know this seems harsh, but we have all been there.
As far as the myspace is concerned... you use it to contact some of your friends right? Maybe you should think about deleting him for your friends list. I know it may seem insensitive and harsh, but it might be the best thing for you to do. If you don't see this happening, then stop looking at his profile. It will only kill you. It will be hard and kill you just as much to not do it, but you won't be knowing what else is going on.
The reason he probably changed his to "blissful" is to get a rise out of you. Or he is just trying to pick himself back up. He was probably equally as hurt as you are. He just decided he didn't want to sit around and wait for a while.
I am sorry to hear about this happening. Ending long relationships is hard. We have all been there. Its even harder when you seem to play the victim. It all depends on how fast you decide to get on with your life. I know everyone tells you that and everyone will continue too.
Trust me Ex's will use myspace to get you to notice them. To make you jealous. I had to completely delete mine. Yea it sucked, but it needed to be done. I kept looking at her profile and it made me want to break down constantly. Do what is best for YOU! Not him
[QUOTE=bigbird213]Lily,
I feel your pain. He is texting you and trying to contact you because he feels guilty. He wants to know if you are there, hurting with him. Remember the saying "Misery loves company"? Well its true. Just like you would love to talk to him and find out he is miserable, he would like the same.
Well last night, I was on myspace (I know, I know) and I didn't look at his page but I looked at my friends mood updates. He put his mood as "blissful"! I know I shouldn't put much stock in what I see on myspace, but it really hurt me. I am sitting here in pieces and he is blissfully happy? Just really hurts.
I'm glad my ex never had myspace... But you should listen to Fixer12.. If you can't control yourself and not look at his profile then delete him from yours... now u feel like after you saw his new status.. thats why you need to delete him, its going to hurt but it doesn't help having contact or knowing how "good he's doing", it breaks u even more!.
You sure enough set yourself up for that one. Lesson learned?Quote:
He put his mood as "blissful"! I know I shouldn't put much stock in what I see on myspace,
Tough lesson to learn. I've said it over and over :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Lilyloo
Don't go looking for info about people, don't even go looking near people where you might accidentally find info. Your mind is going to be going nuts now thinking about it, and you don't need that. That's the entire point of NC
Lily, perhaps wishing him well IS what you want, especially for your own heart's healing. He's moved on and is working on his future...
Ask yourself HONESTLY, do you want him to be unhappy? Truly? I bet you don't.
When you can sincerely wish good on those who you feel have hurt you in some way, then you are an excellently mature and deserving person on whom much good will descend.
Count on it!
Even after I was the one to break up with my ex girlfriend, I was the one checking on her online things all the time (a little backwards right? ). Just avoid it, I'm having a little bit of trouble with my girlfriend now and I learned from my mistake and I am not looking at her online things anymore. I did at first, it was instinct it seemed, but now I feel a lot better that I have thought about things so I have gone back to doing my own thing.
I feel ten, maybe even a hundred times better than when she said "She needed some time".
Good advice
I know where Sikativ is coming from when she says she needs time... I have recently gone through the same thing with my ex girlfriend whom I still see on a regular basis by the way.
It was really hard in the beginning because I too was constantly checking up on her on Face book. It is soul destroying when you see that you lover(ex lover) is not as hurt as you are and you think that they are heartless.
At the end of the day I completely removed my profile. Trust me its tough but after a week or so you'll find yourself slipping back into your normal day to day routine.
In my case she eventually phoned me and told me that she misses me, and we've started seeing each other again.
Although I cannot say that things are any better than it was when we where seeing each other.
Deep down I know that this is temporary and that the current arrangement is an immediate comfort.
Be careful however as this is not the advice that I am givung but rather a set of circumstances that have played out in my situation and may very well in yours too.
Depending on weather you nip this in the bud now or hang on in the hopes that time will heal, do what your heart tells you, be strong and deal with things as they come.
I'm not one to tell people what to do, but I can share my experience and wish you well, no matter which path you choose.
Well let me share with you what I went through.
This will get worse before it gets better. Your mind and body is going through the process of grieving and that being said you will go through a lot of stages in which your mind tries to rationalize what just happened. This may take a month or two, but believe it or not each day gets better and better. One day you will wake up not thinking about them and be ready to get on with your life.
Having just been through this
Keep no contact it helps immensely as you don't tear the scab off the wound the end of your relationship created.
Go see your best friend- that's what they are there for they will help you get your head in order. This one kept me sane after 2 weeks of obseessing about what to do to try to get her back.
When you are going through the steps of grief allow yourself to feel them and when you get there acceptance is probably the best stage to be in. As you will know you have no control over the situation and go back to going with the flow.
As for Facebook or myspace, don't look at it for a while check it once or twice a day but don't surf it as it will usually lead you back to your ex's page, been there myself, you might want to remove them from friends but you don't have to if you have enough will power and luck not to see the things they posted.
While these steps are what helped me go back to the relationship page and look at all the stickies at the top those also will help a lot.
Hey Dr. :)
Could you tell me how long were you on NC (no contact) just curious, me its been almost three months, I wouldve heard omething by now.
Hold strong,Lilyloo,I block mine from MSN,cant stand it,lucky he's not on Facebook,I checked.
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Originally Posted by DR Ruth-less
No, I don't want him to be unhappy. He has actaully been unhappy in his life for quite a while now due to situations at work (he's in the military) and things with his family. In some ways, I think that affected our relationship. There have been many times that I have thought... I would love to see him and know him when he is truly happy in his life. He has seemed so angry at the world and I don't want that for him. I always tried to be there for him and listen and be understanding about his problems. Guess it was just a bit of a shock to see that he is now "blissful" without me when I was so good to him. Makes me feel like I didn't matter that much I guess and that I'm somehow easy to forget.Quote:
Originally Posted by JBeaucaire
I know. The thing is, I don't look at his page or his comments at all. The mood updates are in an entirely different category and I go there to see what my other friends and family are up to. Guess as long as I have him as a friend on my page, that's the risk I am running. Seeing something I don't want to see. Even when we were dating, I barely looked at his page because I didn't want to misinterpret something. I can't bring myself to delete him though... so maybe I will just delete my acct.Quote:
Originally Posted by bigbird213
I didn't look at his page... :)Quote:
Originally Posted by talaniman
Hey I'm old school, and we didn't have computers back then, so you couldn't check someone's mood online.
Can I be honest for a second. The idea of healing, and moving on requires a lot of work, and some pain. It also requires no contact with the ex. Anything less will slow the healing process down quite a bit. Sorry, wish I could sell you a few pills for your heartache. With time and experience, you'll learn to cope with your feelings, and what life throws at you much better.
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So... some of you may know my situation wth my ex from my other posts. I hope you can give me some more great advice because I am so confused right now and hurting... :(
My boyfriend who I was absolutley crazy about broke it off with me a few weeks ago, saying that he just didn't think he could handle a GF right now, and that he "just wasn't the guy for me". This was after months of dating, where I thought he really cared for me and I thought things were progressing. I was and am still devastated. So after he told me that he just wasn't sure about us, and that he didn't want a GF, I backed off completely and didn't contact him at all. This was about 3 weeks ago. It killed me not to contact him, but I figured I had to move on. I didn't want to chase him or prolong the hurt. I have been hurting very badly these past couple of weeks not knowing exactly what went wrong. I was starting to feel the tiniest bit better last weekend, when he drunk texted me late at night to tell me he missed me. As confused as I was after that, I still did not contact him this week.
Then, this past Friday night he starts texting me about 6 or 7 pm asking me if he had texted me over the weekend and what did hs texts say and were they bad? He knew he had texted me! I felt like he was fishing to see how I felt. So I was short with him, not rude just indifferent. Then he wanted to know what my plans were for the night, and could we hang out later? On the one hand, I was so happy to hear from him, but on the other I felt sick to my stomach... like here we go again. He confuses me so much. I don't think he knows what he wants. I know he cares for me still, but I know he doesn't want a relationship right now. It hurts me, that he thinks he can just pop in and out of my life on his terms. It's so unfair! Does he not know how much I love him? Why can't he consider my feelings? I don't know what to do. I don't want to be his "friends with benefits" girl, which I suspect is what he is hoping for. Why won't he let me be if he doesn't really want me? Should I just ignore him or tell him that I love him too much to be in a random situation with him? I am so confused... I do love him. He is turnng out to be not the person I thought he was though. He is being very selfish right now. Still, I have this confusion and feelings that I don't know what to do with. Don't know if I can stay strong and not see him if he contacts me again.
All too often the people who dump us change into people that we hardly recognize after a short period. The good news is that many times this makes it easier to get over the person and see who they truly are (now).
Personally, I don't think that you should respond to him. If you must, tell him that you aren't ready to be talking with him again and get yourself back to being better. You noticed that you were feeling better - so just imagine how much better you could have felt if you kept that feeling going...
Ignore him, when he send you a text don't even open it, delete it. If he calls don't answer.
For closure you might can let him know how you fee, but don't listen to what he has to say.
Continue on with your healing and let him mess you up by opening up all wounds, your then going have to start all over with no nc and it could be harder. If you think that all he wants is friends with benefits, then your instincts are right. Just stay strong and leave the past in the past because I know you don't want to relive the pain he cause. Just curious, what does he say or ask?
Texts are just little LAND MINES thrown into your life, aren't they? Cell phones have royally screwed with people's boundaries. I didn't have to deal with any of these convenient little spears to my heart when I was growing up.
I truly, truly hate cell phones. (OK, speech over).
He's not confusing at all. You've had time to absorb his "demands" on how he will let you in his life as long as you don't mind it being nothing serious. It's all about him. He's rudely and insensitively testing your waters to see if you're ready to give in.
Are you?
I was on NC for about a month.Quote:
Originally Posted by vivia12
Each person is different I guess, but keep one thing in mind. While I was NC I had resolved myself to the FACT that I was never going to hear from her again.
It is such a gamble because as much as you want that person to contact you he/she may be applying no contact too. And I'm afraid it is at this point when you truly just need to let go. No one wants to be the one who gives in, especially if your gut feel is one of doubt.
Yes there is also the point of view that one needs to follow your heart, SO it is with this in mind that I remind you that mine is not advice, but rather a opinion or a situation to which I can relate... At the end of the day it is YOUR choice to make, and when you make that choice accept all consequence good or bad.
Ask your self the question, is it the person that i love, or the feeling of being a part of something that you love. Sometimes we have a void in our lives that is filled by a person.
Keep yourself busy with something else for a week, make plans with friends so you litteraly have no time for any thing else and stick to those plans... all be it origami or finger knitting... anything!
Then ask yourself that question again!
I wish nothing but love to all who seek it. And to those who find it savour every moment. It is a scarse and fleeting thing this love.
Excellent Advice Dr. Ruth-less!Quote:
Originally Posted by DR Ruth-less
Please trust me when I tell you this. NC is a good thing! It may seem evil and hard right now, but it is all for a reason. Would you rather talk to your ex everyday about their new people and happiness in their lives? Would you want to go online and see one day that they posted a new picture of themselves and they look better then ever? Or Happy with out you/
Bottom line NC is super hard, it gets easier everyday you do it. It's like breaking away from a drug... your brain will search for that feeling that you got from them. You find yourself looking at their myspace/facebook. That's why we tell you to get rid of them.
The reason we do tell you this is like what Ruthless said above... we have gone through it and we see the mistakes we made, and we don't want to see you make them either. I know I personally should have stuck to NC back in November... but it's already June! And I still only get to about a week before I break down and reply to her... it's about commitment. Things get better if YOU want them too... no one is telling you that you have to feel bad. The only one who is is your ex... cause it makes them feel better when you are down and they aren't. Be strong! NC is usually the best.
Sounds like my ex. I think the thing with guys is that if they don't know EXACTLY what they want out of dating/ a relationship... putting a title on it can also do the reverse and scare them away. Or possibly there is another girl? That would only be if you guys were dating a few months though. Go with your gut on that one.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lilyloo
Give him his space, and in the meantime keep yourself busy, don't reply to his texts, take a trip away with your girlfriends and realize there are other men out there. There is a reason he is being this way... have you asked him?
I say delete him on your myspace, I delt with some online stalking with my ex and it was not cool. Plus if you check his page constantly you will get all worked up over something that is probably not what you think it it.
Move on to new men!
Sorry to keep bothering you Dr. Ruth-less,I do like your name!
How did you resolve that you'll never hear from her,its hard for me to accept that even though its been that long,well.its not a year yet,but by then I'll shoot myself if I don't get pass this by now.
Also why would the ex apply NC when the were the ones who crapped on you so to speak.
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Originally Posted by DR Ruth-less
Well vivia. I know this question is directed towards Ruthless but the thing is they too are trying to heal. Just because they left you doesn't mean they don't hurt. Even though they seem to act that way. Sometimes they find it easier just to let go, just as we do. Everyone does things for a certain reason... I guess it really depends on your position. Also some people get the idea's in their head that "well they aren't talking to me, so i don't want to talk to them." Kind of immature and selfish, but we all do it.
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