Still looking is no big deal except that I think you are letting it cloud your judgment.

You know there are issues but you aren't really working on them from what I have seen from your posts. You are talking about talking about doing something. However, I think you are going along for the ride right now because a better prospect hasn't come along, yet. With us you are talking a good game, but I wonder if she has really heard anything other than 'teasing'.

Does she know you are 'still looking' and on the proverbial fence? What does she think is going on with the relationship?

I think you need to be honest with yourself and her. Be honest about what you want and what you need in a relationship. Find out if she is willing to meet you half way. If she isn't, let her go and heal and move on.

It really is not fair to her or your children to hold on to 'might be okay' while you keep looking for your 'soul mate'.

I just went with it since I did have a credit card. As I've said, I guess I feel like I'm being cheap when I bring these things up. My issue.

We have both discussed things at times and we are probably a bit weaker at communicating than we should be.

You may be right about going along for the ride. It's fun, convenient, etc. w/my current situation and I do enjoy being with her.

She knows I'm not just teasing. One of the last times we went out she knew I was getting a sandwich and water and when she heard the special seafood dish she said "oooh, I think I'll get that". Then the waiter left and she said "maybe I should have asked how much" so when she came back she asked and was told the price and said "maybe that's too much?" and feeling like I was on the spot as being Mr. Cheap I said "if you want it then get it". Then she ordered her second beer. I thought I would see if she pitched in for the bill since she was clearly thinking it was a bit high but no money came from her.

I have not said anything to her like "I like you but I'm still looking and on the fence." She knows I'm being cautious after my last relationship and I'm not leading her on with talk about the future. I've also never said that I love her, nor has she.