Again - strangers online will never know the truth.
What is your profession that can earn enough to pay all that back?
What is this now about not being able to leave your family to get married in another country? Are you telling him 'Give me the rest of the money so I can go home and buy my family a house and then I'll come back to you and marry you?'
Only a fool would go along with that for 20K Euros. That's even more in US dollars, like 26K.

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Again - strangers online will never know the truth.
What is your profession that can earn enough to pay all that back?
What is this now about not being able to leave your family to get married in another country? Are you telling him 'Give me the rest of the money so I can go home and buy my family a house and then I'll come back to you and marry you?'
Only a fool would go along with that for 20K Euros. That's even more in US dollars, like 26K.

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It doesn't seem that this disscussion will help me,I wanted to know what other people think about this situation,and I can't talk about it with anyone here.. this is less than the cost of a house I don't have anything to hide in front of him.im a student but I make accessories and sell them.I can provide about 800euro to give him each month,it takes a long time I know,but the point is that he doesn't need this money now.im not exactly telling him to do this,but if I knew that he doesn't want to give this money to me I didn't continue this relationship till here,I know what you people understand from this sentence is "she is a jurk" and "she wants him for money",but its more complicated,I loved him but I didn't continue this relationship because the only thing that I was doing at that time was helping my family and having a boyfriend wasn't a part of helping my family,and he understood,and he understood that what's the way to catch me.and now,I'm in a terrible situation,I love him and I can't leave him,at the same time I can't forget that what a big lie he told me,and a lot of other things.but anyway thanks for trying to help me

I believe you less and less.
You contradict yourself constantly.
How is being a student far from home 'helping your family?'
How is having or not having a boyfriend 'not helping your family?'
Are you able to pay for your education and housing by selling accessories? Hard to believe.

I'm not saying that I don't believe he changed. He stopped paying for your 'shopping' whatever that means, because in the same sentence you say he didn't want to eat out any more. It all adds up to a story of lavish spending that stopped, and you are looking for a way to make him pay, and are now trying to find a noble reason for loving him. I believe it less and less.

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I believe you less and less.
You contradict yourself constantly.
How is being a student far from home 'helping your family?'
How is having or not having a boyfriend 'not helping your family?'
Are you able to pay for your education and housing by selling accessories? Hard to believe.

I'm not saying that I don't believe he changed. He stopped paying for your 'shopping' whatever that means, because in the same sentence you say he didn't want to eat out any more. It all adds up to a story of lavish spending that stopped, and you are looking for a way to make him pay, and are now trying to find a noble reason for loving him. I believe it less and less.

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Mmm,I don't have to lie to u,cause I don't care about u,and you don't know me and I don't know u,my university is free and I don't live far away from home,he comes here for work and I go there on holidays, I don't damn care that you don't believe me,I hope you don't experience what I'm experiencing some day,by the way,go yourself and don't try to help anyone cause your not able to see other ppls situations

5 of us responded to your 'help me!'
We all said pretty much the same thing.
I'm the only one left, but I'm out of here.