For starters I have two dogs - I wouldn't date anyone who didn't love my dogs.

And, no, sometimes "we" act impulsively, think we're in love when we're not, get involved and know the person better and change our minds. That's why so many people get divorced!

I don't find it odd that she was interested and now is not.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

For starters I have two dogs - I wouldn't date anyone who didn't love my dogs.

And, no, sometimes "we" act impulsively, think we're in love when we're not, get involved and know the person better and change our minds. That's why so many people get divorced!

I don't find it odd that she was interested and now is not.

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Thanks for the honesty. Kind of brutal but honest. I guess you might be right, somewhere inside of me is hoping that this is all a strategy on her behave to pressure me into marrige, (her parents told me that), but perhaps I'm being naïve, well not naïve but idealist... I just don't get it, I like to think she doesn't want to leave her job to come bac to nicaragua where she won't be able to do what she loves

Just for my edification because I thought I was being frank and you thought I was being brutal, how would you have preferred me to answer your question? I'm serious - how could I have conveyed my sentiments with other language?

I thought after 12 posts that maybe somebody should make you see what could be reality. How should that "reality," as I see it, be expressed?

I am going to put my two cents here, for what it's worth: You would drive me crazy writing and calling all of the time. Give her space and let her communicate with you. Smothering drives people away.

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Just for my edification because I thought I was being frank and you thought I was being brutal, how would you have preferred me to answer your question? I'm serious - how could I have conveyed my sentiments with other language?

I thought after 12 posts that maybe somebody should make you see what could be reality. How should that "reality," as I see it, be expressed?

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I am going to put my two cents here, for what it's worth: You would drive me crazy writing and calling all of the time. Give her space and let her communicate with you. Smothering drives people away.

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Thanks

I think you are contacting her too much and all this talk about her to her parents is a bit much too.
She has been away from you for what two years? I think she may still care for you but she is building a life here and likes it. She may not want to marry you any longer and this break she wants says that. Stop contacting her. Give her a break and you take one too.
Sounds like she has outgrown this relationship.

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I think you are contacting her too much and all this talk about her to her parents is a bit much too.
She has been away from you for what two years? I think she may still care for you but she is building a life here and likes it. She may not want to marry you any longer and this break she wants says that. Stop contacting her. Give her a break and you take one too.
Sounds like she has outgrown this relationship.

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Thanks for the help. I guess I'm quiting my job today and going to California to my best buddys and spent a couple of weeks there. Bby the way I don't know if you read my older posts but she told me she wanted to sat a date for a marrige in march, but that she still needs a little time of from all the messeging and skyping. What do you think about this? Promise this is my last trhead

I don't think she knows what she wants except she needs a break from all the communication.

What's up with these people in love that don't know how to back off a bit, and not be insecure about their standing?