Nobody can really guess how another might react in a given situation... since women are most often the target (excluding children) they will naturally be more attuned and sensitive to it.

Is she? I don't know... just tossing out a hypothetical based on a few cases I've seen over the years.

There are several cases in the news right now...mother absconded with the two kids....she's sitting in jail right now and refuses to say where the kids are. Its being prosecuted as a murder investigation. Another is a freshman in College in Charlotte NC that dissappeared. THey know who she was last seen with and he took off (high speed chase days later after being named a person of interest). Warrant out for him now on several things. Don't know where you are and it doesn't really matter.....but if you both are in the DC MD, VA, NC areas..this is on the news every day right now.

The truth is guy, you never know what some are going through, and few if any of us know anything of the strangers we are attracted to, and cannot predict how they will react to us, or our actions, if indeed she knows of your efforts. The reasons don't matter, and all that does is the fact you have reached a brick wall, and that mean slow down, backup, regroup and rethink. Not just for the moment, but long enough for the emotional dust to settle, and the best way to do that is get back into the routine of your own life, and focus on what you already have going for you.

So never assume about what you cannot control, or the bad timing of a plan you invested so much hope into, just get back to what you can control, yourself, and what you do next, hopefully for your own betterment, and enjoyment. Just let it go for a while, and more will be revealed later, while you just live your life, and see other options, and opportunities for fun, and romance, when you are ready.

No need to be stuck on this at all. Keep it real by moving forward.

I just wanted to say thank you for the support over the years Tal. You're right I can only control my own future. If something comes of this than that's terrific, if nothing I've still got myself to take care of. But at the end of the day at least I know that I committed to something, I saw it through and gave it my all. So I've got no regrets, and I can be the best that I can. There's always another lol, be nice though