Dear exes, Thanks for kicking me to the curb, so I could meet the love of my life.
Love, your ex.
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Dear exes, Thanks for kicking me to the curb, so I could meet the love of my life.
Love, your ex.
Thank you, thank you... (insert bragging tone) yes I'm an English major. Damn it feels good to write it where someone will read it, haha.Quote:
Originally Posted by freakinconfused
Dear Jamie,
How you been doing, girl? Hope you're happy. One question though, I don't know why you would put "sad" as your status when I told you in a blog that I didn't want to be friends with you anymore. If any, you should be "glad". I saved us a lot of months because knowing you, I know you would've only taken me for a ride and I still would've been on the sideline, wanting to take a shot at something that wasn't worth it. I liked how you totally ignored me for two whole months. Not even saying "Hi" in the hallways to a guy you once "loved", but have conversations with some guy till 2 in the morning (by the way, how do you like him calling you every 4 letter word he can think of? I find it hilarious). I thought I loved you, I really did. Haha, do you remember our first date? The one where we held hands, cuddled and had our first kiss? Yeah, I still kept the memoirs because I had some hope that we would get back together. It's funny how you showed me more then one way that I was wrong. Anyway, I made you a valentine's day gift as well as a christmas gift in November. I put the movie ticket where we had our first kiss and the first time I looked into your beautiful green eyes in the stuffed animal that I gave you for christmas. You might like it, you might not; I only know that I don't need any of that anymore. I hope you like it though. I've been filling the empty hole you left with music, my guitar, my friends and my philosophies on life. Thanks for kicking me to the curb, I'll never regret telling you that we're not friends anymore. You haven't met someone that treated you as good as I did but that doesn't matter. I just hope the next guy you meet, you won't smash his heart into pieces. Those were a hassle to put back together, you know? Anyway, I have to go to sleep, got school tomorrow.
P.S.
Looking forward for your quick glances to the opposite direction of where I am whenever I see you. I still smile whenever I think about you, except now it's for a different reason. I hope life treats you gently, my lost friend. This is the last goodbye I'll give you. Goodbye Jamie, it's been great. Peace be with you
Dear ___,
Thank you for never being direct with me about what you wanted and felt. Thank you for not having the courage to tell me you did not want to get back together. Thank you for leading me on and dragging me along for a gruel and agonizing two months. But most of all, thank you for helping me realize once again the reason that I broke up with you.
I'm sorry that I exploded in anger at you for essentially not acting like a boyfriend. We were/are over. I just couldn't accept it. I kept clinging onto the hope that you still cared for me and would want me back.
And don't get me wrong. I know you really did care for me at one point. I even know that you didn't know how to show it and that you wished dearly that you could change. You tried. But I guess I wasn't enough. It was unfair of me to ask you to change as a person anyway.
I'm sorry that you weren't enough for me. I'm sorry you had to see me at my weakest moments. You are the ultimate nice guy. It must have been hard for you to tell me it was over in your own little way. I bet you wanted to just yell at me to leave you alone so many of those times.
Today for the first time, I did not feel any resentment or anger. I'm happy for the experience and memories that you gave me. You taught me what I want and don't want in a partner. Like you said, "we tried our best. There's nothing to be sad about."
I know we said we'd be friends and hope we can someday. I hope you'll overlook my drastic measures to forget you (I'd be flattered if I were you!).
I'm just not ready yet to be friends. Give me time to heal. I hope you'll still want to be friends by the time I'm over you.
Your friend,
______
Thank God I didn't send this! too angry
Hi Bobo,
What's wrong? You…that's what.
First of all you dump me and expect me to be your best friend overnight.
Secondly, you kept rubbing Bobette (his new gf) in my face. Quite frankly I told you I was not interested about hearing about her at all but obviously you didn't listen. Did you think it sat well with me when you kept mentioning her? Even same thing with your other friends…not everyone wants to hear about your intimate details with her. Keep it to yourself. Have some respect.
Thirdly, you put up a picture of her and you just to rub it in my face even more. You NEVER put up display pictures even when I asked you in the past... why now? To rub salt in my wounds?
Fourthly, thanks for lying to me towards the end of our relationship by telling me you loved me when you didn't. You obviously were not faithful, went behind my back without being honest. God knows what you did when I was studying my off at uni for my exams.
Fifthly, you hardly put any effort on our relationship and not even when I tried being your friend. I came last most of the time. Only when I was gone did you only want to talk to me or make an effort. Why? Oh I wonder why! Cause I was so good to you. I was there for you day in and day out. Came down for you when you were sick, bought you things to cheer you up, sent your stuff through the mail, talked and listened to you when you were sad/angry, bought you your meal/movie/drinks last time we met and so many other things I was not appreciated for.
Sixthly, all the threatening emails/messages you sent…if you would have stopped for a second and stopped thinking about yourself for once, think about my feelings. I've been through so much these few months…stop being so f****** selfish. Sure, delete me off everything, throw away all the presents I gave you, the letters, the photos and erase all the memories we had. You don't even have to remember me.
And today, when you purposely called me, you appeared “anonymous” so I would pick up. I'm not interested in talking to you. If I was, I would have talked to you online. How can you call yourself a friend when you have hurt me so much? What have you done to that Bobo I first met? Bring him back!
Don't you have what you wanted? Don't you have Bobette? Don't you have her friends? You didn't want me in the first place. How am I going to make a difference in your life? I respected your wishes, why can't you respect mine? I don't even feel we should even be friends. It's just too hard. It was always about you. Find yourself another 'friend' because I'm not going to be that substitute in your life if anything goes wrong with your relationships.
Hope you have your answer. Stop contacting me anymore unless you are truly sorry…but that doesn't guarantee any friendship.
___________
This is my second letter, but I think I am in a different place...
Janelle,
You hated that I spent most my time playing video games, when I wasn't allowed to do much else. Well I rarely touch them now, I'd rather do the things I love to do. Guess you missed out.
You always thought I would leave you, or cheat, and that you couldn't trust me. When I did nothing but show my love for you. You ended up cheating, and when time goes on I hope that doesn't gnaw at you and make you not able to trust anyone else.
You even hated that I had a temper. When we fought we'd yell and scream. It's hard to not get angry at someone projecting what they are doing on me. I never cheated, I never wanted to. Getting accused of it, just showed what you were doing, and worried I would do.
I hope your instant gratification lasts longer. I hope you get over your issues and insecurities you always blamed on me. I hope your happy and you never realize your mistake.
Because I am becoming the man you always wanted, in my own way. I am living a great life now, even if your still on my mind at times. Maybe someday I'll make someone else as happy as you could have been. Maybe not. But either way Janelle, you really missed out.
Ernie
Ps You can beg for honesty all you want, but when you are a liar, you will never believe your getting it.
Dear ____,
I looked at the letter I wrote to you (above in a few posts) two months ago and all I can say is that I was so kind and considerate. Yet, you screwed me over, AGAIN, that following weekend BIGTIME. I played it cool for your sake, but you mistreated me. You didn't even apologize. I guess you're sick and tired of me getting angry all the time because I got so sick and tired of you.
Have a nice life. I hope you regret everything you did and that you lost me forever. I hope you get the courage to admit you were wrong someday, if not to me at least to yourself.
Except by then, I won't care.
Sincerely,
Me
Since everyone's writing a second one... why not?
Dear sneezy's ex:
Why... how are you? How have you been? It's been a while since I've talked to you... but I've been relatively busy. Heard about your new boyfriend... hope that goes well for you. We graduate in 2 months, which means I probably will never see/hear from you ever again... so I wish you the best. Just wanted to let you know, I harbor no ill feelings towards you. I'm not mad at you... or your new boyfriend. Life's life. May we cross each others' paths again down the road. All the best.
Sneezy.
... that is absurdly different than my first one. I tried to make snide comments, but I have none. Only possible thing I can think of is: I heard your boyfriend's a MAJOR cheater... so good luck with that... and yes, the rumor you hear is true... most of your friends are hitting on me. Pretty hard. Sorry.
... yep. No bad feelings towards her. I feel like I got the last laugh out of this. Oh well.
All I can say is WOW! I think this is by far one of the best threads I have read on this site.
What a great idea!
Unfortunately for this thread, I have no exes worth writing a letter to because currentely I am with the first man I ever fell in love with. If we split then I will deffinintely post here! Hopefully not though.
How about for all those of you who are in a relationship and some things about that person makes you tick? There should be a new thread posted here for all things that you don't like about your relationship/lover.' Maybe I'm going to far..
Dear...
I was the best thing you could have ever had and more...
Me
(To me, that is sufficient.)
You go Isneezefunny! Write away! No complaining though. Just things you would like to be worked out/changed.
Wow! I haven't been around for a few weeks, but I'm so surprised and glad to see that this thread is still around. It was a big help to me to do it and I'm so happy that others here have found it useful as well. I was just re-reading the letter to my ex that I posted to start the thread. I'm so glad I decided to post it here instead of sending it! I can't believe I ever felt that way about someone who treated my heart like it was something that could be played with and then thrown in the dustbin... I almost have to laugh at how pathetic I was then. Thank God for time... it really does heal all wounds. Cheers everyone! :)
So glad your doing good now Firefly... it's funny how we look back and think how pathetic we sounded at the beginning , until we get off the emotional "Roller Coaster" ride.Quote:
Originally Posted by little firefly
Ya even with the rare bum night, I remember things way earlier and I'm like "wow i was pathetic" Reminds me why I don't like roller coasters lol.
You know I've never like roller coasters either... I think from now on I'll try to stay on the merry go round where I belong ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Delow84
Hey,
How are you?
I had a dream today.. I fell asleep and everything was back to normal. I believed I woke up and you were there with me, your beautiful smile making me feel better. You put your arms around me and hugged me, but then I really woke up, and you weren't there and I was alone. I looked around to see where you were, thinking you had gone to the bathroom but then remembered that you aren't with me anymore. It broke my heart all over again. It keeps breaking my heart everyday.
I did the worse thing possible to make me feel better.. I started re-reading your old emails... the ones where you told me you would love me forever, and that we could get through this. Im sorry I didn't listen. I saw the pain in your words, a pain that I've been echoing for months. I just let all my guilt consume me, because I couldn't bare having hurt you. In many ways, I deserve all this pain, and you deserve the happiness you have now, even if its without me.
I remember after I left, when you told me that you still saw the love in my eyes. You were right. That's always been my worse part in acting, was hiding my eyes. You've always been able to tell when I lie or not from my eyes. You knew me so well.
In all this, in all the years we've known each other, we've gone through a lot of changes. This is the first big change in my life since I met you that you weren't there for me. Because right now, you're not there for me. I understand though. Im not trying to make you feel bad, or guilt trip you back into this. But when I saw you in December, I saw the same love in your eyes when you looked into mine. Maybe I'm just trying to prove it to myself, but I'm just asking you to not the make the same mistake I did by running away from the love I had. Maybe not today or tomorrow... but I refuse to accept that we're done forever.
Remember that summer when you went away for 4 months? I never did tell you how bad I felt. I used to snap at Andy cause he missed Alexa after a week. I missed you so much.
I was so happy when you came down for Star Wars. I had my baby with me for one of my favourite things.
Or when Tim's dad died, you were there for me, and him. And I loved you even more for it.
I know I've written many goodbye emails. They don't compare to the one you sent me in December. I don't think I've ever cried so much in my life. My brother hugged me tightly that night, as if I was just 5 years old... I saw him crying. My dad is really sad for me too. But then you tell me that I'm doing all this for nothing and that I act like it's a game. Its not. Its my life, a life that I'm clinging desperately to hang onto. And that's the problem.
Remember when you and I went to Boston to see my family? We had barely been together a year. We talked about the future lie crazy kids in love, on a single bed in my grandmother's house. That's the room where I broke down in tears when my grandfather was dying. You made it all better 2 years later.. We visited my grandfather's grave on that trip. I was so sad... and you said you thanked him for having met me. I thank him everyday for that. No joke.
This Christmas was empty without you. You were part of my family. You ARE part of my family. And I could feel you so close, all the great memories flooding me all the time. That's why I was so upset when I emailed you. I just hurt so much. As much pain as we've caused to each other, I know they would welcome you and me being together cause it makes me happy.
I know I'm not easy to love and be with. Im brutally honest and I don't think before I talk sometimes. But I never meant to make you feel bad or guilty for having a life outside of me. But I did... and I know that if I had been a better person all around, I wouldn't be sending you this email.
I realise this sounds like Pedram's last plea email when you broke up. But this isn't a plea. Ive begged enough, and you're not coming back. In fact, you're not even speaking to me at all. Its just an expose of my feelings, my thoughts, my memories, etc...
Im very sad that you don't love me enough anymore to be with me... It's funny, I remember you telling me that line about 8-9 years ago around this time. It was right before Valentine's day, and we had been going out for a few days. We didn't do much... we hardly spoke in fact. I was too nervous. You hugged me at school at my lockers in one of the most heartfelt hugs id ever had. I knew I had lost you then. You followed up with a crying phone call saying you didn't love me enough to stay with me, that you were sorry. After only two weeks, I was so sad. On one of you're emails in September (and you were right, it WAS September) you said I didn't love you from the start that we started going out. But I knew from that day when you broke up with me that I did indeed love you. Time went forward.. you found someone... I was sad... all the time. Once again, during the fall I didn't say what I needed to say to have you and it was too late. You had a boyfriend, you were happy. I was alone. I had pushed you away out of sadness... And I'm doing it again.
I guess I'm just hoping that history repeats itself. I just hope I don't have to wait as long as I did last time. But that's all I've got. Everyone is telling me that I've lost you and that you'll never come back. It seems very possible... but I can't accept that. I need to just hold on to that last glimmer of hope that you can love me again one day... its the only thing that's keeping from going.
My mom was crying on the phone today when I called her. She says that she can't stand to see such a tremendous person like me throw it all away because I'm sad. I don't think I'm that great. Especially not now. I don't feel worth anything, if the one person that didn't need to love but who did unconditionnally doesn't love me anymore, or not enough to choose me over anyone else, than what am I worth now?
I wish I had taken you back earlier. I wish I could be holding you right now. I can't believe that you're over me, but you have always been a much stronger person than you think. And you did. And I'm ed.
You keep saying time will heal all wounds. But this is a scar that can't heal, because everyday it opens up when I remember that I ed everything up and that the love of my life, my best friend, my only lover, is OK with just being friends with me from now on.
I know I said this a lot, but ill always wait for you Caroline. You not only have a place in my heart, but you are my heart. I can't just move on and stop loving you. Ive tried countless times. You may not be perfect, but you were and are perfect for me. For years people praised us as the perfect couple. I just hope one day we can prove them right by making all of this right. I have to hope this. Whether you believe it or not.
I remember when you sent me this song one day. Its always been in my heart when I think of you...
'Ooo. You make me live
Whatever this world can give to me
It's you, you're all I see
Ooo, you make me live now honey
Ooo, you make me live
You're the best friend
That I ever had
I've been with you such a long time
You're my sunshine
And I want you to know
That my feelings are true
I really love you
You're my best friend
Ooo, you make me live
I've been wandering round
But I still come back to you
In rain or shine
You've stood by me girl
I'm happy, happy at home
You're my best friend.
You're the first one
When things turn out bad
You know I'll never be lonely
You're my only one
And I love
The things that you do
You're my best friend
Ooo, you make me live.
I'm happy, happy at home
You're my best friend
You're my best friend
Ooo, you make me live
You, you're my best friend. '
There is no better way to express myself on how I feel about you. Ive been asking everyone why you won't come back to me. I wish I had an answer I can live with. But it seems that I ruined it all, and that you'll never love me again. That is the worse feeling in the world, you have no idea. Im responsible for ruining the best thing in my life, and now, you don't want to come back. I understand, but I'll never give up. You'll always be my girlfriend to me. Chris, the one and only person that knew the reel me and loved me for it. But now you don't. That hurts like you can't imagine.
I'll always love, I love you now. I don't know when ill be able to manage, but I know that I'm not getting over you. Ever. Im sorry if that's not what you want to hear, but I haven been over you for 8 years now. You're my one true love. No one else will ever compare, and I really don't want to have to compare. You win. You'll always win.
forgot this one...
dear Miss Bryan,
you were great in bed, but lousy in the head. Two good years thrown away because you needed a "fix" from another man... and then called me to your bed cause he didn't get you off.
I had your crap packed and out on the curb the day I found out. Done. Bye-bye.
my only regret is getting you off that one last time.
=) man... that feels nice.
Hmm,
You broke up with me and said you don't love me anymore. Then you treat me like for over a month giving me false hope and you then find another person to be with within 3 weeks after a 4 year relationship with me. Then recently you ask me how I am, how my midterms go by text and tell me that in the future maybe I can talk to you again? Wow, you make it seem like it is a privilege for me to earn to talk to you especially after you did that to me. Even as we speak, your act of kindness is sounds so immature. You're not some Goddess to still treat me like that...
I actually still question why I come back to this site, maybe I'm not as over the break up as I thought I was. And I have someone new as well, and things are great, I just still think of the ex quite often, and I cannot help it. As I've said in a previous post, I think I miss who I thought she was, as opposed to who she is now because I know she has changed abit.
Dear ex
Im not in pain anymore, but I still have a massive issue with regard to you meeting someone new so soon after we broke up. In fact, I believe the guy was on the scene before we even broke up, and that just plays on my mind so much, you even said you and him were texting each other the month before we broke up. It was a six year relationship and you have disgraced it by your actions. I know I wasn't the best boyfriend in our last year, but I never hurt you, cheated on you, treated you badly, I just didn't do anything special either, and I know where I went wrong. But nothing I did warranted what you have done. I know you are going out with that guy from work now, I found out recently, and that has just opened up the wounds that were beginning to close. Its been over 6 months now, approaching 7, and I feel betrayed by you even though we haven't had contact in months. I think you left me for someone else , and I don't forgive for it, and don't think I ever will.
I came so close to contacting you recently, I feel like I need you to say something to me like "i didnt leave you for somone else" just so that it helps me, but I know its too late for something like that. It just makes me feel down to know that you were working with the bloke whilst we were together, and he was obviously trying it on with you, or at least letting you know he liked you when we were together, because there is not a chance this all came about 3 weeks after we broke up. That's when I found out about him, because you sent me a text that was supposed to go to him, and you lied, and denied it so much. In fact you lied to me about so much stuff the day we broke up, I even asked you if there was anyone else you said no, but there was, or at least you knew something about another guy.
If this had been a straight brake up, without any of the other stuff on top of it I would be passed this by now, but you had to add more to it, you couldn't just let things be straightforward, and now after so long I still think of us together happy. I am happy with someone else now, and she is brilliant, and I don't want you back or anything like that, I just wish we never were together in the first place as it would have saved my going through what I'm going through now. I feel like the whole relationship was a waste of time, and still can't believe you didn't tell me you had a problem sooner. You didn't even want to work on it, you just told me you didn't love me anymore, and that was it. Well now I know why, because of someone else being interested, and you being interested back.
I don't actually feel any emotion writing this now, its purely psychological, my mind re running old memories for whatever reason, I just wish it was over now, as I've had enough. And I get annoyed at the fact that your proberly living your life now, with your new guy not giving me a second thought. So unfair.
Im not all right with you at all, and if I ever see you again it will be too soon, at least that's how I feel now anyway!
I hate to dig up an old thread, but this is a good one and I think some of the newer people don't know about it :)
This isn't really a letter I'd like to send to my ex, but it's a song which I would really like her to hear/read the lyrics of - but that's not the best idea. So instead, I'm writing it out here :)
Not so much sad, but describes my respectful and accepting feelings towards her. Was tempted to put it in a place she would see, but I'll refrain :)Quote:
Sometimes faith feels like doubt,
And sometimes I wonder if we'll ever get out.
Sometimes life hurts, just like now.
But you got to know its all going to come back around.
I wish you well, I wish you well
On this trip to find yourself.
I wish you well, wish I could help
But I can't help you find yourself...
A letter to my ex...
Dear E,
How are you? I hope the consulting job is going well, and the traveling is going smoothly. I'm sorry I haven't called recently. I wanted to contact you so badly, but, I wasn't sure if you wanted to hear from me. Honey, I am so sorry that I said what I said. I really do want to spend my life with you and be your wife. The reason I got cold feet is due to the past; the fact that you kept running away. I was nervous that once I moved to Georgia, and if God for bid we ever had a disagreement, argument, or any situation that couples go through, you would leave or emotionally yo-yo again. Baby, I want to be in it the for the long haul, and I need to feel secure with you, and unfortunately, I didn't because of your prior actions. I don't want you to ever have a wall up with me, I want to know what you need, baby. I know I am emotional at times, but so is everyone, and I am willing to try and keep myself in check, especially with my insecurties. Honey, I really want to talk about us, and reconcile. I know that you are hurt, and maybe you feel that you can't trust me now because I left the relationship this time, but, please let me back in, and lets talk. I have taken you back in the past, I ask that you would offer me the same. The love we have for one another has already been established. Let us please get past this hurdle, work on us, together. I love you, E... more than you can imagine.
PS - I am looking forward to going to the concert and spending time with you. I hope you still would like me there.
Love always and forever,
Karen
I really want to send this to him...
Any advise/comments on this would be greatly appreciated..
Hi Everyone, should I send what I wrote (above) or do you think he would blow it off? What do you think? I don't want to sound pushy, or needy, or anything...
... not too pushy.Quote:
Originally Posted by starlite1
Needy... a bit.
Starlite, I've been following your story on and off... and it seems to me that the overall consensus on this forum has been, "Don't contact him...wait until he contacts you."
However, you're probably more in the right as no one here knows you, your ex, your relationship, or your situation. With that said, by sending that letter, you need to be aware that he may say multiple things:
1. he might say, OK. Let's get back together.
2. or NO. I hate you. Get out of my life forever.
Or the alternate
I found someone else. Sorry.
... You need to be ready for ALL of these, and by ready, I don't mean for you to say, "Yeah, I'm prepared." But really... be absolutely ready. If you're OK with ANY of these three, then fine. Send your letter. If you're not prepped to hear anything but #1... then you may have a tough time dealing with what happens afterwards.
Hi Sneeze,
You are right... I really want to here #1. I will hold off on sending this to him. I will wait and see if he contacts me down the road.
I know I can't go down the road of 'i should have, would have, could have', but I could have, should have, would have giving this a really great chance. My God, I love this man... I know my fears were valid in a way, but hell, my insecurites probably got in my way too... Dammit!! :( :( :(
I also know that many of us, we feel that if we didn't do that ONE thing, or if we changed that ONE behavior, things would have worked out, then we blame ourselves for it.
In all honesty, you realize down the road that... that's really not it. Sure, you have faults, but the thing we don't realize is how many faults that our exes also had. Faults aren't the problem... it's that the faults didn't mesh well.
Another thing we have to realize is that if we got back with our exes, chances are (there are exceptions... ), those problems will come back. Not within a week, not within a month, but sometime down the road. That's why we take this "nc" time to get ourselves into better shape... to become a better person, then go from there.
Keep your head up. We're all rootin for you.
You are very wise to hold off sending that. Having been down that road myself I know how hard it can be to maintain no contact, but believe me that's the best thing for you to do. I made a mistake shortly after my breakup by trying to get back in touch with my ex. He told me that he was seeing someone else and that he was in love with her. Needless to say I was devastated! Don't risk putting yourself through that. If he wants contact he knows where to find you. Just focus on yourself, and remember. As bad as you think things are right now, they WILL get better, trust me!! :)Quote:
Originally Posted by starlite1
Thank you Sneezy and Firefly,
You are all so great. I know you are right. It hurts, because, there is always a chance that he may never contact me again... I hope and pray that isn't the case...
Dear Jerk I mean John
Dear John,
I am writing this letter to express my earnest feelings towards you. How could I have ever lived with you? You take my breath away literally! Whenever you speak to me I would almost pass out. Remember that time you whispered in my ear and I passed out? I would never forget that day because I offered you gum and you refused it broke my heart and stomach. How could you do that to me for 2 long years? How could you be so selfish? Again I forgave you for that because I wanted to love you unconditionally but that was not enough for you. I keep thinking I will never find anyone as special as you are. Remember when you wrote me that email and said that you would break up with me for not “believeing you” and I told you that you had it all wrong. You didn't listen to me because you would have known that you misspelled believing wrong. But again you didn't care. I was hurt when you told all of your friends about our sex life, and I was so disappointed that you left out the real facts. I didn't even realize that we were intimate because I was too busy talking to my friend on the phone. Oh remember that promise ring you gave me. That was the sweetest thing you have done, and I am very grateful that you remembered I was allergic to fake jewelry and had to get a tetanus shot from it tarnishing. You really left a loving impression on me in which I will never forget. You love me so much that on my birthday you sent me flowers that had someone else name on the card. I know it was the florist fault. They sent the wrong flowers, even though you were the one who delivered them. Wow! You are special! I just wanted to write this letter to Thank you For allowing me to see what a real looser you are and thanks for being so caring and doing me a favor of breaking up. I was getting really tired of faking it. Anyway, I must go now and celebrate our break up. By the time you reach this I hope you are in good spirits, and tell your new girlfriend she is lucky to have someone like you. I wish I was her right now so I can slap the tastelessness right out of you.
With much Love
Jerk-free
Hi Jolienoire,
That letter was excellent! YOU GO GIRL! :) :)
I am sorry that he treated you that way, you definatley deserve better!
Lol, It is my way of coping when writing a letter to help you get over someone I find that if you instead of putting them on a pedastal write all of the things wrong it helps with the healing process.. This is just from my personal experience, it is not that you are being mean but if it helps your own sanity, then I would suggest it.
... jolienoire...
... where do you meet people like that?!
Fake jewelry. Wrong name on flowers.
... if you're going to be a bad boyfriend, at least be GOOD at being a bad boyfriend. Holy crap.
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Oh No, Not me... not with fake jewelry and flowers... But I did write a break up letter it was just a sample.. but you know this did happen to my friend she became vulnerable from her divorce and started to date lets just say men she would have never given a chance...
Dearest Erin,
I watched P.S. I Love You last night and got inspired, you know me =). You don't have to read any further, I will never know, but this will be the last letter. You were right about the movie, it was amazing. I still hadn't really gotten through the denial of what's happened, but watching that let me just cut loose and let out everything I had been keeping in, you would have laughed at how emotional I was. The beginning where he hits himself in the eye and she stubs her toe had me laughing out loud because it reminded me of how things always went with us, whether that be me having to walk around downtown in the beater cause I spilled gatorade all over my shirt or how the movies we went to or rented were always so terrible. I need to let you go, so I wanted to write you this letter, something people don't do enough of anymore. The Duncan jersey is for you to do whatever you wish, for me it's a part of you that I am still carrying with me, so I am returning this piece of me that you left here. When I told Sarah I felt like I needed to write you she got mad at me, told me how life wasn't a movie, and I couldn't agree more, but it should be. Thank you for helping me get to where I am, helping me finish school, and being there for me to support me and let me know that there are a lot of great things in the future. I had an interview with Eli Lilly today and I got accepted to P.A. school at Midwestern, so please, whenever you feel like things are too heavy for you to carry and that things aren't going to work out, I hope that you know how many opportunities there are for you and how successful you will be if you just don't give up. Thank you for all the laughter we had, I haven't ever laughed as much with anyone as I've laughed with you, you truly were my best friend. I've realized that loving someone means wanting someone to be happy, whether that be having that person in your life, or letting them move on to the things that they want for their future. It was a gift and a privilege to learn and grow in love with you. So here is me really letting you go, forgiving you for how things ended between us and telling you how much you moved me, how you changed me. You made me a man, by loving me Erin. And for that, I am grateful. If you could promise me anything, I hope that whenever you're sad, or unsure, or you lose complete faith, that you'll try to see yourself through my eyes. Thank you for the time we spent together, what I've learned will help me more than you know. I'm a man with no regrets and for this, I do feel lucky. When we see each other in our new lives I'll smile at you with joy and remember how we loved and learned for one another.
May God bless and keep you
Chris
P.S. I Love You
(I feel like sending this to my ex, I feel like this would help me release all of the things I'm keeping inside, and give me the chance to resolve the situation on my own terms)
Hi Chris,
That is absolutley beautiful. I actually got teary while reading it. It sounds like Erin was a special woman, and means a whole lot to you. And I'm sure she knows how lucky she was to have had been in your life. If you feel that sending this letter to her would help you get closure, then I feel that is good thing. You just want to be certain that that is really what your intention is. Please don't misunderstand that statement, I do not mean it in a mean or negative way. You just want to make sure that you are ready to let go, and move on from her. Good Luck!
Dear K. I do love you and part of me always will. I do not know what I did wrong that precicpiatated you leaving me. I wish I knew and at the moment parf of me wishes you would come back. I am still in that crazy place where I think I will never meet another woman as great as you(silly I know but that is what I am feeling). I really wish that you would get hit by a car at the moment and I am wishing great harm to your family. Don't worry these are only thoughts not actions and they will pass.
I have been crying over you everyday since you dumped me. I just wish I knew what I did or didn't do. I look at my phone constantly hoping it will ring. I check my e-mail hoping it is you saying you want to take me back. I miss you so much and I love you and it hurts and I feel silly.
We talked about marriage and kids and all manner of things. K. I love you and deep down inside I just want you to be happy. I don't want anything bad to happen to you. You are an increcible, beautiful, smart, funny and lovely person. I just wish you had chosen to stick by me. I want to call you, but I know you will not answer the phone. I know I just need to recognize that you do not want me in your life. I just wish I knew what I did wrong. All the best, Love, me.
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That was really well written. How are you doing? How was your weekend?
Hi Star thanks for the compliment. My weekend was okay. How was yours?
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It was all right. I was thinking of him/missing him all weekend. Tried keeping busy, but he was in my thoughts all weekend. I know I am going to see him in July, and I want to talk with him, and tell him I didn't mean to break up and I didn't mean what I said about me not being able to ever get married or move there, but the truth is I want to, on all accounts. I really need him to know why I said what I said, and understand it. I want to work things out, I just don't want him to yo-yo any more. I know, because of the way he is, when I bring all this up and say I want to have us back, he will most likely say 'I'll think about it" then weeks/months may go by and he will either say 'No' and then all of a sudden come back months later. I really hope he still feels the love for me, and this has a positive outcome this time... I don't know how to get through to him... Being a man, do you know how I should handle this?
I'm sorry for going off on a tangent... How are you? How was your weekend?
I think there's nothing you can do to control another person. He's proven his yo-yo behavior over years, so it seems to be a part of his mo. I think the best thing you can do is have a busy life and if he comes around, so much the better. But you can't revolve around him.Quote:
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However, I know it's easier said than done. Believe me, I know.
Hi freeatlast,
You are right, and that is the thing. I don't want to control him, I want him to come back because he really wants to. I just love this man so much, and I really wish he would look inside of himself and see why I said what I said. I don't mean to lay blame on him, but that was the reasoning behind my actions. I want to work on things, together...
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