I won't aplogise then and ill wait for next month and ill pre-advise him.

Nor did I feel like cooking dinner that's why I asked for his help!

Yes of course I did, I explained everythin to him why I thought he was rude and ugrateful...

Well you have to do something to let him know your back, and that other one has left. Honestly females expect too much from us dumb males, We have a hard time with toilet seats, so a woman's moods are... Duh, wha, huh!
Feed my ego and my belly, I'll give you the world as long as your patient during house breaking.

Ha ha yeah I'm a girl and I don't see anything wrong with his attitude at all.. I could even have been guilty of the same behaviour many times.
He fell asleep on sofa, he woke up , he was groggy and tired , you came in asking for help for cooking dinner , he probably didn't feel like eating at all if he just woke up , he prob ate dinner while not really wanting it, so didn't bother to thank you as he would have been as happy with a bag of crisps or whatever.
Then you send him messages saying he is rude and ungrateful.

Gosh I must have been a saint to live with lol!

Wish I had your attitude rol... maybe I am just too sensitive at the 'best' of times...
But hey I can't control it...

To me its not acceptable... even if he could have just done with a packet of crisps.. but how would I have known!
Besides... I know my man if I gave him crisps he wouldn't have been impressed! :p

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but how would I have known!

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Right now, I imagine he is thinking the same thing.

I am a woman and I do see that he was being a jerk. If you have been togehhter so long then he should know how you get. All you wanted was a nap to try to get away from the hurt...and he couldn't even oblige you that? Men don't have to go through all the pain that weman do and it sucks...then they call us moody? You guys try having a period and bleeding like a stuff pig, or feeling like you are going to pass out from cramps. I do think that he owes you an apology..and he shoudln't be taking advantage of you. We take care of our guys when they get sick..don't we deserve the same respect?

So robertsqueen how would u aproach him tonight?

<<I do think that he owes you an apology.. and he shouldn't be taking advantage of you.>>

Well I don't think he's taking advantage of her! He's just being a man!

If she wants change in attitude she needs to communicate this clearly , concisely and nicely!

So when he comes home tonight , smile at him nicely and be nice then later on you can say something like " when you didnt talk to me all day yesterday and left this morning without saying goodbye i felt quite bad, i know im having my period and i feel extrasensitive at this time of the month, i was just wondering from now on if you could help me more around that time"

Then you stop talking and let him talk, and tell him you appreciate it.

What me and my huband do is after all of our responsiblities are taken care of we sit down and talk about what upset us that day. We each have a drink and just talk. I am not saying jump down his throat..but you have to let a man know that you won't be walked all over, and that they can't treat you like crap becuase they are mad. I do agree that the silent treatment dosen't do any good, but upset you. I would just tell him that he really upset you..don't accuse him use an I message for example: I felt very hurt when you didn't appreciate that I made dinner for us even when I was in pain...I need for you to please be more considerate of my feelings. If you approach him this way you are not accusing him of anything...but just expressing your feelings. Good luck and keep me posted on how things are going...also I honestly think that men have PMS also and more than weman. lol!

Yeah sounds OK except I would put the "when you first" and then I feel
That way it sounds less accusing

And "I need for you to please be more considerate of my feelings." sounds a bit harsh.
Better to tell a guy exactly what he needs to do.

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I honestly think that men have PMS also and more than weman. lol!

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I agree here as I know how I get and also our bellies don't get big, but we do get pregnant.

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better to tell a guy exactly what he needs to do.

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As fantastic and talented as we are mind reading is not our claim to fame. Communications are so important and how is as important as why when it comes to couples talking and listening to each other. It takes time and practice. I'm still learning how to say "yes dear" LOL

All is fine
THANKS ALL

Communication is the key.. make him sit down but don't force... and ask what's wrong... remember no crying... tears can't get the truth out of anybody... and be calm... if he still doesn't listen... just ignore.. sometimes this style works... he will soon wonder what's wrong with you!!