I've been divorced for 3 years. I've dated men since my divorce but he is the first man I have slept with since my divorce. He was in a relationship for a few years prior to us.

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Originally Posted by kandyapple

Wow!!! He says he not ready for s serious relationship yet is cus of financial issues right not and it has nothing to do with me. He jus want to take things slow and make sure its right cus his past relationships were all negative. He says I am the only woman he's sleeping with.

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Last time I checked, moving slow means hanging out and enjoying eachothers company and getting to know one another. Having sex isn't "taking things slow" that would be the exact opposite actually. Something to consider.

Yea dats what I thought and the crazy party about it is since he said take it slow 3 weeks ago it seem like he speed things up.

How do you know It's nothing more then a booty call?

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Originally Posted by kandyapple

Yea dats what I thought and the crazy party about it is since he said take it slow 3 weeks ago it seem like he speed things up.

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You need to put your foot down and stop being used. You're just making it easier for him by letting your feelings dictate your actions.

I called myself changing things up a little bit but it didn't work.

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Originally Posted by kandyapple

How do you know It's nothing more then a booty call?

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When they are unwilling to commit, yet they still want sex/sexual activities from you.

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Originally Posted by kandyapple

I called myself changing things up a lil bit but it didn't work.

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Can you please elaborate?

Well, he's not really a phone person even though we talk everyday lol, but since he said we need to slow down I haven't rang his phone in 3 weeks he calls me. Since I refuse to call him

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Originally Posted by kandyapple

How do you know It's nothing more then a booty call?

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Read my earlier post... I answered that specifically... Stop giving him ANY type of sex... stop ALL sexual activity.

See how long he hangs around and how happy he is to be around you... not days.. not weeks, but months...

If it's a booty call... 3 months from now he will no longer be around.

I've been seeing this guy for 4 months he stay at my house on the weekends but he says he's not ready to be in a relationship, do you think this he is just using me for sex?

Yes. What do you think. We don't know either one of you. He might be married for all you know, yes, no?

He is definitely not married, I know for a fact because he lives next door to my cousin lol. He confuse me because sometimes his actions shows different.

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Originally Posted by J_9

Threads merged, AGAiN!

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To recap this never ending story:

OP: "Wow!!! He says he not ready for s serious relationship yet is cus of financial issues right not and it has nothing to do with me. He jus want to take things slow and make sure its right cus his past relationships were all negative. He says I am the only woman he's sleeping with."

ME: "So stop being a booty call and see what he does."

It appears he has told OP time and time again that he is not interested or ready for a "serious relationship." He IS ready to have sex... whenever HE'S ready to have sex.

I know no other way to say this any more bluntly.

Posting the same thing over and over does not elicit a different opinion from anyone (apparently).