My Account? LOL She has my SS#
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My Account? LOL She has my SS#
I got half way through your post and stopped reading it.:confused:Quote:
Originally Posted by DougE
Advice: If you break up with someone, you can't stay friends. It never or rarely ever works. Too many past feelings and emotions that will always get in the way.:eek:
If you run into them at the grocery store or other public place, say hello. That is it!:rolleyes:
That is a HUGE mistake. I would put an alert on file with th credit bureau in case she decides to get some credit using your info.Quote:
Originally Posted by DougE
Well everyone... I'm happy to say She changed her number last night. So I believe this is it
I have to totally agree with this advice. Sure nothing may ever come of this, but better safe than sorry. You already lost $170,000 to this woman, why risk losing everything.Quote:
Originally Posted by GlindaofOz
Okay, how to put this in a nice way. I am a female. I do not understand why you are investing that type of money in any relationship where you aren't married. No nothing to show for it. She is still in your life not because she wants to be but because of what you can do for her. Listen, from a females point of view, please move on. Get yourself together. The sooner you do the sooner you will meet someone who really wants what you want in life and will do everything 50/50. When you have someone that is willing to meet you half-way that's when you know that you have someone that is really serious about you and the relationship. Let her go and let her fight her own battles and pay her own bills. You should have invested that money.
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Originally Posted by GlindaofOz
Doug will you promise to do this?? I do not want you back on here in two months from now asking how you an get her for identity theft. Please TODAY write up a letter and send it to all three credit bureaus that someone has a social security number and ask for an alert to be placed on you so that way if anyone applies credit you will be alerted immediately.
Ok I don't think any of you heard me. She sent a fax this morning to me stating that she can't do this anymore she needs happiness in her life (as I was a jerk all this past week) and that she changed her number. So I called the old cell and yes she changed her number, so I believe this is truly it. She is gone. Now I have no way of contacting her. So she did my favor for me I guess. I will admit I was being a jerk.
But considering how she is a money hungry lady you should protect yourself. She may be done with you BUT she has access to all of your information. I would move my bank account and write a letter to the credit bureau. If you do not do this you are setting yourself up to get taken once again.
She may be done with you but maybe not your money.
I am just curious Doug, what does she do? Does she work?
Do u think it means the person is done when they change their number?
Yes nicespring she works I have her work number but out of respect I'm not going to call. She said she was too weak not to send me text messages and calling me, so her changing her number was the best thing to do
Well, it's not free to change your cell no. right? She is willing to spend her money on changing her no. ( I was surprised), that must be something really serious FOR HER! :D
Well now I KNOW we won't get back to talking, anytime someone changes their number
Okay, seriously, I know a friend of mine changed her no. b'c she was trying to forget about her ex boyfriend, she knew he'd call her... yes, it's over.
It is the only case I know of, hope it gives you some information.
K good. Well now I don't have to worry about that. She called from her job phone this morning before sending the Fax
I just don't know if this is certain. We always have a cycle of getting back together
Dude, seriously??Quote:
Originally Posted by DougE
Is wrong with you? You are BEYOND help on this board. You need to get into some very serious psychotherapy. You clearly have ZERO self esteem or self respect. This girl is toxic and only comes back around when she wants money. Are you really this stupid?
All I'm sayiong is she changed her number, so this shouls be relief right?
Still be cautious as to your accounts, and be wary of ID theft. Nothing like a woman scorned, so cover you butt, as its to easy for her to catch you up, and you can't even call and ask her. Don't be dumb, and think she isn't pissed that she can't get what she wants, and will walk away quietly.
Yea that's true. Im going to do that. But she did ME the favor by changing her number, which was kindve dumb when I still have her job number, but I won't call
Yeah I need to get through this... Now when u realize they changed their number, THEN it REALLY hits you!
I really can't believe I am still reading this.
Okay Doug, here's the deal, the real deal.
She changed her number, she's done. Leave her alone, especially at work.
She has access to your bank account number. Change accounts.
She has your SSN, alert the credit bureaus.
You, on the other hand, have some serious issues that only a professional can help you with.
We have seen it here before.
That's why I said I won't call her. I explained earlier that I NEVER CALL HER ANYMORE. She calls me. But she changed her number so she won't be TEMPTED to call me because she said she is WEAK
And why would U say I have serious issues?? Please Explain?
Good, so don't call her.
She said she is WEAK huh? Could she be weak for your money?
Dude, just protect yourself. I'd hate to see you back in a few months cause she ruined you and your credit.
Did you read any of the last two pages?
With this person the last thing I'm worried about is the credit. I know this all to well. She is VERY religious, although I will still put an alert on file. It just now hit HARD when she changed her number
This is my 2nd Day of no contact and althouh she did my wrong, I had trouble sleeping last night, was dreaming about her, and cried in my sleep. No contact is hard EVEN if you were wronged. Hoping this is normal
Absolutely normal, just be strong and keep it up.
Thanks capuchin I will. Trying to keep my mind occupied and busy but night time during sleep sucks, and early in the morning. Would you suggest anything?
Get a routine at night and get up promptly in the morning, and have a routine that you have to focus on. Regular exercise will also help you fall asleep more readily, and you won't think of her as much, as it takes time to reprogram yourself.
Doug its been 6 months since she dumped me, Although I still think of her when I go to bed those dreams do fade away. Instead of 5-6 dreams every night its down to about 3-4 a week now. But your in the first stage and once you let go it gets easier. It took me about 4 months to start feeling good and about 5 months in I wasn't thinking of her 24/7. Now 6 months in I think of her when I decide. It's a lot eaiser to think of other things now then her.
Ok thank you for that post. Yeah my dreams have been wild like happy dreams of us getting along... couldve been the alcohol before sleeping to. I use that t put me to sleep
Will I get over her if I start a new relationship with this girl I was kindve talking to while with her? And also will sex flings help?
Maybe. But you will more then likely just end up hurting a bunch of people along the way and that's never okay.Quote:
Originally Posted by DougE
Will I don't thing flings will hurt. I mean I haven't heard from my ex since Tuesday. So thank goodness. That's good.
A firend of mine said "ok she got made because another girl called u, and broke your phone...THATS PASSION", and then a week later she changes her number... and you don't thnk she will call you again? Haha are you serious"
What do you think about that? And I know you may say who cares, but just asking for an opinion
I think you need to stop thinking about her. You need to tell your friends there is a moratorium on the ex. You do not need to hear her comings and goings nor does she need to hear yours.
Are you counseling? This relationship was/is EXTREMELY unhealthy.
I feel likei messed it up because I was being verbally abusive at times when she pissed me off.
But did you suck $170,000 out of her? No you didn't. Stop buying your women. Find out why you need the need to spend money to please a woman. Are you trying to get a girl that's... how to put this gently... slightly beyond your level? Is low self-esteem an issue here?
This is why I'm saying you need some professional counseling. This is something you need to do immediately. You clearly have no self esteem. A healthy person would not allow this kind of treatment from someone else. A healthy person would not turn it on themselves when its pretty obvious to us that HER behavior is what the problem is. The fact that your doormat doesn't help matters. Which is why I'm recommending counseling. You need to figure out what is going on with you that makes you feel that you have to buy someone and why you such bad feelings towards yourself.
I would tell your friends not to bring her up. Again 6 months in my dad said he saw my ex and something triggered me off. That was a week ago. I'm slowly getting back to where I was before he mentioned her. Your in denial about things that is why you feel like you messed up. In the beginning I blamed myself for her breaking up with me. When you start to heal you won't be blaming yourself. You will see her for what she is. As I see mine for what she was. And trust me you don't want to know anything about your ex. Sometimes it's better not too know what an ex is up to.
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