I know what you mean and I completely agree. Now that I've got the whole 'you've got to go and see the doctor about your peeing problem' talk out of the way, how do I tell him about the main problem? Face to face or via text? Will it be acceptable if I slip it in our conversation via text or will it need to be face to face? Thank you

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Will it be acceptable if I slip it in our conversation via text or will it need to be face to face? Thank you

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He probably won't like to hear it however you deliver the news. I would do face to face. Start with the positives. "I love you" and "I love to..." etc. (His mom may have something to say about the condition of the toilet before she cleans it. Also, about stains in and smell of his underwear, if she does his laundry. Could she be your ally in getting him to a doctor?)

I think now I am going to have to take a shower after all this talk. This subject stinks, so to speak...

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Originally Posted by Oliver2011

I think now I am going to have to take a shower after all this talk. This subject stinks, so to speak...

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Do you have any body wash? I can send you some. ;)

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Do you have any body wash? I can send you some. ;)

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Oh you know it. I've seen new ones out there that I have to get. We went to the grocery shop during lunch. The person behind me who we know and love kept saying "Keep walking, keep walking, keep walking" as we passed the 2 for 1 sale.

I can't stop thinking that there has to be more than the odor problem, not that the odor isn't a horrible thing but his not giving attention to this basic factor indicates to me that there must be other areas in which he is lacking also.
Those of us who have supervised employees working in the field have most likely had to have handle a case or two of an employee's body odor affecting others who have to ride in vehicles with them or work in tight quarters with them. And I never saw one who had just that problem- they were always lacking in other skills also.
Where does he work?
Good thing he is not in the military. He would be a prime candidate for a blanket party. In the Navy, we had recruits who were mustered out because they couldn't grasp the hygiene concept.
If you have to teach this guy hygiene, what other basics will you have to teach him as time goes by?

I just saw this thread.
Three smelly conditions come to mind, smegma, yeast, and intertrigo.
Smegma is common enough in uncircumsized men.
Yeast is common in both men and women, and can be transmitted back and forth to each other, with one of you, usually the male, not having any discomfort or discharge.
Intertrigo happens in both men and women, can be yeast or bacterial, and creates an oozing slimy liquid.
All are very smelly!
A doctor or nurse can tell him which is which (don't wash before going).

Thanks everyone and thanks joy, I did thought about yeast infection, but I don't think that is what is, as it's not the discharge that smells, it's actually him. His penis and stuff smells like urine and it's just mostly due to personal hygiene although it could be a combination of both. I have brought this issue up with him and he took it rather well I must say. He says he feels really embarrassed and says he knows what can fix it straightaway ( I think he knows him having a wash will definitely make a difference), he also mentioned something about 'rushing' when he goes to the toilet and he was supposedly going to start taking his time as well. I've asked him to go to the doctors regardless, and he's getting that sorted tomorrow. We shall see what the outcome will be.

I don't know why you are being so sensitive about telling him he stinks down there but you will put your mouth down there. That is nasty on your part. I'll bet he knows he smells and does not care. You continue to put your mouth there maybe he thinks you do care either.
You've only been dating two months, you know he does not clean himself. I would have left him after the second time I smelled him. A man who does not keep his stuff clean is a big no no.

I think you should tell him in a really nice way what you really think. Try not to offend him and if he gets offended, make sure to let him know the good things about him

Thanks advicehnein, I did that and he has been to see the doctor, and he's been given some tablets to help him with it. He didn't take offence to it and went to the doctor's as soon as he could. It's now all cleared up so thanks everyone who was supportive :)

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Thanks advicehnein, I did that and he has been to see the doctor, and he's been given some tablets to help him with it. He didn't take offence to it and went to the doctor's as soon as he could. It's now all cleared up so thanks everyone who was supportive :)

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I'm so glad you came back to this thread to let us now the happy ending to the story! I wish you both well.

How's the other problem coming?
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