Go no contact, I didn't go no contact and used this bored a year and half ago aand that was the advice I got. I didn't listen to it and have been strung along for the last year and half. 9 years together plus two wasted years I could have been nc and moving on but I didn't listen as I was hanging on to false hope and had the same thaughts as you I am sure but I recommend going nc it is a wise wise choice.

Wow. Recently came across this old question I submitted while cleaning out my email. Welp, fast forward almost 8 years later and she got married last fall and I am about to be this fall. She married the guy she left me for lol. I went through a couple of relationships after her and I finally found the woman I'm going to marry. For anyone who thinks that a long term relationship is the end of the world, it isn't :)

Yes, but the important thing is you survived even though you wrote "Depressed as all hell". I always tell people when a door closes kick the next dang door down and start the new chapter. Really at this point, who cares if she's married, divorced, or in shackles. You have started a new life so congrats.

Thanks for your update, it's much appreciated.