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  • Feb 22, 2012, 03:00 PM
    Asilotras
    OK Thanks very much . It is really helpful :)
  • Feb 25, 2012, 02:35 PM
    talaniman
    I think your problem is you need a direct reject, or explanation because you cannot just take a hint. You also believe that a few dates is an indication that something serious is developing, its obvious she doesn't think so.

    Don't feel bad, many are not good at the subtle hints and signs that others give us, and just keep pushing until they tell us bluntly what they mean. Don't in this case keep pushing and looking for something that's not happening, and take the hint, she has nicely rejected you at this time, and since you have no reason to know what it is exactly, DROP IT, and don't get carried away by curiosity, or lack of understanding of what's going on with her.

    From what you wrote, you think she is obligated, or committed to you in some way, or owes you something. She doesn't, so you leave her alone, and carry on with what you were doing. Whether you think things can be fixed or not means NOTHING, because she doesn't.

    So leave her alone, and chalk this up to experience. These things happen to us all, more times than we admit. No big deal, its was good while it lasted, and you had fun for a month or two.

    Move on.
  • Feb 25, 2012, 03:09 PM
    Asilotras
    TALANIMAN

    Thanks for your response. Yea I know what's my problem and I know also that I did mistake. But the problem is she limited me from her pictures statuses. But she didn't deleted me from her Facebook. I really like her. I know that not much time together but She was friendly and nice. So Can we take this things as good sign and do you think there is any possibility to get together again or cab I try to contact after while time ?
  • Feb 25, 2012, 03:25 PM
    Homegirl 50
    I think you are being annoying and inappropriate. Sure enough she got drunk, but you opened her clothes while she was sleeping, you're lucky she didn't go off on you.
    Leave her alone. What you have been doing is close to stalking.
    You don't seem to be able to get the hint. She wants no part of you, you creep-ed her out by invading her space when you opened her clothes while she slept, then you continue to bother her and it appears you've still not given up.
    The lady does not want you. Leave her alone and learn to respect a woman's space.
  • Feb 25, 2012, 03:30 PM
    Asilotras
    HOMEGIRL

    Thanks. But we kissed before I didn't opened and I was drunk a bit as well. But I could control myswlf. I could do much but I didn't. Yea I wasnot nice. And I still can not forgive myself I need some advice how to get her respect back. I know it is easy to go and give up. But I want the difficult one to win her back and do not make this mistakes again. Can you help me on this things? Don't u think I can try to contact her after some time like month?
  • Feb 25, 2012, 03:32 PM
    talaniman
    If you have Facebook, then you can communicate that way. But don't expect much, push to hard, or be obsessive. Have the good sense to know when to let go, or walk away.
  • Feb 25, 2012, 03:40 PM
    Asilotras
    TALANIMAN

    Please can you make abit explanation how to approach. What should do in Facebook. All I can do is just to send her message and post something to her wall. Because I can not see her pictures nor statuses.and I also afraid to be annoyed and make her to report to police as she said:(( what do you think?
  • Feb 25, 2012, 04:38 PM
    Homegirl 50
    I don't think you need to contact her at all. She has already threatened to call the police on you. I don't think you will get her back and she certainly won't respect you if you continue to bug her. You sound a bit obsessed and that is not cool.
    Learn from this experience. And a word of advice, just because a woman kisses you, it does not mean she wants to have sex with you, and being drunk is not an excuse for opening a woman's clothes while she is sleeping.
    Leave the woman alone .
  • Feb 25, 2012, 04:56 PM
    talaniman
    Quote:

    GUYS help please

    She called me today and she was angry and asked to leave her alone otherwise she is gone report to police about me. what the **** does that mean? Do u think she has problems? Misbehaving?
    Game over, do as she says end of subject. That's what happens and will happen to you when you push to hard, and can't take a hint, you end up in jail so don't be stupid.

    Now go find someone that WANTS your attention.SHE DOES NOT!!

    Sorry I missed that posting.
  • Feb 25, 2012, 04:57 PM
    DoulaLC
    Asilotras...

    Stop!

    Listen to what she told you. If you contact her, and continue to bother her, she will call the police. Do not contact her anymore. That includes posting on her Facebook wall or sending her a message. That she told you she would call the police if you do, should be enough of a message to you to stop and to leave her alone.

    Stop trying to think of ways to get her to want to see you or stay in contact with you. Not even in the future. From what she said, it isn't likely that she will be interested at anytime.

    Face that, accept it, and focus on getting to know other people. Sooner or later you will meet someone else who is compatible with you and wants to get to know you better.

    Quite frankly, from your persistence in this, and inability to understand a now very clear message from her, I don't blame her for being annoyed.
  • Feb 25, 2012, 05:05 PM
    Asilotras
    Sorry Guys

    I understand all know. Sorry that bothered u. Thanks very much :)
  • Feb 25, 2012, 05:10 PM
    DoulaLC
    You didn't bother anyone, but you were having great difficulty seeing what was right in front of you. Sometimes others, who have no emotions involved, are better able to see the picture more clearly.

    It is never easy when someone you like, and would like to have a relationship with, does not have the same feelings for you, but it happens to everyone.

    You will be fine. Spend time with your friends, and get back out there. You will meet someone that will be as interested in spending time with you as you are with them.

    Good luck!
  • Feb 25, 2012, 06:15 PM
    odinn7
    And let me add this...

    Not only do you need to stop trying to come up with ways to contact her and get her respect back (as it's not going to happen and now it seems to be on the verge of stalking), but you should delete her from your Facebook. Deleting her from FB will help you break away and stop thinking about her. I have a friend who had a break up but kept stalking her ex with FB... she kept using it to see constantly what he was doing. Months and months of this until I finally asked her what she was doing to herself. She didn't get that by keeping him on FB and constantly watching what he was doing, she was just making things more difficult for herself. Once she deleted him, it became easier for her to move on.

    You should do it too... actually, no, you NEED to do it.

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