And what's a man to do when he does everything that's asked of him and still ends up in the gutter?

He does the smart thing - he realizes that you got to care about number one, first and foremost, and that people who ask for help are more than likely looking for a crutch... And what do you do with a crutch when you're done with it?

You throw it in the goddamn trash.

Reality is like that... But I'll be shot in my seat before I'll let someone harp sanctimonious on me when I get that tiniest bit cynical over things.

I agree. She called me 2 times a day during toughest points of her divorce. I made holes in my schedule. Soon I am accommodating her and her kids and asking that she give at least a "hello" during the week, but she is heading off to fitness classes when she realizes I am now fully engaged in her life. I hope the therapist can help her see that she's not a victim and there is hope. And I do agree that women often just want someone to listen.. and if they have their act together, they will be thankful for that and not take it as getting what they wanted in too big a dose. At the end of the day, we're either right for each other or not. No need to force it. But it is tragicomic to throw away something becasuse of... stressful schedule... anyway - silence is golden.

Wow this sure went from simple to bam, a lot of personel feelings. Ash, maybe you didn't get the proper thanks but you helped a fellow human and that's worth something. Move on with your life and carry this experience with you and remember you did nohing wrong except invest too much of yourself to a troubled person. Some day you will get what you gave. Keep the chin up, and try not to be bitter.

I just want to comment that her ex is probably the most disgusting man or woman I have heard of.She stuck by him THROUGH CANCER and he CHEATS ON HER?

Wow.wow.wow.

Being that close to death and all you would think,would give you some morals,quick.

And in your case,I don't think it's your fault... she has actually been through a lot... unlike girls who make it up because they have cold feet.I'd stay friends with her,unless she wants to 'date other people' then you,have in fact,been lied to.