Originally Posted by
talaniman
The baby mama ain't the problem, as there are more holes in this relationship than swiss cheese by your answers. If you were comfortable and secure in the relationship, you wouldn't worry about his ex being more special than you. If you knew his family, especially his mom, you would know a lot more.
Even you must suspect that knowing so little about what should be common knowledge between couples like MOM, and there relationship far outweighs the baby mama drama you are fixated on. I mean how odd is it that you haven't met her in 3 years??? I mean if you wanted the blanks filled in wouldn't she be the logical choice, after all she is a grandma! I think you may be distracted by his baby mama and are missing a much bigger issue.
I doubt if he has any kind of special connection to his baby mama, or else you would know something before now and that he has said you will never meet his child is a sure indication o me at least that he has no connection with the baby or the mama.
Look closer, as I suspect he has a lot more hidden things for you to worry about to make this a healthy relationship. I sure wouldn't consider marrying any one with this level of communications. Private person, or NOT!!!
If you don't think he is being fair for whatever reason, you better slow down and pay attention, and not just make this about his baby mama. I think she is a non factor except in your mind, wheree you have made it bigger than need be.
