I also don't mean to be rude, but you sound like those Christians, who are actively denying evolution, and insisting that god exists, while providing only a single argument : "Just because".Quote:
I don't mean to be rude but you don't have a clue.
If she stops talking to them, she would have changed already the way I want and opened a new page in her life, a bright page with me.Quote:
You think if she stops talking to these boys she will change.
Why would she stay in touch with a few fake friends, who only want to get into her pants, and nothing else? She has many friends, there's only a couple guys like these, though those guys are trying to stay in touch all the time.Quote:
Why should she not talk to her friends for you?
I agree 100% with you, I haven't got many responsibilities, not yet. And I must be prepared for what life throws at me. I'm not sure if my life will be way harder, or I already experienced the pain that life throws at us, just in a smaller proportion and more gentle form.Quote:
My young friend you have just begun to identify the things in yourself and about yourself that you must deal with, and have not yet even faced the challenges of life.
Although, life is hardly predictable, we can still stay on top. I can't recall precise number(don't take it as a linear fact), but we have no control over 50-70% of our lives, there are some things you just can't plan for. Can't chose parents, their wealth, or control other people's actions. But we can definitely change our surroundings, chose the people we stay in contact with, places we go -- choose a better environment, with a better chance, of meeting our goals, wishes and dreams. Choosing a better environment, which let's you change for the better and succeed. For example, getting rid of people, who drag us down(My girlfriends past partners, in my case, they only get in the way, and bring no advantages, and are actively trying to sabotage our relationship --- she doesn't see it that way : "Just because").
I studied this particular topic(about controlling our life). I have a way of dealing with it, actually, I'm a person, who'd rather improvise and let things fall into their places. But when I plan, and am able to make most of unpredictable situations, I maximize the chances, of reaching what I want. Logical , isn't it?
To clarify : My plan might not work, but I am flexible enough, and can fit into any environment , even if I don't like it. Though I will try, to set on to the best path(environment) and make the most of it(my current situation as well).
P.S. I must admit, I've changed so much, after starting this topic. (Learned to accept the reality, got more carefree and even happy go lucky, became less serious, a happier and a more enjoyable person to be with overall, while retaining my ideals. This is the only things that my girlfriend wanted. I believe, I've took a huge step forward, since joining this community. Satisfaction of my relationship is skyrocketing , becoming better by the day.
P.P.SSource . I may be clueless, unwise, or even stupid from some perspective. But at least, I sidestepped the traditional way in which relationships work, realized our differences way sooner, and got a turmoil as a consequence. But this way, I got an ability to plan out my dating life, essentially - my whole life :)Quote:
Nature makes sure we fall in love with the most incompatible person in the entire universe……the person least capable of meeting our needs and most capable of making our worst nightmares come true.
Yet they are the PERFECT person to push our every button and force us out of our comfort zone to ADAPT and GROW.
But of course, when we fall in love, we don't see our partner's flaws. If we knew about them, we'd run like hell in the opposite direction…