Go no contact, I didn't go no contact and used this bored a year and half ago aand that was the advice I got. I didn't listen to it and have been strung along for the last year and half. 9 years together plus two wasted years I could have been nc and moving on but I didn't listen as I was hanging on to false hope and had the same thaughts as you I am sure but I recommend going nc it is a wise wise choice.