I've been in no contact for 2 weeks now. I'm hoping it works. I have a few questions.

Did your ex ever try to contact you? If she did, how did you respond?
Did you do NC right after the break up?

My last conversation with my ex didn't go very well. He knows I'm sad and still want him back so I'm not sure if NC will still make him miss me.

That's awesome! It's always cool to hear how people did with their NC.

I've been NC for almost 10 weeks.

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Pity I'm over the B***H now though =)

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Okay Zell, inquiring minds want to know!
This is the story https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/search...archid=1866076,

I've been in no contact too, for about ten months, but he keeps coming back, and contacts me as a "friend" despite us agreeing a million times that there should be no contact.
It's all on my post. And it's damn confusing :S

Anyway, I'm glad no contact worked for youuuuuuuuu!! Make sure she's trust worthy though. I don't want to sound like a party killer, but be careful and make sure old patterns that were destructive to a relationship are not in her anymore. (Like her still meeting men online while you were together, and then skipping off to another online relationship).

MM in my case back in feb 07 I went NC str8 away. She sent a few texts. Like to say thanks for the valentines day stuff I sent - we had broken up the day before.

After a period of 4 weeks or so she sent me a message on myspace, asking how I was. Anyway from there on I stopped NC. Went out clubbing a few times with her and on her birthday. My best mate and her and me went to a festival. She was seeing someone then and I told her I still liked her. Fowarding on a month she apoligised briefly to me about everything which happened between us. (I think her boyfriend had dumped her)

Anyway I went No contact from then and that was in mid July. Nothing since then :) I have a good job now, I have improved my confidence a lot, my career is looking on the up, I met loads of new people, I am into new things etc. Deep down I hope I one day turn out to be the one that got away. - Bit of an ego thing but hey :]

So zell. How old are you two and how long were you together. And also howl ong were you guys apart? And idd she break up with you? What happen after your split. Did you start dating or did she?

Wow, lots of replys =) I'll try to answer them all...

Erm, we were togther for about 3 months in total, I know it was a short time compared to most but a lot happened in that time, and a lot of emotions were thrown about. We've been apart for about 4 months now I think, she broke up with me for another guy =( (whose she's now split with =) ) She pretty much lied to me about her feelings and stuff, she lied to me about loving me etc etc...
After we split I got pretty depressed, we spoke for like a month afetr but it would always end in arguments, so that's when I decided to do the NC. I went through some pretty bad times during it, mostly due to drinking myself stupid (stay away from alcohol if your doing NC by the way... ) but I got through it I guess, just took each painful day as it came. It really does get better over time, even though I did not see that happerning when she first left.

Thanks to everyone again. You all helped me through it =)

P.S sorry for the late reply as well, I was busy at work, and I'm going on holiday this week :D

Well words of wisdom.. be careful. Don't repeat history

Good luck zell! & thanks for the encouragment on my comment peeps.

I have an old friend who's a few years older than me who had fallen completely in love with an older women who was just coming out of a divorce. Thing is they both had come out of long time relationships... Two heart brakes. Everyone goes through pain but if we repeat the same mistakes... Our past relationships mean nothing. LEARN!