Applause for "Dontknow" who boiled it all down and spit it out.

Yes, this is more blog and less question.

My ex girlfriend has had nc for a month. I wanted to treat her to lunch so I put some money in her account. I was an expensive because she was in the negative. I text her telling her what and why I did it. She called that evening and said I didn't have to do that. We talked for twenty minutes about how we were doing. I woke up at 4 am just thinking of her so I text her goodmorning. Hopefully I wasn't waking her. I immediately got a reply,my granpa died this morning and I'm going to el salvador with my mom. So I called immediately and gave my condolences. She was broke because she just moved again. I got her nails done and gave her some cash. I gave her my debit card and made arrangements for it to be used in elsalvador. She is leaving as I write. I did it because I love her and feel somewhat responsible for her financial situation. She has been talking to someone that wants her bad. She made it clear to him itsfriends only. I believe her. Now question is we have been split for 3 months. She knows I would take her back. I made all the mistakes of twlling her I love her and await her. I told her to only do what she wants and told her I'm not jealous. We made mistakes she is single she is free. I think that surprised her. So what next. How do I get her back. Without pushing her away.


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Wow! So she doesn't want you back, but you give her money, put money in her account, make sure she has spending money while in El Salvador, and she's accepted all of this? She's good. She can have all your money, and you've basically told her she can screw around with anyone she wants, you'll keep writing checks, giving her money, and wait around for her.

Why not just give her your car, your home, and your kidney while you're at it?

If you think giving her all of this surprised her, why not surprise her more? Stop giving her money, stop texting, stop contacting her, move on with your life, find someone else, and then see what she does. I'll bet you $10 that as soon as you stop giving her money, you'll never hear from her again.

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Last post from the OP on this thread, was "ur right". Now take a look at his new thread. Apparently "ur right" means "okay, I know, but I won't listen. I'll screw things up even more".

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Originally Posted by frankedwards

My ex gf has had nc for a month. I wanted to treat her to lunch so i put some money in her account. I was an expensive because she was in the negative. I text her telling her what and why i did it. She called that evening and said i didnt have to do that. We talked for twenty minutes about how we were doing. I woke up at 4 am just thinking of her so i text her goodmorning. Hopefully i wasn't waking her. I immediately got a reply,my granpa died this morning and im going to el salvador with my mom. So i called imediatly and gave my condolences. She was broke because she just moved again. I got her nails done and gave her some cash. I gave her my debit card and made arrangements for it to be used in elsalvador. She is leaving as i write. I did it because i love her and feel somewhat responsible for her finacial situation. She has been talking to someone that wants her bad. She made it clear to him itsfriends only. I believe her. Now question is we have been split for 3 months. She knows i would take her back. I made all the mistakes of twlling her i love her and await her. I told her to only do what she wants and told her im not jealous. We made mistakes she is single she is free. I think that suprised her. So what next. How do i get her back. Without pushing her away.


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I can't say anything about her behavior because I am not certain how much of the problem she is. This 'question' says a lot about how you are attempting to control her by giving her things. She doesn't have to accept them, but I am not sure she feels like she has a choice.

Why do you have any access to her banking account? If you wanted to take her to lunch, why not invite her and give her a choice instead of putting money in her account and then texting her?

You are not responsible for her. Financial or otherwise.

Stop trying to buy her love. Put that money into a therapist who can guide you through learning to let go.

If you want to buy love you can probably find somebody who is less expensive and will at least pretend to love you.

Otherwise - blog and, as Alty said, doesn't want an answer, just wants to vent.

LMAO!!

I can read this guy like an open book. Look at the first post I made on this thread... look at the first paragraph. I KNEW he was going to ignore all that was said.


So anyway, sure, just keep giving her all you have. Also, she may feel guilty about it all and come back to you for a bit but things will go south again and you will be back where you were before but you will hurt more... and you'll be broke.

Wake up already.

I told you so!!!!!!! We all did!!!!!!!!!! Harshness warning

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Posted by Tman,

Yes, and we learned the hard way how bad things can really get.

And no one can read her mind or predict what she will do or is thinking and why, but we can see where this path you are on will lead you. As an older guy, I can tell you to get your head together before you do anything foolish. Whether she contacts you or NOT.

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You went far beyond foolish, now you want her back all over again! Again get your head together because this has already changed from foolish to plain stup... I mean... crazy!!

PS... No I really do mean stupid!