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The only comfort I get from that is knowing this girl is such a low life piece of crap with so much baggage and drama in her life she is soon going to make his life a living hell.

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I can relate Missinghim2much. My ex is now with his best female friend, so when he and I were together I got to know her pretty good. She does things that are pretty questionable which makes me wonder why my ex, who is pretty devout in his faith and has a 5 year old son, would even want to have a relationship with her.

A girl friend of mine ran into my ex and his girl about a week ago. She didn't realize that she had gone to school with her and so she called me asking why he would want to be with her because she had always been such a loser. I told her that that would be something that my ex would have to figure, out and when he does he need not call me. He filled his pig sty with mud, now let him wallow in it!. I'm not bitter, just brutally honest. :)

Hey there missing...

At least you get a break now and then. I live downstairs from mine. When he found out I have cancer, he changed the lock to his door so that I cannot even get my stuff out - I'll worry about that later though, and will get it eventually. I'm not as hurt as you were because he was such an a-hole that I'm actually glad that he 'dumped' me

He purposely walks by my window near the backyard, sits on the picnic table near the fishpond every day, and I also hear him walk around upstairs, so there is no way I can 'forget' him. But now I'm so busy planning the life I have left, playing music he never liked and turning up the volume so that he no longer stays outside too long - that's my little way of getting revenge and enjoying music I neglected while I was with him. I also know it bothers him that his son and I get along, our neighbors visit me more than they did before now, so he is lonelier than I am. I even hum some tunes when I take the trash out just to show him that he does not bother me and that gets him even more upset.

I also have comfort in knowing that he will wind up on dialysis because I maintained his diet, nursed him and made sure he kept his blood pressure down. Also know he has no new 'bed bunny' or anyone else to cook for him. His son (my ex-son-in-law - long story) still goes out with me and my daughter and grandson. We go to parks and fast-food places and don't invite dumbhead to go along. I rent my place from son-in-law and my ex actually wanted him to give me notice to move.. but I'm still here. The way I see it is that it's his LOSS, not mine, and you will soon see it that way too, no matter how many 'ladies' he goes with - he will NEVER forget you and that can comfort you also. You are special, he's nothing.

Invite a new friend to cook with you, try out some new menus and make new memories, it's never too late to get a taste for something else and soon that old stuff will be very stale - literally.
Give the place a new paintjob, buy new bathroom mats, change soaps and rearrange the bedroom.

Keep up living your life to the fullest and you'll have new memories before you know it and he'll be a creep from the past, and we all have them.

All the best hon... things will get better, I promise.

So, you see, whether we are female or male, survival first, advancement second, and a new life on it's way!

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I guess I am not as well off as I thought I was. From my thread got a text sos, I have fallen back into complete chaos. I am a basketcase. Man I wish I would have not fallen so hard for this girl. I am in such misery!!!!! Can't seem to get myself back together. She is being soo cruel and hurtful.

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We've all been through cruelty, hurtful and even hatefulness, but I promise it will get better. Write a diary and re-read some of the threads here and you'll see that the changes you are going through right now will make you stronger. Five years from now, you'll be so indifferent because your life will be so much more balanced and you'll seek new adventures.

Lots of luck, and many hugs.

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Things have been going pretty well for me. It has been about... 2 1/2 months since break up. We unfortunitly started contacting again last week. That was probably one of the dumber things I could do. It took me down for about 2-3 days just cause she was trying to convience me she loved me, only she just wanted someone to talk to too. Things will get better. I have made awesome new friends, and have been meeting new people.

Unfortunitly I have still been having the same probel of compairing new girls to her. Which is something I need to get over and fast. I am picking myself back up. Thankfully I will not be going back to my hometown until around christmas time. I see that as more of a blessing now.

She changed a lot got lip pierced and started being "emo" when she was really "preppy/pink" type. Kind of a big turn off for me, but w/e. She had broken up with her last boyfriend "for me" but then they got back together a week later. All in what I figured would happen.

I am praying that the day where I find someone 10x better and new will come, and all the pain will be in the past forever!

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Hey there missing...

At least you get a break now and then. I live downstairs from mine. When he found out I have cancer, he changed the lock to his door so that I cannot even get my stuff out - I'll worry about that later though, and will get it eventually. I'm not as hurt as you were because he was such an a-hole that I'm actually glad that he 'dumped' me

He purposely walks by my window near the backyard, sits on the picnic table near the fishpond every day, and I also hear him walk around upstairs, so there is no way I can 'forget' him. But now I'm so busy planning the life I have left, playing music he never liked and turning up the volume so that he no longer stays outside too long - that's my little way of getting revenge and enjoying music I neglected while I was with him. I also know it bothers him that his son and I get along, our neighbors visit me more than they did before now, so he is lonelier than I am. I even hum some tunes when I take the trash out just to show him that he does not bother me and that gets him even more upset.

I also have comfort in knowing that he will wind up on dialysis because I maintained his diet, nursed him and made sure he kept his blood pressure down. Also know he has no new 'bed bunny' or anyone else to cook for him. His son (my ex-son-in-law - long story) still goes out with me and my daughter and grandson. We go to parks and fast-food places and don't invite dumbhead to go along. I rent my place from son-in-law and my ex actually wanted him to give me notice to move.. but I'm still here. The way I see it is that it's his LOSS, not mine, and you will soon see it that way too, no matter how many 'ladies' he goes with - he will NEVER forget you and that can comfort you also. You are special, he's nothing.

Invite a new friend to cook with you, try out some new menus and make new memories, it's never too late to get a taste for something else and soon that old stuff will be very stale - literally.
Give the place a new paintjob, buy new bathroom mats, change soaps and rearrange the bedroom.

Keep up living your life to the fullest and you'll have new memories before you know it and he'll be a creep from the past, and we all have them.

All the best hon... things will get better, I promise.

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Hi Chery,

Geeez he does sound like an a-hole. I almost wish sometimes mine had been, it would be easier I think. He was really good to me so that makes me miss him all that much more. I guess what he's done since the breakup could be considered an a-hole thing to do but all I can remember is how good he treated me and how much fun we had together, even after all those years together. I think the thing that probably breaks my heart the most is thinking that he has forgotten all we shared and all we meant to each other for so long. We accumulated a lot of stuff in 7 yrs and he left it all. Stereos, Video games, furniture, camping gear, fishing gear and he left it all.

A friend of mine works at McDonalds and he said he saw my ex and his new ready made family there. His girlfriend and her 4 children under the ages of 7. She only has custody of 2 so she must have had the other 2 for Halloween. And of course she's pregnant with twins, ( may or may not be his ) so they are going to have 6 kids here soon. Lots of his friends and some of my family think he's going to try and take these twins if they turn out to be his and bring them back for me to raise. He better hope that's not what he's planning. He'd have to be f'd up to think I'm going to raise this crazy ho's babies.

Anyway Chery thanks for the words of encouragment. I need every bit of positive support I can get. And please take care of yourself and don't let that fool upstairs get you down.

It's been about 9 months since my ex fiancé broke up with me again.Although I stll think of her sometimes. I am so much better now then 3 months ago. Time does heal the pain of a break up.

I have been seeing this one girl on and off for almost the last month, and its made me realize that I truly am not over my ex. It sucks a lot right now, but I actually want to be alone for a while it looks like.

And for no apparent reason the dreams about the ex have returned this last week, which REALLY sucks. Sleep is supposed to be the one part of the day where my brain doesn't think about her!

Mine was a year ago, now I feel totally healed and have began to date again. Ive met a very nice guy and we are taking things slow.

It takes time , but allow yourself to feel through all the emotions.

Time really helps..

Everything happens for a reason.

I guess I am still in my healing processs like most of everyone else here. I am a little upset at myself for still thinking about him so much. I even have thoughts of how he had sex w/me and what he may be doing with someone else, and it can get pretty torturous.

I have to admit, and I may sound biased by this, but I am kind of fighting the feeling of hating men sometimes. I love them, but I hate them at the same time. It happens when I recall or experience situations where I'm approached by someone I know isn't interested in me seroiusly, and their trying to slick talk, or invite me to come over and drink with them, or something along those lines. I mean its nice to be invited in a way, but I know their intentions and it starts to piss me off in my head.
I guess I think about my ex, and how I was vulnerable and got tricked by his repeated requests for my company, like he cared about me to some degree, when he just wanted to "get some" and have company for a little while. Men know how women are, and I think its very mean and deceptive to pursue and continue sleeping with a woman when you know that you have no good intentions for her.

Anyway, that's just a little of what I'm battling at the moment; part of my healing I guess...

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I guess I am still in my healing processs like most of everyone else here. I am a little upset at myself for still thinking about him so much. I even have thoughts of how he had sex w/me and what he may be doing with someone else, and it can get pretty torturous.

I have to admit, and I may sound biased by this, but I am kind of fighting the feeling of hating men sometimes. I love them, but I hate them at the same time. It happens when I recall or experience situations where I'm approached by someone I know isn't interested in me seroiusly, and their trying to slick talk, or invite me to come over and drink with them, or something along those lines. I mean its nice to be invited in a way, but I know their intentions and it starts to piss me off in my head.
I guess I think about my ex, and how I was vulnerable and got tricked by his repeated requests for my company, like he cared about me to some degree, when he just wanted to "get some" and have company for a little while. Men know how women are, and I think its very mean and deceptive to pursue and continue sleeping with a woman when you know that you have no good intentions for her.

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Hey Kia, I know how you feel. I also think about how she had sex with me and how she can be doing whatever she is doing now. It drives me up the wall!! I feel like such a doormat. However I don't agree with your putting all men into that boat. We are all not like that, I do know that most guys are, but not all of us. I could say that about women as well, she pulled a big fast one on me and it broke my heart. Seems both male and female's are equal able to be hated. I am doing my best to not think of it anymore, but yes it still hurts. I just wish I had not fallen so hard for her. I feel like such a sap now since I am the one still in love with her and she dropped me like I was nothing. Just hurts, I hope you are able to feel better, as I hope we all are.

It will be 3 months of NC for me in a week or so. Every day I think of her less and less. I still miss her though and wonder what is going on with her and hope she is doing well. I still can't say I wouldn't try to work it out with her eventually but right now I am in no place to be with someone. I miss her though...

Love u Ki

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Am in the same boat as all of you its been a month and a half for me.. I still miss her a lot there is not one minute that passes by where I don't think about her... she broke up with me after datin for four years over nothing just said she was not feeling me anymore and that I was making her happy.. that really hurt because I felt I was giving her my I spend every spare time I had with her, helped her in anyway and always supported her with her decisions.. yet this was not enough... know I hear from my mother who has seen her walking around with another guy huggin each other.. and that just kills me to know that she is moving on so quick as if a 4yr of relationship was nothing to her.. I haven't contact her in 2 weeks last time I did was out of anger of hearing she was already datin.. I feel so stupid for having done that..
I find some peace in reading other ppls similar issues lets me know am not alone in my feelings yet I wish none of us was going through it...

The best of it is, we are all here crying our hearts out and one day we will all be married with a family and all happy. (talking mostly to the younger people, but you know what I mean) I too miss my ex, but what can you do? Spend every day crushed with self pity? We are all better than that, there is that special someone out there for all of us. Don't forget that.

Personally I'm starting to get worried, as I feel like I've reached a wall in the healing. It really bugs me because I know she is gone forever, and if I could just move on that would be great. Im worried that I might be slipping into a depression (I was on some prescription for it years and years ago) and I really don't want to get stuck in a rut.

This sucks!

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Personally im starting to get worried, as I feel like ive reached a wall in the healing. It really bugs me because I know she is gone forever, and if I could just move on that would be great. Im worried that I might be slipping into a depression (I was on some prescription for it years and years ago) and I really dont want to get stuck in a rut.

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I have battled depression all my life and to be honest just recently after seeing a

Therapist did I realize what was causing my grief. #1 stop beating yourself up for mistakes.

That is HUGE! We all make mistakes and it is all normal. That and also doing some

Exercise have helped me sooo much! Keep focused and don't forget to be a little bit easier

On yourself. That helped me allot! GOOD LUCK!

madaman, are you going to want to stay in this rut forever? No you don't. What things do you do in your spare time? Have you got many mates? Do you go out much? You don't need prescriptions, your better than that. You need to make the most of your life, stop getting slumped in the dumps, trust me you will meet someone else, someone better and someone who deserves you. I know I will, and I know everyone else here will too.

My family has a history of depression, but I will never go back on any prescriptions for it, so that's not a worry of mine. I have a fair amount of friends and I go out somewhere every 2nd or 3rd night right now (concerts etc). Since the breakup I have been going through up and down phases, but this down phase as of late has not changed one bit. Ive already met a couple other girls but it was way too soon and I had to stop seeing them which sucked.

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My family has a history of depression, but I will never go back on any prescriptions for it, so thats not a worry of mine. I have a fair amount of friends and I go out somewhere every 2nd or 3rd night right now (concerts etc). Since the breakup I have been going through up and down phases, but this down phase as of late has not changed one bit. Ive already met a couple other girls but it was way too soon and I had to stop seeing them which sucked.

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Yea I tried to see girls right away also but I just couldn't even be around them.

Good Luck! If you need to chat drop me a message.

Keep pushing!

Yeah same as. I am going through the same thing, I can go out with my friends and have a good laugh and they are all there for me, they even talk to me about how to get over my ex. How it's her loss etc etc. I also have up and down phases, one minute I'm fine and then the next I see something or am somewhere which reminds me of me and my ex, if you know what I mean. And it hits me for a couple of minutes. It will take time, so lets just keep our heads up.

I hit a really big wall last night as far as trying to heal myself. I went to the movies with my sister and as we were walking in I saw my ex boyfriend at the snack counter. He was with his girlfriend, his 5 year old son and her six year old daughter. My ex and his girl had their arms around each other and they looked like a little family. The pain I felt was indescribable. He and I used to go to the movies like that with his son and my 5 year old nephew. We used to do so many things like that together and we felt like we were a family. He looked so happy to be with her the way that he always seemed to be with me. I haven't slept all night. It's been over six months now. When is the hurt supposed to stop. I don't know how much more of it I can take.

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I hit a really big wall last night as far as trying to heal myself. I went to the movies with my sister and as we were walking in i saw my ex bf at the snack counter. He was with his gf, his 5 year old son and her six year old daughter. My ex and his girl had their arms around each other and they looked like a little family. The pain i felt was indescribable. He and i used to go to the movies like that with his son and my 5 year old nephew. We used to do so many things like that together and we felt like we were a family. He looked so happy to be with her the way that he always seemed to be with me. I haven't slept all night. It's been over six months now. When is the hurt supposed to stop. I don't know how much more of it i can take.

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That's my question as well, WHEN is the HURT supposed to stop? I've been lucky in the fact I have'nt seen my ex with his new girlfriend and all her kids but my friend seen them at McDonalds on Halloween. Just hearing about it broke my heart. It's almost like the faster they get on with their lives the slower we heal. I have'nt heard that they are getting married or anything but I did have a dream that they did and he chose my Birthday as the date just to be mean.

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It's almost like the faster they get on with their lives the slower we heal. I have'nt heard that they are getting married or anything but I did have a dream that they did and he chose my Birthday as the date just to be mean.

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I know what you mean MissingHim, one thing that still gets me is the fact that I got an e-mail from my ex a while back telling me that I had done nothing wrong and that his feelings for me had been real. So, why now her and not me? I haven't had any dreams about them getting married, but I could so see them choosing a day like my birthday just to be mean. The thing is, it wouldn't be my ex that would choose that day, it would be his girlfriend.

She and I had become friends while I was with my ex (she had been his best friend for a few years) When he broke up with me to try reconcile with his now ex wife (they had been separated for a couple of years), She acted so upset for me, and wanted things to work out between me and my ex. According to her I was the best thing that had ever happened to him. When the reconciliation didn't work and the divorce proceedings started she and my ex suddenly started seeing each other in a different light (only a month into his divorce). I honestly believe she was just waiting for the moment to come that she could have him for herself.

[QUOTE=little firefly]I know what you mean MissingHim, one thing that still gets me is the fact that I got an e-mail from my ex a while back telling me that I had done nothing wrong and that his feelings for me had been real. So, why now her and not me? I haven't had any dreams about them getting married, but I could so see them choosing a day like my birthday just to be mean. The thing is, it wouldn't be my ex that would choose that day, it would be his girlfriend.

I don't honestly think he would choose my Birthday to get married. It was just a bad dream. He was a good boyfriend and treated me really good throughout our whole relationship.

I don't really think he will actually marry this tramp... I hope he has more brains then that. Rumor has it he's only with her to get a baby. For some reason we were unable to have one and something he said to me about a week before he left leads me to believe it might be the case. He said he wanted to have a baby with me but if we couldn't he would have one with some random girl..

Yeah that is something I've been wondering myself, when IS the hurt going to stop? Its getting ridiculous at this point. Im lucky that I live in a big enough city that I probably won't run into my ex (fingers crossed) but I dread the day that happens if so.

There is an old saying time is a healer !

Everyone is different when it come's to a break up, some people can heal over night and for some it takes along long time before the hurt goes away..

A lot of times the Ex can play in your mind and playing a cd, going out to a bar eating out at a certain place can bring a lot of hurt back to the front of your mind.

That's why its good to keep yourself busy and moving forwards, that person will always be a memory, but over time people learn to let go ! In time that person may only crop up at certain times of the year etc, but for the most part as time goes by you will maybe wake up one day and not think about them.

I usually experience that the posters on relationships have to endure a lot of time getting over their latest mucked up relationsip and I try to help them through the process.

My relationship ended abruptly because I received a diagnosis of cancer recently. When HE found out, the lock on his apartment door was changed the next day. No 'sorry but I cannot handle this', no 'too bad', no emotions whatsoever. It hurt like heck, and I'm upset because some of my stuff is still in his place, but guess what, I'm so happy that I'm rid of this unemotional self-serving egotistical %&stard, that it does not bother me to be alone. I am enjoying the time I have left doing things I like doing, staying up all night watching sci-fi, or playing on my computer, going out with my grandson, and spending more time with my neighbors and friends who know both of us and they have noticed a positive change in me.

So, guess what, it does take time to heal, some slow, some fast, it depends on the circumstances..

There is hope for all of us, and happiness at the end of that road, no matter how long we travel on it.

Wishing you all a wonderful journey in any and all of your relationships and hope they are better than mine ever was!

Love,
Chery

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I've not long been dumped myself, and it's starting to really knock my confidence, I just seem to do too much for my girlfriend or try and be as nice as I can if you know what I mean, my ex had no job and I did everything for us, paid for holidays etc. it really upsets me. It's as though I feel scared of having another relationship, the fear of getting hurt again just hits me.

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I've not long been dumped myself, and it's starting to really knock my confidence, i just seem to do too much for my girlfriend or try and be as nice as i can if you know what i mean, my ex had no job and i did everything for us, paid for holidays etc. it really upsets me. it's as though I feel scared of having another relationship, the fear of getting hurt again just hits me.

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Build your confidence back up, that's priority number 1.
If you cannot learn how to handle rejection - which is something we all have to live with - then you need to build a log cabin way out in the woods, become a hermit for the rest of your life. That's the only way to prevent you from further experiences, good or bad. That's life.

When you were a baby, you fell down a lot, got back up and kept on going. That was all a learning process and now you can walk without falling down, and dress yourself, use a fork and knife, and don't need diapers anymore. Well, that was also a part of life you had no control over until you had help, guidance and gained experience..

Do the things that you can control well, be confident in them, and then let life just happen as it does to all of us and learn. You'll have new experiences, make new memories, make new mistakes, experience new interests and happiness - all that - until the day comes where you take your last breath. And at each step of the way, you'll find good people that will help you, bad people that will try to hinder your progress, and support from family and friends that you didn't know would ever come... so live life to the fullest, dear and I promise - it's not all that bad.

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_9_16.gif Welcome to the Human race. It sucks some times, but it's better than being a roach or fly, at least from our point of view. They might love their life, but humans are different.

I was doing Great! Until yesterday I go home to find a package, with a bottle of wine some lottery scratch off's a note and some kind words! He personally delivered to my house and I was not home thank GOD because I would have went back to day one... THis was the first form of contact since we broke up and I think he was expecting me to be home! He could have mailed me my keys, and Emailed me a letter But why did he do this? He promised to keep in touch, and the letter stated I would always hold a special place in his heart(he sprayed his cologne).. yada yada he loves me, it's so hard to be away from me but he needs this time to think... As It was a nice gesture and he didn't have to do that... I didn't know how to respond, I just texted him very generic Saying Thank you. I didn't get all mushy although I did get butterflies to see something waiting for me when I arrived. This EFFORT he made has really confused me, and I was doing great without the contact I would have preferred he mailed my things As he told me he would. Why Did he do this and why go out of his way, making a 2 hour drive, I think he was expecting me to be home..

Great topic.

I went 3 months NC and it was hard some days and real easy the next. ALAS I caved and called her after 3 months, not really sure why? She picked up, we had a good talk about nothing and now we chat on MSN. It goes against the NC, which makes perfect sense, I guess it will depend on how things turn out to say what would have been best.

I guess that's the killer part, the "what if" I call or "what if" something changed, leads us either one way or the other. I hope you all are content with whichever road you chose, cause relationship pain really,really, sucks:(

Time to dredge this topic back up again I think.

Its been a month since I posted this one, and its been a bumpy ride. I find myself getting depressed every few days, but on the bright side its not really about her anymore. My buddy let slip last night that he saw a picture of her with the guy she left me for, and it made me feel like absolute dirt. It wore off after a couple hours but it still sucked. My buddies think I'm over her so they do bring up the subject every now and then. The good part to that is that apparently the guy looks like a total loser, balding and fat, but then I start thinking about the fact she left me for him. Its really a lose-lose situation to think about haha. Its slowly dawning on me how messed up she is though, and that nothing I could have done would have saved the relationship. The guy is almost 10 years older than her (shes 19) and working the night shift at a warehouse.

I plan on getting myself something great for christmas this year, to ease the pain of being alone on that cursed day.

I feel for you madman, I really do:( I woudn't wish these situations on my WORST ex-girl, but they happen.

I think its hard that your friends think your over her and they bring it up. My ex knows my brothers and I let on that I'm over her (not), but I worry that they'll tell me things thinking I'm over her. I'd tell them to NEVER tell you anything, I know a pic with another dude is like an arrow through the heart, its always best not to know.

Wish I could make it go away but some things have to happen I guess. If it makes you feel any better... I hate your ex-girlfriend and her new man too:)

Hope it helps.

I really wish that I could say that I'm starting to feel better, but I can't. It seems like anytime I try to move forward something happens to push me backwards again.

Unfortunately, I have to pass near where my ex boyfriend works when I head home from my job in the evenings. Tonight on my way home I passed him and his girlfriend leaving his work to go get something to eat together (something that he and I had done many times when we were a couple). It made me remember how very much I miss him, and that I feel so totally alone.

I just really want to be able to feel happy again.

Well I do feel sorry that you have to see them together, as I know I would be a lot worse if I had to see my ex with their new person.

Is there no way to avoid seeing him? Taking a different route? I can guarantee not seeing him will allow you to heal more quick. I know just seeing a picture of my ex or hearing her name, it is like a kick to the stomach every time. It can actually cause physical pain, which is crazy and I try to avoid those situations as much as possible.

Even though it will be a couple of miles out of my way, I do think it would be best for me to take another way home. It made me feel physically sick when I saw them yesterday. I was reminded that it wasn't long ago that it was me that he was with, but now he has someone else to love.

All my friends tell me that I need to just get back out and start dating again. I would like to, but I know that I can't until I feel that I can give my full attention to whoever I'm with. It wouldn't be fair to my new guy and it wouldn't be fair to me either.

Well it's been four months now... I'm pretty sure that I've finally grasped the concept that it's over for good, but the thing I want to know is. WHY is it when I tell myself it's time to COMPLETELY LET GO it sends me into a PANIC?? Why does the thought of totally letting him go scare the hell out of me?

I'm currently 2 and a half weeks NC. Relationship ended by my ex for no decent reason about 5 weeks ago. I look on this site everyday and the help and support I've had is undescribable. I am definitely over the worst, but still going through the "what if" stage but I'm sure I'll soon get over that. I'm only 21 and it felt like my life was over, I'm also quite low on confidence at the moment, to go out and meet a new girl, I've never felt like that before so I just don't know what it is. I just feel like wanting to settle down, I know it's such an early age but do you know what I mean?

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I'm pretty sure that I've finally grasped the concept that it's over for good, but the thing I want to know is. WHY is it when I tell myself it's time to COMPLETELY LET GO it sends me into a PANIC?? Why does the thought of totally letting him go scare the hell out of me?

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I can totally relate to that MissingHim, I still have pics of my ex on my myspace profile. I know I need to take them off but I know that by doing that I'll be letting go and that really scares me, almost like I'm cutting him completely out of my life... I guess I should though because I know he's cut me out of his.:(

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Originally Posted by little firefly

I can totally relate to that MissingHim, I still have pics of my ex on my myspace profile. I know i need to take them off but i know that by doing that i'll be letting go and that really scares me, almost like i'm cutting him completely out of my life....I guess i should though because i know he's cut me out of his.:(

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That happened to me my ex girlfriend wasted no time in taking the pics of me and 'us' off her myspace, it really hurt and it felt like I had been stabbed in the heart. Like she didn't care. I kept my pics of 'us' up but after a few weeks I just had to take then off I was making myself look stupid. It's the right thing to do. Do the same. Don't let them get to you, trust me. We are better than them. We will find the one for us, there's somebody out there who wants someone like me and you, just keep telling yourself that. Over n Over if you have too.

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We are better than them. We will find the one for us, there's somebody out there who wants someone like me and you, just keep telling yourself that. Over n Over if you have too

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Thanks Chris, just having someone say that makes me feel better. You're right, we ARE better than they are and there is someone out there deserving of us. I need to stop wasting my time and tears on someone who probably never deserved me in the first place. If I can just get my heart to agree with my head then I think I'll finally be OK. :p