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  • Mar 26, 2007, 10:41 AM
    brkfstatiffs
    My ex wants me back
    My ex and I broke up a few months ago. We lived together for over a year and things got messy at the end as another girl came involved (even though we weren't together at the time) regardless, I was still hurt. We really wanted to make a friendship last out of it, but I just couldn't stand the thought of remaining friendly with him while this same girl was semi in the picture (she lived in another state), time has passed, and now we have started to hang again, she is out of the picture, and he realized how unhappy I was knowing he was hanging with her and basically gave her the boot. At first it felt great because I thought I can now really try to build a friendship with him and that's all I wanted, he likewise. The couple times we have hung out since he has brought it to a romantic level, it's easy to go there with it, but I'm trying not to let my emotions give into fast, for fear of getting hurt. Should I let go of theat fear? A part of me wants to explore other men, a part of me wants to give this another try... things are different now we don't live together, we're in different places then we were etc. We really have a lot of love for each other, I think being with someone else he realized what he had. Right now I've been kind of going with the flow of things, but unsure of what to do, and I feel like I need to figure it out before I let my emotions get wrapped up into it. I know a lot of people will say it don't go back to him, but I guess I am the type who believes in second chances and that sometimes it takes a life leason to learn what you really want. Has anyone has a similar experience? Suggestions?
  • Mar 26, 2007, 11:02 AM
    Jiser
    Ill tell you what, sounds like it could really work here. However what you need to do now, is go real slow.

    Keep it short and sweet with your meetings and go on fun and exciting dates - do not fall into a rut!

    Be spontaneous, fun and mysterious and above all have a real busy life which does not involve him, perhaps even other dates (he doesn't have to know) - if things falter it will be a lesser blow on you.

    Remember slow and steady wins the race :)

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