His mom may say she wants to meet you, but obviously he doesn't want his mom to meet you. I would just drop it before it becomes an issue between the two of you.

Why are you calling them 'in laws', you are dating this chap, not married to him.

What should you do? Nothing.
What is going on? He is probably conflicted. It's a huge leap to meet someone's family. It 'means' all sorts of things about serious commitment. Plus, some family are really nosy and controlling; you just don't know.
I think the fact that you are here asking total strangers these questions is a clue that you and he haven't reached the level of closeness and communication that you need.

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Originally Posted by Nanait

Last night my boyfriend and I were talking on the phone and he tells me his mom wants to meet me. And his sister as been asking to meet me thru facebook too. We have been together for amost 7 Months
And at first I had told him I didn't want to meet the in laws. But after all this months together and seeing his famliy have been asking to meet up I agreed.
But like always he is all talk. I asked him to take me and he sed no!
He never wants to take me to his town
I even ask to go shopping over there not even meeting his famliy. And he say no.
I live 1 hour away.
Some times I feel like for some reason he never wants for us to go over there.
What do u thinke is going on. Or what should I do about it.

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When was the first time he told you that his mother wants to meet you?

If you want to meet his sister over Facebook, send her a friend request or message. That doesn't take any work on his part. It is all up to her and you.

On the shopping in his town, why not go shopping there on your own. See what the place is like. Do some research on the area. Look up the town website and any newspapers to get an idea of where he lives. You and he are supposedly talking about moving in together. All options should be examined before any decisions are made.

I think the next time he comes over, you sit down and discuss the issues with him. From your posts: You want to move in together, be married after you are divorced, and have a child together. You need to learn how to communicate with each other before taking the other steps. I think you may talk a lot, but I get the impression that somehow, somewhere you aren't really on the same page at the same time.

After all that, I will be honest that it sounds to me like he throws out thoughts and 'plans' as a way of keeping your interest. When you talk to him, do you get that feeling?

I say take care of any unfinished business you have with your ex before your take your relationship with your new boyfriend to the next level. Also consider asking yourself if you two are really established first before you raise a child. Given the fact that your current boyfriend is 26 and you're 22, it's obvious that he sees himself in a different place in his life and that you have your doubts as to whether this would be the right time for you to have a baby. If you are unsure if now is the right time, don't do it because it probably means you are wanting to have a baby to satisfy your boyfriend's longterm goals. Have a discussion with him for everything that worries you and ensure that the two of you can see eye-to-eye on the subject matter before you both proceed with your plans to start a family.

If it's meant to be, it will happen at the right time. Becoming a parent for the first time shouldn't feel forced.