Okay, the first red flag is that he has a girlfriend back home that is pregnant, maybe you should give up on him. I was abused as a child too, and I know that you want to hold on to men but sometimes you need to push them away. It sounds like he will do more harm than good in your life. And trust me a better man will come along that is near you that won't give up on you. This guy is just in it for the sex. And he wants more of it. And it sounds like he knows what to say in order to get it. He is playing you... hard. Do you really want to give your heart to a man that has 3 other women. Being involved with him is a disaster in the working. I would just leave him be. Stop answering he's calls, emails, or anyway that he contacts you. It's for the better in the long run.