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  • May 12, 2011, 06:41 PM
    Alty

    Sounds to me like she's playing games. She wants you to be interested, she doesn't want you to stop trying to contact her, but she's really not that into you.

    She can't stand that you may not be into her, so she texts with mundane things, hoping that you'll boost her ego by being desperate. When you start to respond, she posts one word answers. When you stop responding, she texts in order to keep you interested. She needs that ego boost.

    That's my take on it, from a women's perspective.

    Drop this girl. She'll only continue the games.
  • May 12, 2011, 07:17 PM
    Aurora_Bell

    I agree, she's just not that in to you. If she texts you, answer her with one word responses, or even better with nothing at all. When she asks why you haven't responded or "what's up" (and she will, ignoring a girl drives us nuts!) just explain you have been really busy, and didn't have the time.

    Would you be willing to be just a friend? Would you be able to look past all the "kinda" and "sorta" hints that you previously received, and go forward on only a strictly friend basis? If you like this girl, for who she is, and truly want to get to know her, there is no harm in being her friend.
  • May 12, 2011, 08:12 PM
    talaniman

    She has kept you in the friend zone. Sort of like a boyfriend, but no romance, and its better than being bored, and unwanted. As she weans herself off what once was intense feelings, she keeps her options open, and can take up any interest she wants, and since your cool with it, there is no reason for guilt, nor will she miss you since she is free to text, call, or phone, and get a response from you.

    Now that you know this, maybe you will see the value of No Contact, and being unavailable to be filled with confusion or false hope. The best thing about NC, is you will not be her emotional tampon, or her "girlfriend", free to cit chat, and chatter with.

    NC gives you the chance to do something else besides being tortured by what ever she is doing, and mistaking her emotional farts as LUV signals. Got that? She is making you her g/f with balls!! Don't let her, and don't be mad about it either. She is a female that has no friends, YET!!
  • May 12, 2011, 09:01 PM
    huskerfan_12
    Comment on Altenweg's post
    Thank you! Sounds very much like what's happening. I find it hard not to text her back but I honestly don't want her as bad as I did a couple days ago because of all the bs she is pulling so ill take your advice. Thanks again!
  • May 12, 2011, 09:03 PM
    huskerfan_12
    Comment on Aurora_Bell's post
    I am fine being her friend and getting to know her which is what I would have liked at first, but she came on so strong that she got me, but those strong feelings are fading so I could be all right moving forward as just friends and getting to know her... thanks for the advice!

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