It's not cheating.
If he admitted it, you would have a fit. He knows how insecure you are. So he lies.
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It's not cheating.
If he admitted it, you would have a fit. He knows how insecure you are. So he lies.
"I don't really care for the looks of other women apart from my girlfriend. I don't watch TV or films and go mmmmmmm she's nice, or even think it. I don't eye up girls in the street and think i would if i was single or anything like that.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
From what i've read from other people. I seem to be the only othere person like this. The reason i ask is because my girlfriend does do and think these things. It makes me think she can't possibly love me as much as i love her.When i ask her though she says she just fancies me and no one else not even film stars etc.
Does anyone else not care for other women?
What reason if any makes you think she could love me as much?
Thank you"
"As a husband myself I can say that it's easy to avoid seeing other women in terms of attractiveness once you've found someone you love."
"There actually is a form of sexual orientation where a person will find only one other person attractive and beautiful. So it's entirely possible."
"Yes, I've experienced that. You could have shown me a fully nude woman, and I wouldn't have cared. In fact there was a movie in which that was the case, and for me it was like looking at a fully nude woman, and there was no desire what so ever, towards that woman. Also, I didn't care to look around and if I saw one, even if by today's standards she was very beautiful, to me she was just normal."
"It's possible.
I've been in relationships that literally blinded me to the concept that other people could be seen as attractive."
"I don't find traditionaly beautiful women attractive but only my girlfriend. Whats so wrong with that?"
These are the words of some other people on the net.They're males.If you were experiencing the same situation as me,you would probably unable to decide whether he is lying or no.But you aren't me,so it is hard for you think like me.You have your own beliefs of what is what,you are unable to look at the world in different glasses.That's why you can not help me. I'm not insecure.I just expect him to do what I am doing for him.
And I am not looking to the ground or when watching TV I don't lookQuote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
I am just thinking nothing.when I see a man, I understand the points that can be attractive for other women cause I know current standarts of beauty.but there standarts mean nothing to me.I don't find any other men apart from my husband attractive.thats the honest truth.you don't believe and I don't blade you.you are a woman living with normal.I am abnormal when.sorry.Quote:
Originally Posted by shivamirage
How do you know he is attractive if you have nothing to compare him with?Quote:
Originally Posted by shivamirage
My husband is attractive in my eyes.maybe he can be the ugliest man in the world for others.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
What qualities make him attractive to you?Quote:
Originally Posted by shivamirage
His way of looking, his body... I don't know I have never thought about it.but at the very beginning, I wasn't feeling this way.I liked him, we started a relationship and then I fell in love with him and the other attractive men turned into regular guys. Maybe I have chosen him with some criteria but I wasn't in love then.now if I had a criteria in the past I doesn't mean anything.my criteria of beauty is my husband now.he gained weight, he changed but my opinion don't change even if people call fat people ugly.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
So you are concerned only with physical appearance and call it attractiveness? Personality and character don't count?
Why are you this way? Is it something in your background/childhood or perhaps your religion that keeps your eyes focused on the ground?
Its not physical attractiveness of course but my topic is about physical attractiveness so I thought you only mean it. There is nothing about religion childhood etc.I have always been in this wayQuote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
I got blind in a love relationship.since I was 13.Quote:
Originally Posted by shivamirage
What point are you trying to come?you find it abnormal so you don't believe it and trying to make me accept the truth.the truth you believe of course.there is no truth for me in these kinds of subjects.do you know demisexuality, or demi aesthetes? Im sure you don't.but these people exist, not believing is only your choice.or maybe
Why are you so sure I don't know?Quote:
Originally Posted by shivamirage
What point were you trying to make by posting your question in the first place?
When I talk this issue with my sister, she feels insecure because her husband isn't like that.she is forcing me to confess like you but there's nothing to confess.
I first tried to find a person who understands me not denies me.butif you don't believe how can you help me? And I thougt if you knew demisexuality you would understand me.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
I didn't say I don't believe. I just find it very unusual and wondered if you were telling the truth.Quote:
Originally Posted by shivamirage
What help do you need?
When I am trying to tell you how I feel, my husband came in front of my eyes.he did more effort to convince me than I am doing to convince you now.if you don't lie and people tell you all the time that you are lying, how frustrating it is.he feels the same I am sure.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
But I just can't believe him cause he is a man.and can you see how insulting it is for him.I am just trying to trust him.if he said he finds others attractive and that's what I believe, I would feel awful but accept.but when I say him "you find others attractive dont tell me you dont.i will accept this truth" he gets totally mad and doesn't talk to me for a while.he says it is the offending thing for him to be called as liar when he doesn't lie.its a difficult situation.
You are pushing him into a corner and forcing him to lie. He is not like you, not a demisexual, so don't expect him to act like you. He is a male who is fully aware of his surroundings and the people in them.
Your standards and behavior are not the same as his. You cannot force him to be like you any more than he can force you to be like he is.
I am not forcing him.its him who says he feels like this from the very beginning.I didn't do anything to force him.I didn't even open the subject he did.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
You said in your first post, "but I can't trust him because he's a male."Quote:
Originally Posted by shivamirage
So you are expecting him to be at fault and to disrespect you by looking at another woman and thinking her attractive. You are pushing him into a corner..
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