But the truth is it sadness me that he doesn't even call or text message me :(
But I shouldn't really because he never really has done.. rarely.. I can count the amount on times on 1 hand :(

My feet aren't super stinky naturally, but my flats get a little smelly after a couple of days of wearing them (since I don't wear socks with them).

Dr. Scholl's makes a powder that you put into your shoes and it really helps to cut the smell. With more of a clinical smell, I'm not sure if it helps, but it's worth a try.

As far as the communication problem-he needs to be able to speak with you about your issues, not just run away when it gets too hard. That is a problem and will continue to be a problem if you don't check it now. When you're both calm, you and he should talk about what bothered you and why.

Maybe you can consider how you approach him and ask yourself if maybe your method puts him on the defense immediately. Maybe there's a more gentle way of bringing it up than you normally do. Asking him, calmly and sensitively, to please let you help him come up with a solution to his smell, might be the only way.

Good luck.

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Originally Posted by flower81

but the truth is it sadness me that he doesnt even call or text msg me :(
But i shouldnt really because he never really has done.. rarely.. i can count the amount on times on 1 hand :(

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I would talk to him about this as well.

Yes I will but ill wait till he comes home.. I don't think I should call him just to tell him that

I think a good time to discuss these things would be when you are both rested and not stressed out.

I'm inclined to think this suggestion would actually work.

Yes its true!

Let the baby sulk, he will get tired of this crap if you leave him alone, and spray his socks with Fabreze when he gets home, and takes his shoes off.

Either that, or have a beer, and a hot bath ready for him. Two beers, and a guy will take off anything you want. At least that will distract him while you spray his feet.

Sometimes being creative to solve problems is better than arguing, or even talking about it, especially given that you are resenting always being the one to give in first. Stubborn guys have a hard time admitting they are wrong. So leave him alone until he is finished making his point!

You are right, it was a silly argument to have. If someone ELSE were to tell him about his feet, he might take notice, so just spray until the kid can tell dad his feet stink. Too bad you don't have a dog to roll over and play dead, or howl, or something, when he takes his shoes off, he would get it then.

Better yet, put his socks on a pillow next to his head while he sleeps, that will wake him up! See, creative, and a bit of devious cruelty. Then he will know what you are talking about.

Is hard for a man to change his habits, and smelly feet normally does not bother the owner, just everyone around him. Tell him to jump in the shower as soon as he gets back from work. As for now, let him cool off on his own till he comes back home.

Good luck,
Javi