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  • Aug 25, 2012, 12:29 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by crazybabymother View Post
    she is not letting me see him.. unless its on her terms.. shes not even put me on the birth certificate.. can anyone else understand that she is being unresnoble.. and has done all this to just get me angry...

    You can demand a DNA test, prove you are the father, and get court-ordered visitation. You aren't a victim of her whims.

    Act like an adult and she might respect you more.
  • Aug 25, 2012, 12:34 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by crazybabymother View Post
    the best thing ive read in a long time


    WG - there is no source. I believe this is plagiarized.
  • Aug 25, 2012, 12:34 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by crazybabymother View Post
    i sort of get where your comming from... but how can someone not be prepared to forgive me.. and how can she move on and replace me..

    Apparently she can and has -
  • Aug 25, 2012, 01:00 PM
    crazybabymother
    This is not helping me...
  • Aug 25, 2012, 01:02 PM
    Wondergirl
    We can't help you as long as you play martyr and keep deluding yourself.

    Find a lawyer and get a DNA test ordered so you can set up a visitation schedule.
  • Aug 25, 2012, 01:15 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by crazybabymother View Post
    she is not letting me see him.. unless its on her terms.. shes not even put me on the birth certificate.. can anyone else understand that she is being unresnoble.. and has done all this to just get me angry...



    This is all about you. That's all I'm reading.

    You "dated" a woman who makes a living bringing men pleasure and who makes money when they keep coming back for more. I'm sure she's enchanting and even beyond enchanting - or else she'd be successful in some other line of work.

    Unless and until you have Court-ordered DNA testing done you have no idea where you stand.

    "Why are men more forgiving than women?" They aren't. You (one man) are. Many men would not become involved with a prostitute, knowing the risk of pregnancy, disease, injury to her, occasionally death. You did.
  • Aug 25, 2012, 01:21 PM
    Enigma1999
    "It reminded me of a lost princess who needed me to show her a new life"

    Now THAT is the best thing I read all day! Imagine that, a prostitute and a driver falling in love.

    I can't wait until that comes out on Disney!
  • Aug 25, 2012, 01:29 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Enigma1999 View Post
    "It reminded me of a lost princess who needed me to show her a new life"

    Now THAT is the best thing I read all day! Imagine that, a prostitute and a driver falling in love.

    I can't wait until that comes out on Disney!

    It will be the storyline in my next contemporary romance novel.
  • Aug 25, 2012, 01:29 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Enigma1999 View Post
    "It reminded me of a lost princess who needed me to show her a new life"

    Now THAT is the best thing I read all day! Imagine that, a prostitute and a driver falling in love.

    I can't wait until that comes out on Disney!


    I think it has - no, wait, that was Julia Roberts. Never mind.

    I can see it on the billboard now - "The Driver and the Hooker."

    I have been very nice all day, trying to be compassionate. Well, I lost it when I read, "I look at her and say, "Fancy breakfast?" "Yes!" so we go to Macdonalds to eat."

    Spewed coffee all over.

    I wonder if she didn't want a fancy breakfast where they would have gone?
  • Aug 25, 2012, 01:43 PM
    Enigma1999
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post

    I have been very nice all day, trying to be compassionate. Well, I lost it when I read, "I look at her and say, "Fancy breakfast?" "Yes!" so we go to Macdonalds to eat."

    Ok, so when I read this... I laughed... really... then laughed, even harder... then... laughed some more.

    I mean after all a Mc griddle is the equivalent to a Monte Cristo.
  • Aug 25, 2012, 01:50 PM
    Wondergirl
    As I was adding caps and such like, I was rather astounded at that magnanimous offer for breakfast, so added quote marks to give a dialogue break in the narrative.

    There were just too many "i"s to cap them all. Which says something about this entire adventure...
  • Aug 25, 2012, 01:55 PM
    Soniya98
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by crazybabymother View Post
    sorry i just wrote it all out... sorry its a bit of a head ache

    No its not a head ache at all, I know how it feels when you are thinking about your love and breakup and tyring to get everything out of your mind, I understand that feeling completely but the fact is she don't want to come back to you, but if you want your son back to you who is your only hope to live your life happily then you can try the legal actions, but it would want lots of pateince to go through the legal system..

    Decision is all yours.. my best wishes with you, god bless you..
  • Aug 25, 2012, 02:08 PM
    crazybabymother
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    It will be the storyline in my next contemporary romance novel.



    Don't mock my life please, how dare u
  • Aug 25, 2012, 02:10 PM
    crazybabymother
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Soniya98 View Post
    no its not a head ache at all, i know how it feels when you are thinking about ur love and breakup and tyring to get everything out of ur mind, i understand that feeling completely but the fact is she dont want to come back to you, but if you want your son back to you who is your only hope to live your life happily then you can try the legal actions, but it would want lots of pateince to go through the legal system..

    decision is all yours.. my best wishes with you, god bless you..



    Thank you... at least your not mocking my life like some people...
  • Aug 25, 2012, 02:15 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by crazybabymother View Post
    dont mock my life please, how dare u


    Here's how "she" (which should be "we") dares - you post that you had a relationship with a prostitute, it reads like a very bad bodice-thumping novel, you don't want to hear advice, you don't want to take advice, you take her for a romantic and upscale breakfast at McDonald's - and you don't want anyone to mention it?

    This could have been a simple question - "I might have a child with a hooker. She won't let me see the child. What should I do?" Instead we get something that no one can even read.

    Don't get all righteously indignant now.

    And when you choose which advice to take and which advice not to take - read some of the other posts.

    And if you want it straight - "forgiving" isn't the word I would use to describe you.

    So back to the girlfriend - you don't think that she said those same words, made the same moves, behaved the same way with all of her clients? You were special?

    Well, maybe they didn't offer to take her to McDonald's for an upscale breakfast. Maybe the Princess never went to an upscale place before, and the experience dazzled her.

    I am beginning to think either a very bad romance writer, someone who is 14 or a troll.

    This simply cannot be for real. And no one thinks that the girlfriend's boss (i.e. pimp) is/was very, very careful who drove "his girls" around? When she was with the OP she wasn't bringing in any money for her "boss." Think about that for a second.

    Sigh, I worked enforcement too long.
  • Aug 25, 2012, 02:20 PM
    crazybabymother
    Uber member? What advice have you given but try and make a joke of my situation...

    Yes so what macdonalds.. who doesn't like a egg muffin??

    From my whole story you find crap like that to comment on...

    I question your uber member status...

    Obv you have spent more time onyour pctanin the real world

    I made a relationship of a prostitute and had a child...

    I need advice not smart remarks like what you have said.
  • Aug 25, 2012, 02:21 PM
    Enigma1999
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by crazybabymother View Post
    thank you... at least your not mocking my life like some people...

    Ok then. Here is my legitimate response to your fairytale...

    YOU, and only YOU brought this on yourself! You KNEW she was a hooker before you fell in love. Love? More like infatuation. It's not like you fell for her, then she said, oh by the way, I am a hooker. No, you knew.

    Sorry, but this isn't a fairytale. It's more like a nightmare. You are too controlling and too much of a baby to keep her. She moved on! She has sex. That's what she does. What, did you think your "magic wand" would have changed anything? Nope.

    Here, you want advice? Ok, here it is... Move on. Get a REAL job. Perhaps an education, and find a woman with a respectable, legitimate CAREER. Be a good father to your son. Make your parents proud.

    There you have it.
  • Aug 25, 2012, 02:24 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by crazybabymother View Post
    uber member? wot advice have u given but try and make a joke of my situation...

    yes so wot macdonalds.. who dosnt like a egg muffin???

    from my whole story u find crap like that to comment on...

    i question your uber member status...

    obv u have spent more time onyour pctanin the real world

    i made a relationship of a prostitute and had a child...

    i need advice not smart remarks like what u have said.



    What? Editor! We need you over here.

    Well, I don't understand what "pctanin" means so if that's an insult you missed your target.

    You got advice - retain an Attorney. What else do you need to know.

    Let me see, pctanin - ?

    And when someone asks me out to an upscale "place," I'm most definitely not thinking McDonald's, egg McMuffin or no egg McMuffin. I was hoping whole breakfast, not the $1.99 special.

    Pctanin?

    Uber means a long-time member, someone who has posted a lot. That insult also missed its mark.

    Pctanin?
  • Aug 25, 2012, 02:28 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Enigma1999 View Post
    Ok then. Here is my legitimate response to your fairytale....

    YOU, and only YOU brought this on your self! You KNEW she was a hooker before you fell inlove. Love? More like infatuation. It's not like she you fell for her, then she said, oh by the way, I am a hooker. No, you knew.

    Sorry, but this isn't a fairytale. It's more like a nightmare. You are too controlling and too much of a baby to keep her. She moved on! She has sex. That's what she does. What, did you think your "magic wand" would have changed anything? Nope.

    Here, you want advice? Ok, here it is... Move on. Get a REAL job. Perhaps an education, and find a woman with a respectable, legitimate CAREER. Be a good father to your son. Make your parents proud.

    There you have it.


    - And I will add this prostitute who is not working the street is somewhere between hooker and call girl. She must deal with some high flyers. You are not in that category. I suspect she got tired of your puppy-dog affection and mooning over her and bad "stories" and simply moved on.

    There are probably also 4 other guys in line who believe they are the father.

    At any rate - you don't want to get an Attorney, you are apparently afraid to find out if you are or are not the father and would prefer to sit in the corner and feel sorry for yourself.

    Time to close this thread?
  • Aug 25, 2012, 02:31 PM
    crazybabymother
    Sorry that was meant tosay too much time on your PC than in the real world...

    Yeah it is ed up that's I fell for prostitute.. and yes I agree that I was not strong enuff for her...

    But I'm in a state... can't see how I can get threw this...

    I do have a decent job now, I left all the I used to do to be a good father... I'm well educated and have a degree, so don't make assumptions

    Having a go at me and taking the piss that's just not right.

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