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  • May 16, 2007, 06:52 AM
    emopunk7
    Low Self - Esteem after a break up!
    My ex of 1 year and a half broke up with me. She constantly cursed me out in public and treated me like crap whenever she got mad. Although I loved it when she was happy, I stood in the relationship loving her dearly. Anyway, she broke it off because she didn't want to be upset and feel miserable all the time. After every argument I would always call her and she would never be the one to call me. Sure I made some mistakes (not cheating) but I loved her and I guess she didn't love the same. I still find myself missing her at times especially in the morning and during work, even though she treats me so bad. I keep thinking about the good stuff like hugging and kissing and talking. Anyway, I just keep thinking I won't find anyone else. I'm 22 but I don't think I will be able to find a nice pretty girl. My ex was really pretty to me. Maybe because I was in love. I just don't think I will find someone. Even if I find someone pretty they might have a different religion or might be too busy or might not like me. Please help... Also where can I meet girls at?
  • May 16, 2007, 07:27 AM
    SAB123
    It's been 3 months since my ex fiancé droke up with me and I still have those feelings you describe above. But their not as bad as in the beginning. I also was thinking your way about not finding a nice pretty girl. But you still have a lot of healing to do before you start worrying about another girl. As time goes on you start to find yourself and wanting a new girlfriend isn't a priority as much as in the beginning. If your feeling you need a girlfriend rite away it's because you are feeling lonely and are trying to find someone to fill that void that your ex took away. As times goes on yourself esteem gets better and your confindence get stronger. I'm almost ready to start dating again and I'm still afraid I might not meet anyone but as I write this post, I'm thinking I wasn't worried I won't meet anyone or if I was going to have anything in common with someone before my ex and I met. But give it time your low self esteem gets better.
  • May 16, 2007, 10:01 AM
    emopunk7
    How can someone tell me I'm too clingy... Of course, I'm in love with a girl still. Well I know I will find someone sooner or later. I just know deep down the relationship wasn't good but I just think of the bad and keep putting the blame on myself. I keep thinking we always fought and she didn't trust me because of me. I reassured her daily that I love her and it's only her. She was way too jealous. I called ex's in the beginning which were more like friends, never anything serious... But it was 8 months ago the last time. So y now dump me. I blame it on myself for making the mistakes in the beginning. But I learned and she never forgave me. Every argument went back to that and she said she could never trust me but I loved her so much and I tried so hard daily. She would never call back after an argument but I would and she constantly cursed me out in public but I love her so much. But I'm hurt at the same time and I can't get over this. I blame it on myself! I'm so stupid! I should've done something... I should've never called anybody! I would only call to get advise and I told her that. It's not like I had feelings for others or wanted them, but still I know it's my fault. I should have never started the mess. Why can't she forgive me? Why is she so mean to me? Yet some days she was really nice. I just can't believe its over because of me. I loved her so much.
  • May 16, 2007, 10:24 AM
    SAB123
    You can't put all the blame on yourself. It takes two too tango. I'm getting better but I still sometimes still blame myself but when I look at the hole picture it was both our faults.
  • May 16, 2007, 10:56 AM
    emopunk7
    So true! Thanks a lot!

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