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  • May 18, 2011, 12:47 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by troubled_104_04 View Post
    i can't think of another guy ever..!!
    *current status!

    Are you younger than 92?
  • May 18, 2011, 12:48 PM
    troubled_104_04

    I am 1992..!
  • May 18, 2011, 12:58 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by troubled_104_04 View Post
    i am 1992..!!

    I meant 92 years old. If you're younger than that, another man will interest you someday. No hurry. Born in 1992? For sure, that will happen.

    Maybe I'm psychic? 1992, 92.
  • May 18, 2011, 12:58 PM
    Just Looking

    I'll join Wondergirl and Smoothy in their support. Do you have friends or family nearby? One way to protect yourself is to turn to those you trust. He's less likely to do anything with others present, plus they can help you find the courage to leave.
  • May 18, 2011, 01:02 PM
    troubled_104_04

    Yeah.. psychic!

    Anyway thank you all for making me relax... n finding me a way!
  • May 18, 2011, 01:04 PM
    smoothy

    Just do it... and don't go back or look back. It hurts worst at first... and it does get easier with time.
  • May 18, 2011, 01:06 PM
    troubled_104_04

    There's a huge difference between saying and doing..

    But its about my whole life.. I will do it... if not today..
    Tomorrow definitely... let me gather some courage !
  • May 18, 2011, 01:09 PM
    Wondergirl

    *sending you a ton of courage*

    *scattering confetti and sparkles in your path*

    Do you live together? (sorry if I missed reading that, if you posted it)
  • May 18, 2011, 01:13 PM
    troubled_104_04

    no.. we do not live together
  • May 18, 2011, 01:15 PM
    Wondergirl

    Is he at work now? Will you see him later -- or are supposed to see him later? Do you live at home or in your own apartment?

    I'm in Chicago, and it's 3:15 p.m.
  • May 18, 2011, 01:16 PM
    troubled_104_04

    I live at home
    And yes.. he works.
    No we are not talking due to a fight!
  • May 18, 2011, 01:18 PM
    Wondergirl

    What usually happens when you two have a fight? No talking for a few days? He contacts you to kiss and make up?
  • May 18, 2011, 01:20 PM
    troubled_104_04

    no.. rather I do that..
    I keep calling him.. he doesn't answer most of the times..
    And after some days I say sorry and everything becomes okay
  • May 18, 2011, 01:21 PM
    Wondergirl

    What would happen if you didn't call him or apologize? (Do you hear me urgently whispering, "Stop communicating!!!")
  • May 18, 2011, 10:56 PM
    Sumitkumar7266
    Hey.. You should stop the relationship ASAP.If you will not take the step now you will always be unhappy.. You lost virginty,that doesn't mean that you should stay with the guy who controls you.. Many will come in your life and you will find the real love.. You will be always his slave if you will not move on now.. He does not know the meaning of love too.. 5 years I was also in a relation and I have too gone through the pain and after that also I girl dumped me but I let her go.. Love is an internal feeling.. It will get worst if someone try to bind others.. and he is doing the same.. I bet you if you will leave him,you will be able to forget him.. You stopped the friendship with others because he told you.That is the worst you did to you and them.. What was the fault of the guys who was your friends.. There is always a way to get out of any relationship.. No need to run from him.. Be strong.. It seems you are very coward.. Try to find someone who also loves you and can protect you from him.. I am sorry,I am harsh but this you should do.. Don't waste your feeling for the person who don't love you.. If someone will love you,they need only you and nothing else,they will accept you if you have lost your virginity too.. but he is demanding and asking you to stop friendship.. Don't think also to commit anything and don't do any harm to yourself.. Enjoy your life with your friends and the one who loves you.. Crying will not help you.. Be strong.. All the best..
  • May 18, 2011, 11:14 PM
    amicon

    Find the courage and find the support to get out of this relationship.

    It's not healthy,it's most likely to get worse-it seems it's already eating away at your selfesteem!

    Find a counselor-someone to talk to-asap.
  • May 20, 2011, 04:30 PM
    talaniman

    A 20 year old who has been with a guy for 5 years, needs a break just to see what good healthy, adult relationships look like. Its not about changing a partner to be what you want, its about how well you work together, so you can grow together. In spite of your individual flaws.

    Do you not have dreams of a life and career? Is he all the life you can think of? Can you even make it on your own without him? What do your parents think of this fellow? What does your culture say about this relationship.

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