Ask Me Help Desk - What is the reason?

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Originally Posted by The Lake House

I am simply stating her occupation that's all. A nurse is a polite way to call her. I could just come up with a loser, a hoe, how does that sound ppl?

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Originally Posted by The Lake House

I don't want to say much about her.
She goes to church with us, we helped her with her kids before. She flirts with many men, and we all know that her ex husband divorced her b/c she had an affair.
She is not well educated and I would call her a bad woman.
She might know how to seduce a man though

Hey you left right when NeedKarma gave you great advice. But now you suddenly sound a little different (sorry if the reason is that you don't like the advice people are giving, but everyone is trying to help).

Anyway, NeedKarma found someone called nicespringgirl who is exactly like you. Well, now you're back so you can check it out. It's great that this site helps us find that we are more alike than anything. You should check her posts and you will find a lot of great answers that will help you out there.

Also, I don't think people wanted you to call her a hoe or a loser. No one said this, but you are making people sound like they were not logical by asking "well then should I call her this instead of a nurse?"

You're again not understanding what people are telling you. Please read all the posts here and the ones people posted for nicespringgirl to re-evaluate what people are saying.

Yes we agree with you that you are great because of your education, your background, being beautiful, etc, but that doesn't mean you will get this man. He wants something different, and that's okay; you will find someone else who will love all the great things you have to offer.

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Originally Posted by The Lake House

I deeply understand how important ones' inside count.
You misunderstanded my point, I am a very kind person, many ppl have told me I am the nicest person.

You may be a great person, but you may not be the one for him. Don't take it personal.

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Originally Posted by The Lake House

Please don't envy ppl who is doing better than you are.
Grow up with it.

You can say anything you want to hurt others, to be little others.

My life doesn't come easily, it requires so much that you guys can't handle.

I can, so go ahead hate me.

WHat? Who hates you because of this? No one said they hate you because of this.

And what makes you think that other people here don't have problems?

After all, most of us have come here with problems of our own and are seeking advice.

Also, what makes you say that people here can't handle the things you have gone through (as I've pasted you saying above)? I think I've read about some pretty strong and amazing people on this site.

I think your posts could show something you need to work on. You have great things about you, but maybe you need to mature a bit more (I guess we all do in some senses) and learn that some people might not envy you for the reasons you believe a man should choose you (like you making six figures, being pretty, or not being a nurse).

Also, maybe some people might not think that you are doing better than they are.

Does this make sense? You need to realize this. Different things make different people happy.

I don't hate you in the least. I admire you, and think it's great that you have done so much with yourself.

What I didn't (and don't) like is the fact that you think that you're a better "catch" because you have all those things going for you. I am human--I have my own issues, and believe me, every day is a challenge to make myself a better person. But I also think I'm just as good a person as you are. I may not be making 6 figures--but I have a job and pay my bills and still have time to do things I enjoy. I may not be a virgin - I lost my virginity in high school, and got pregnant the second time I had sex (using 3 forms of birth control). I was a straight A studen in high school, and did well in college until I ran out of money. I'm just as intelligent as you are--life just threw different things at me than it threw at you, or I chose differently than you did.

That doesn't mean we both don't have equal rights to try to find happiness! It just means that the man that would be happy with me wouldn't be happy with you, and vice versa.

Turn this around.

If your daughter was to get married or have a relationship with a guy A [ 34, twice divorced, 'average looking,' kids at 16, a nurse ] or guy B [ 28 MBA , 6 figure income, "pure," "better looking" ] who would you choose based on that information alone?

Lake House, as others have said, there are a lot more reasons than age, looks, income, sexual history, for two people to hit it off or not. Kindness, a sense of humor, optimism, faith, family, etc... all play a role.

Just based on the information you have given, it hurts, but this was not meant to be.
But in my judgement [ a politically incorrect term ] you are the better catch. There is someone out there, just not this guy.

Grace and peace

1. Pilots are sometimes very strange (not all, but most I have met, especially the younger generation), let's just say... they like experienced women...

2. Why don't you ask him?

3. Why would you want someone that likes someone else?

4. Men will most of the time choose their mother (I mean the type of woman that reminds them of their mother). I like to meet the future mother-in-law first and if we get along, bingo! I will be a happy girl.

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