I hate to say it, but to me it sounds like you are the rebound when things aren't going well elsewhere. :( Almost always when a couple argues a lot over little stupid things it means that they don't communicate effectively. Almost always, when a couple ends a relationship it's because they are to take the lessons of that relationship, learn, grow and find another one to home in their love skills.

It is apparent that you still don't know how to communicate very well with each other. I suggest you either sit down togther and figure out exactly where you each want the other in your lives to see if there is common ground. If not, it's time to learn the lessons the relationship brought to you and move on. Either way you have taken a step forward.

Hugs, Didi

We've talked about it and she said right now she isn't ready for me to be her boy friend but she didn't shoot it down in the future

Ediamond... you just don't want to listen to the answers and advice you are given. This woman has lied to you, cheated on you and now she is telling you that she isn't ready for you to be her boyfriend (but is keeping her options open). Get a grip on reality, lad! She doesn't love you. She's either messing with your head or she's using you. Run the other way... fast!

Seriously, you need to end this now. No contact at all for 50 years plus! You don't know how to communicate because you don't HEAR. Communicating is not just talking, but LISTENING. She has done everything she can to show you she's really not that into you. Time that you heard the truth. Read the responses to your previous post. This is not love. This is not friendship. Move on! I don't know if she's lying to you to get you to back off because she's afraid of you or if she's just stringing you along, but it sure sounds like the latter. Do yourself a favour and listen to us here. End it, grow and move on.

Hugs, Didi

We've talked about it and she said right now she isn't ready for me to be her boy friend but she didn't shoot it down in the future

Starting a new thread isn't going to change the advice you get.

Heartbroken though you are,it's time you pick up the pieces and move on from this mess.

It really doesn't matter what she does or says anymore.

Dude, do you really think she will take you back? You busted her balls for cheating, now she is getting her revenge.

Walk away with dignity, and self respect, and let her do whatever she wants, except torture you.

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we've talked about it and she said right now she isnt ready for me to be her boy friend but she didnt shoot it down in the future

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God you are being played. I mean really. Your ex cheats on you, claims she didn't know though, now she floats the carrot of the "future" in front of you and you sit there and take whatever she hands you. The future is girl talk for, "I'm never going to be with you, but since you are so desperate I'll dangle the future in front of you to see what kind of things I can get you to buy or do for me."

Here's what you need to do for yourself. Grow a pair. Be a man. Your future depends on you and you alone, not what some whore that cheats on you says. This is exactly, why she is playing you. You will not in any way that stand up for yourself. You take whatever she gives and you ask for more. What woman wants that in her man? That's right, not one of them. What man wants that for himself? That's right, not one of them. You ought be mad as hell she cheated on you, and instead you write it off as her passing out and not know it. Please. You should be mad as hell that she dangles your emotions in front of you. But your not. It's time to stand up for yourself and demand fair treatment. It's time to be a man.

My girlfriend broke up with me about 4 weeks ago, she said she needed space which didn't sit well with me. After about the 2nd week we started talking again and she says she still loves me and wants me in her life and she is just not ready to be with me right now. She didn't rule us out in the future but I found out she jumped into a rebound relationship with someone she works with and I think she didn't really give it much thought. I am trying to go no contact with her and usully go a day then she texts me something like how are you ? Do I respond to these messages , I feel like she never had time to deal with the pain of the breakup because we would talk. The talking dosen't get me anywhere , dose she just talk to me because she misses me or dose she just need reasurance that I am still there? Should I just ignore her when she sends me those messages? Im worried that she will get the wrong impresion because I do want her back, is going no contact my best route so she will miss me and rethink her decsion? ADICE PLEASE I don't know how to handle this!!

You go no contact to move on and heal from the breakup, not as a tool to get her back.

How long were you two in a relationship for?

You were only broken up for 4 weeks, and she already "jumped into a rebound relationship" with someone from work. Does that sound like the actions of someone who loves/cares for you and respects you?

Do yourself a favor, move on and go no contact to heal.

This is the ex that 'got black out drunk' and cheated on you,only she couldn't remember?

IGNORE her texts,read through the advice you were given in your previous thread-and T R Y to let that sink in.

A very, very harsh but honest heartfelt response!!!!!! Sorry in ADVANCE!!!!!!



You poor love blind fool you. You should be running for the hills away from this lying cheater, instead of banging your head into a brick wall over and over again.

PLEASE, I will beg you to disappear from her life, FOREVER, no matter what, so you can quit being stuck on really stupid, and find a nice girl to have fun with.

This one is taking ALL your dignity, and self respect and pissing on it.

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