He's obviously stressed out and can't handle it, either you put up with it till it gets better or you give up and let him go. Find a guy that has more time for you and treats you the way you should be treated.
The ones who say ignoring a girl is the best way to get a girls attention are wrong. Every girl wants to be protected and needed, also the want to feel as if some one care (some girls overdue that by cheating and flirting basically all the time).
If you're feeling as if something's wrong, then something is wrong! Don't let him make you feel as if you're the problem, that's what boys do when the know they've done/doing something wrong, they make you the problem.
JUST KNOW THAT... LETTING GO DOESN'T ALWAYS MEAN YOU'RE WEAK, IT MEANS YOU'RE STRONG ENOUGHT TO REALIZE THAT YOU'RE WORTH SO MUICH MORE THAN THAT.

This has been going on for quite a while. I looked at your previous threads.

These questions are to get a better understanding of what is going on:

What have you tried doing to improve communications? Have you tried talking to him when your child isn't home and distractions are at a minimum? Are you being careful not to sound like you are accusing him of anything or putting him on the defensive?

Have you found another job or are still spending most of your time at home? Is he stressed out about trying to keep finances together? Does he get any time to himself to relax, go out with friends or pursue interests outside the house and relationship (sports, hobbies, etc.)?

Have there been other changes in his work, health, or anything else?

Leave, why continue to put yourself in a situation in which you are not happy.

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Originally Posted by Cat1864

This has been going on for quite a while. I looked at your previous threads.

These questions are to get a better understanding of what is going on:

What have you tried doing to improve communications? Have you tried talking to him when your child isn't home and distractions are at a minimum? Are you being careful not to sound like you are accusing him of anything or putting him on the defensive?

Have you found another job or are still spending most of your time at home? Is he stressed out about trying to keep finances together? Does he get any time to himself to relax, go out with friends or pursue interests outside the house and relationship (sports, hobbies, etc.)?

Have there been other changes in his work, health, or anything else?

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We both have full time jobs and yes I do try and talk when no one is here to distract him. I don't know how to talk to him because no matter what or how I say something he very defensive. I know that things could be a lot worse and I love him so I am dealing with it hoping that he will realize what he is doing. Maybe you can help me to understand what the problem is because Im at a lost right now.

The question I have is why have you allowed this disconnect of the mind to go on so long? Things are always hot and heavy in the beginning, and this fellow was use to loving them and leaving them, but either he is clueless as to what it takes to maintain a relationship, or for whatever reason he just ain't in it to win it! Or both!

The sad part is that you allow it. You should have left long ago, when he first started to resist communicating with you. Leave now as its obvious your patience is wearing thin. And as long as he won't work with you, leaving is your only option.

No communications, no relationship! He isn't even willing. Sorry.