Today, get it over with, get it out of the way, and move on.

And I don't understand why you disagreed with me.

I would say to handle your business ASAP and make a very clean separation from him. How dare he manipulate you by holding your stuff hostage. Or as said never contact him, and change the locks.

When you allow bad behavior and mistreatment, you will get more of it!

On a side note, its very difficult when you copy and paste and make new thread, drives the editors NUTS!!!

I believe the queston should not be 'what did I do wrong?' (we all do things wrong) but 'what did I do wrong to deserve this?'

Its hard to find angle where this looks good for you:

1: let's suppose it is not about you, but him (probably his car). Life deals up problems and this how he responds to this one, he is cold to you, a fledgling relationship is over. Chances are this is how he consistently manages his emotions - that does not bode well.

2: maybe it's about you, something specific you did, something that slipped under the radar: if we have upset someone to this extent we usually know why. So something slipped under the radar, he was ultra sensitive, maybe unreasonable, and over reacted (even if he had other pressures). If something small slipped under your radar, chances are something else will again and again. So you have to re-tune and become ultra sensitive to his needs and emotions (while he is not to yours) and the relationship becomes unbalanced and unhealthy - guarding against every small thing you would become oppressed..

Or 3. It is innate to you. Your characters aren't as good a fit as you thought initially: that is a pretty tough thing to overcome.

We all do things wrong but are the responses to those mistakes proportionate and constructive?


His actions (as read) appear disrespectful and it appears that it is all on you to keep it going and that creates an imbalance, in my opinion, which is not healthy. You appear to have put a lot of effort in but not received the reward. General behaviour does tend to repeat itself.

Good luck with whatever you do.