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  • Mar 2, 2007, 07:20 AM
    robynhgl
    You dropped a bomb on her, wouldn't surprise me if she takes a while to answer back.
  • Mar 2, 2007, 07:36 AM
    Krs
    This was her reply : - 'What text is this you are talking about? I don't remember.. I'm not sure I've ever been interested in his bakers dozen he he he'

    What do u make of that??
  • Mar 2, 2007, 07:45 AM
    robynhgl
    LOL! Took her that long to come up with that one? LOL!

    I'd just tell her the text she sent back in (whenever it was sent)... 'too bad you forgot--we've been busting a gut over that one for months (weeks--how ever long ago it was)!'

    Then just drop it--she's been caught. She's been called out. And you've made her a joke--worse, she now thinks your husband thinks she's a joke. Her ego is bruised. Works for me! LOL!
  • Mar 2, 2007, 07:49 AM
    Krs
    Done :)

    I will let you know her reply, if there will be one!
  • Mar 2, 2007, 07:52 AM
    rol
    <<not sure I've ever been interested >>

    @!!

    Gosh drop this woman, how do you know her actually?
  • Mar 2, 2007, 07:56 AM
    Krs
    Her reply :- "I’m confused… seriously. What text?? What have you been busting a gut over?"

    WHAT??

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by rol
    <<not sure I’ve ever been interested >>

    @!!!!!!!!

    gosh drop this woman, how do you know her actually?

    I know - disgusting!!

    She is NOT sure she has ever been interested... nice!!
  • Mar 2, 2007, 08:15 AM
    tinsign
    Your husband is one good man, he told you directly and at least you have no reason to think he is seeing her. As for this woman I would get her on phone and tell her either she stops contact or you will make sure her husband receives the text messages. That should put a end to her trying to cause trouble.
  • Mar 2, 2007, 08:45 AM
    rol
    Did your husband talk to her on the phone when she sent the text message first or did he text back asking what she dreamt about?

    Unless someone played a joke?
  • Mar 2, 2007, 08:46 AM
    Krs
    Yes he asked her to call him to see what she is playing at.

    Well, she is still denying it, rather saying she doesn't remember!
    Awfully weird if u tell me.

    At that time her and her husband were going through a rough patch and separated shortly after my husbnad recvd this text from her, could u consider maybe it was her husband who sent this message? As he was suspicious that she was having an affair.

    Im so confused.
  • Mar 2, 2007, 08:57 AM
    ballengerb1
    You should call her, don't e-mail and ask what she was thinking. Tell her how inappropriate her behavior is and its offensive to your family values, she has none. Sounds like she is on the hunt and thinks your man will bite.
  • Mar 2, 2007, 09:04 AM
    rol
    <,Yes he asked her to call him to see what she is playing at.
    >>

    Yes but did he talk to her directly?or was it all by stupid text?

    Call her and ask her now I think.
    Maybe it was her ex husband.
  • Mar 2, 2007, 09:05 AM
    Krs
    No she msged back saying I can't talk my husband is here
  • Mar 2, 2007, 09:07 AM
    Wildcat21
    Sojunds like she's playing you. She knows darn well what text.
  • Mar 2, 2007, 09:11 AM
    robynhgl
    I'd just drop it now--she knows you know. No need to baet a dead whorse. ;)
  • Mar 2, 2007, 09:15 AM
    Krs
    Well she has dropped it, as she hasn't mailed back!
  • Mar 2, 2007, 10:33 AM
    Bluerose
    "well guys, i have mailed her used the approach robynhgl said, sort of :- thought id email you to say hi, then popped it into the conversation.. LOL

    This was 4 hrs ago, still NO response!!!!!
    mmmmmmm"


    I don't agree with the getting in touch with her. You didn't take it too seriously... But her husband might - if he sees the message.

    Oops! Sorry just don't agree with picking someone up on something they did long after the event. Maybe she did have a drink when she did it and regrets it.

    Can't help feeling that this is like opening a can of worms.

    When I said she needed putting in her place I didn’t realise you had not been in contact for some time.

    No offence.
  • Mar 3, 2007, 11:08 AM
    amazing
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Krs
    My husband recvd a text msg from a friend of ours saying that she had a dream about him, he asked wat about, and she said nothing, all good, yummm yummm!!!

    Is that ok?

    Why would she msg him in the first place to say so? Why make a point of it....Unless there's a hidden meaning!?

    Dear Krs,

    I wonder how she had gotten his personal number and secondly, that she was that confident or bold to write that if she only knows him enough to say hello? I think people on here are too ready to judge and it sounds like to me, that he must have given her some indication that he might have been available and/or that this was acceptable. That happened to me once with a very attractive man who never wore a marriage ring and gave signals that he was interested in me whether he meant to or not and soon I ended up texting him without knowing that in fact he was even married - it does happen quite frequently between people.

    I doubt very much that she would have done this knowingly without having balls of pure steel. I am on your side here, but situations rarely present themselves like this without some means of opportunity and no person texts another without there being something that preseeds the initial meeting between your husband and this girl. What she did was wrong I totally agree but doesn't sound accidental either. Clearly the best thing to do is to do as you did and to ignore it. She can't have anything with your husband if you and him are in a secure relationship and you both love and value each other strongly enough to not feel insecure by this woman's behavior. She has gotten the message and so she should not do it again if she is told by your husband that this is innapropriate and does not want her texting him again. If she continues despite this, then inform the police that she is harassing your marriage and they will deal with the matter further.
  • Mar 3, 2007, 11:22 AM
    J_9
    KRS, before I post an answer, and please forgive me if I missed it here, is this the same friend you were having "problems" with last year around this time?
  • Mar 3, 2007, 01:00 PM
    ordinaryguy
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by bluerose
    Can't help feeling that this is like opening a can of worms.

    I agree. What's the point? You and your hubby are fine, and there's no real need to get in her face about it. As someone suggested, she may not even have sent it, it could have been her husband playing games. Too much drama. Who needs it? Let sleeping dogs lie.
  • Mar 3, 2007, 01:52 PM
    J_9
    If this is the same friend she was having problems with this time last year, there is much more to the story. And understanding that story, the answers, I am sure, will be different than what she is receiving right now.

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