If doesn't and shouldn't matter if she wants to be you. I mean you have a choice in it too. So after every thing is said and done and looking over her actions you should feel like you deserve better. So don't do NC for her do it for you.

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Thanks for the advice Tal. The reason I said nc is because I don't know if she still want to be w me so it is better this way. She doesn't even want to talk about it at this point. Obviously I can't keep contacting her.

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More the reason to be enjoying doing your own thing without her. That's not NC, that's just keeping it real. See the difference? You have no commitment to each other. And unless there is a mutual agreement (some kind of understand for some kind of commitment), then you are young, sinle, and free to do whatever you please, with whomever you please. Do so.Why limit your options, and opportunities?

Talaniman Rule - Date them all! Fat, short, skinny, or tall! 18 to 80, blind, cripple, or crazy!

Dating is to enjoy getting to know someone, and that takes time, and there is no hurry for anything. Tell the little head to shut up, so you can pay attention, while you are having fun.

She said I got her too easily. There are guys who are lining up and willing to do things for her so why didn't she go for them. There are guys who chase after her for years. I am probably the only guy who told her this also.

PffffTT!! Leave spoiled girls alone, or stand your ground against game playing.

She thinks you got her too easy, then let her go. She can go have her pick of the flock of guys falling at her feet.

I am a firm believer that when you have met the "right" person, there is no such thing as "too easy" or "too hard" for that matter... and there certainly is no need for any games.

I went down this road before. She had a rich guy going after her now calling her constantly she said she won't be happy with him try to make me jealous though by ask him to come out to meet me because he wanted to. One of my ex left me and got married 10 yrs later still regret not giving us a chance. U know what, I already know the conclusion. I guess I'll just sit back and enjoy the ride.

Why are you still tripping! Leave her alone. She is dragging you around by the b***s. Cut the string already!

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I went down this road before. She had a rich guy going after her now calling her constantly she said she won't be happy with him try to make me jealous though by ask him to come out to meet me because he wanted to. One of my ex left me and got married 10 yrs later still regret not giving us a chance. U know wot, I already know the conclusion. I guess I'll just sit back and enjoy the ride.

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Just want to point something out.

Chat speak is against the rules of this site. You have shown that you know how to write using real words, so please do so on all your posts.

U = You
what = what

We're an international site, and many of the people on this site don't speak English well. There are also many older people on this site that do not understand chat speak at all.

Thank you.

I am not sure if it is love or lust but it hurt like hell. Sent her an email something funny she just reply w a funny email.

I suppose when you get really tired of this you will leave her alone. Or maybe when she tells you to get lost

Don't let her make you an option.

Thanks Tal, I emailed her ask her how things are going she said she's so busy these days lol funny how things change so quick. I'll keep myself busy too and do my own things.

Make sure you stick to that plan and no relapsing. And remember life is too short.

On the weekend a friend sent an email to our group (I introduced this friend to her) and asked us to go for a drink so she said she is in. I decided not to go. I decided not to hang out with this group until I am over it. Morning are tough, still feeling the pain from it. I was able to fight the urge to contact. It's getting better. Started joining the church quoir. Working out everyday.

I know that was a big step for you and I know it ain't going be easy but keep it up. Your heading down the right road and keep doing things to keep yourself busy. Thumbs up to you!

I called her today we went for lunch and talk about it. She said she was hurt because I got upset and didn't call her right away to talk about the problem. She try to blame me for it. She said she didn't know what I expect from her since we just know each other. I bought her a dozen rose I gave her a hug and kiss on the cheek she didn't resist.

Basically she didn't like the silent treatment but would it be better to cool off first before u talk?

Why are you still entertaining talking to her?
I thought you were finished being played with and whimpering around her like a puppy

phhhhhhhhhhft!!!!!!!

It is hard to get good help these days. FYI, I didn't get played. I didn't contact her for more than a week. I thought I try to talk to her when thing cool off. If she didn't miss me then why come out to talk and she paid for my lunch lol. She said from her past exp. When she try to pay the guy would get upset.

I believe we have a connection rather than throw it away I want to know if we could salvage it. Hey at least I try. If I don't see anything then I'll walk away.

Yesterday I went to dinner with a group of friends, she was there as well but seem very distant. After the group decided to go for a drink. I bailed out. She called me in the morning asking me why I didn't go hmmmmmmm (why would she care all of a sudden?). I said I got stomachache. The true reason is I don't need to be there when she's there. Anyway, we talk and then she brought the problem up again and it wasn't pretty. She said I should have try to call her and talk about it? What can I do? I tried to emailed her but she said she's busy so I allow her space to let thing cool down now she said I gave her too much space so she can see that she's not my type after all lol. I can say the samething. The more we talk the problem just get worse so when she said she got someone on another line and put me on hold I just hang up. I don't see the point talking about it because it doesn't get anywhere. She blame me not try to solve the problem early and blame me for hurting her, said I am a different person, well can you guys tell me if I can do anything else to solve the problem? Some peole are just so hard to please. So I'll walk away now.