If you're healing than there is no need to keep reflecting on everything. If she hurt you, try not to keep dwelling on it. No one should ever be provoked to do anything. NO matter what the circumstances are. If she cheated on you, let her go, move on with your life to newer and better things...

She still cares and she probably cares for you like a friend now and maybe she wants you to move on happy and maybe a different person.