Let us know how it goes Meeting her. I think it will go good. I like hearing happy beginnings
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Let us know how it goes Meeting her. I think it will go good. I like hearing happy beginnings
Thanks for the positive vibes, I truly appreciate it. Will do.Quote:
Originally Posted by N0help4u
DNA results were 15 of 15 markers matched! 99.99% probability of paternity. I met my daughter for the first time about a week and a half ago. Everything went wonderfully. I let her dad and stepmom introduce us, and after letting her quietly adjust to the idea of me being her father, I asked basic, simple questions about her, and invited her to ask anything she wanted to me, that I would be 100% honest with her, no matter what the question. She is interested in having me and my wife and her baby brother be involved in her life. I told her we are not looking to replace her parents, but just want her to know we love her and care about her and are here anytime she wants to come over, or call, or anything, that our house is always open to her. She invited me to her graduation herself. She and I talked alone for about an hour after all of us met. She feels better finally knowing what she has felt has been missing all this time. Just before they left, she kept drifting closer to me while we were all standing and talking outside. I went off my instincts and figured she wanted a hug, but was afraid I would not. So I asked her if it would be okay if I gave her a hug, and she immediately opened her arms and buried her head in my chest, squeezing me tightly. This tied for the best hug I have ever had in my life, the other was the first time my infant son wrapped his hands around my neck and rubbed my back while squeezing, the way I always hug him! What a fantastic feeling. As I said before, my wife and I have already developed a good friendship with her parents, which we all feel is important for her to see. She is so much like me in her mannerisms and facial expressions it is just shocking. Nature versus nurture. All of this has happened for a reason, and I can't wait to see what the future holds for my FAMILY. I know there are a lot of things that could have, or could possibly still go wrong, but honesty and keeping a good, positive attitude throughout has been the key so far. Thanks again for all of your tips and advice.Quote:
Originally Posted by N0help4u
Hey! Thanks for reporting back. Good story. Here's to many happy times.
Thank you, and my pleasure. I wanted to follow up so hopefully my story can help someone else out in the future.Quote:
Originally Posted by joypulv
We are so happy for you and thank you for letting us know how this went.
I just have to caution others reading this, that it might not have gone so well. That, the potential for this to have gone bad was strong people should not use this as an example of how their own attempts for reconnection may not go so well.
You had a strong possibility for success as her parents were willing and active partners in this. Others might not be do fortunate.
Such a good outcome makes my day, and I am really happy for you and yours. :)
You are absolutely right. There were a lot of little strange coincidences and other factors I didn't write about that contributed to our situation working out the way it did. Patience, honesty, willingness to deal with tough topics, and overall a desire to make sure V was comfortable with everything and that everything happened on HER decision once she was informed made this whole situation go smoothly. I was prepared for her to say "no thanks, I don't want to meet", and fully accepted that possibility as well. By no means should anyone in a similar situation think this is how theirs will turn out, but hopefully if it is meant to, it will.Quote:
Originally Posted by ScottGem
Thank you for your kind words :)Quote:
Originally Posted by talaniman
Your story made me cry, happy tears.
Thank you for sharing it. It's stories like yours that make it worthwhile for us to continue volunteering here. Not that I gave you any advice on this thread, I didn't actually see it until someone else pointed it out. But this story made my day.
So happy for you. Please continue to keep us posted on how it all goes. Heck, stay and see if you can help others. That's how most of us became volunteers here, we came we asked, we got help, and we decided to pay it forward.
So happy for you and your family. :)
Thank you. I can't promise I will be able to volunteer very often, but I will make an effort to stop by and see if there is anyone I can help!Quote:
Originally Posted by Alty
I was praying for you that all worked out and you would be blessed.
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