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Dreamguy, I haven't had time to read all the replies but here's my 2 sense. She has asked to come back? Well I think you are doing the right thing by telling her that you need time to think about it. Wait a month then at the end of the month tell her that you think it's best for the two of you to spend some more time apart say like 6 months!
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made the mistake of immediately taking my ex back when she broke up with me in the past. I believe that has given her the illusion that it's OK to come and go when it's convenient for her. I have enabled her commitment-phobia! Well if she ever tries to come back again I'll tell her that I think we should remain apart for another 6 months. See what she says to that.
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You got to be tough. During those 6 months continue to work on self improvement. If you two still love each other at the end of 6 months then try again real slowly. That means no physical contact except for hugging for at least 6 weeks. No kissing, no sex, no spending the night, no groping but hugging is fine. This will make you more of a challenge and leave her hungry for more. Also you are protecting yourself.