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  • Mar 16, 2007, 06:53 AM
    s_cianci
    Get away from him NOW. He has issues that go far beyond jealousy and possessiveness. Get away and stay away before you get yourself in over your head.
  • Mar 16, 2007, 08:05 AM
    valinors_sorrow
    What he says doesn't matter anymore or shouldn't. That you continue to focus on anything but the solution tells me you aren't ready to solve this. I wish you well and hope you get it one day. I won't be adding anything further here as I don't think I can be helpful.
  • Mar 16, 2007, 08:40 AM
    Wildcat21
    His messages are kind of creepy to me. People don't change over night.

    And what's with the babygirl thing? That's kind of creepy to.

    He's is throwing the guilt trip - and throwing darts at the board to see what sticks.
  • Mar 16, 2007, 06:42 PM
    3xquisiteLat
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by valinors_sorrow
    That you continue to focus on anything but the solution tells me you aren't ready to solve this. I wish you well and hope you get it one day. I won't be adding anything further here as I don't think I can be helpful.

    Okay well thank you for doubting me:mad: I'm here for help not be doubted or put down by those words.
    Anyway I have broken up with him last night, I told him everything how I felt and how his obssessiveness was affecting me.. so its over now and I got the courage to not show signs of weakness, his crying didn't affect me either so I remained strong.
    Thank you all for your great advice, I really needed it and it gave me a lot of strength.
    You've all made me realize a lot of things and I hope I don't repeat my mistakes again.
    Thank you once again and god bless
  • Mar 18, 2007, 08:53 PM
    Wildcat21
    Good for you - it's the BEST fro BOTH of you. This guy needs to learn to get a life and never make a women his life. He really should go seek counseling.

    You will find a much more healthy person - some guy who has his

    My very strong advice is to NOT talk with him - don't answer his calls, delete his e-mails OR beter block his e-mails, don't open his text messages.

    I have a strong feeling you will hear from him fro the next few months unfortunately. This type of dependency/obsession is a sickness - I wouldn't be surprised if he had a drug or alcohol problem - it usually goes with this type of behavior.
  • Mar 18, 2007, 09:36 PM
    vlee
    This is the beginning of a very unhealthy, unhappy private hell for you. This guy is possessive, overbearing, and down right disrespectful of limits. Anyone who feels the need to pressure you into making any decision (marriage) is not acting in your best interests. This guy is solely focused on you. You are a fixation, and obsession. That is NOT love, no matter how many times and ways he professes that it is. If you give in to his demands for attention and constant reassurance you will trap yourself in something that is difficult to break free from. Please end this once and for all, and if he doesn't get the hint, file police reports for harassment. This sounds like the type of person who could easily become violent.

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