I think Tal's first post is still the most appropriate!

And I'm not being negative ;)
Not at all. Just honest. Like everyone else has been here and you have shot each and everyone of them down with negative responses.

Perhaps you should take your own advice that you offered to Tal;

"Maybe you should actually think about the things I said, really think about them"

Okay Mrs. Puffs, I really did try and give you the benefit of the doubt (I know you don't give a crap about benefit of the doubt and in your case neither do I) but I can't. You have gone off the deep end with your ever dillusional superiority complex. If a man looks at you, even if he is with his partner, don't get excited, he may not be looking at you in a complementary fashion so don't get your panties in a bunch and jump down his throat. I think that the 9 year relationship screwed you up pretty badly and now you've got to behave like Bad Bad Leroy Brown and be mean to anyone who disagrees with you.

So, you said you were leaving this site, Bon Voyage. Maybe you'll find some other dillusional person out there, it's a big world.

P.S. You do notice pretty people, whether you admit it or not, don't bother denying it, you do, you do, you do.

Honey... what difference does it make if he notices something pretty, and then compares me to it? After weeks of rain in Seattle, he turned to me out of the blue and said "You are more beautiful than a blue sky".

Generally, if someone--not necessarily a woman--is pointed out by one of us, it ends up in an interesting conversation about the nature of beauty or attractiveness or whatever. I just like the fact that he always makes sure that I know he loves ME, and even if *I* compare myself unfavorably to other people, HE doesn't.

Seriously... you have major trust issues. I don't find it disrespectful to point out people that are beautiful for whatever reason--one of the women pointed out was once about 80 years old... but she had the most incredibly beautiful skin I have ever seen.

Yes, I am serious about the fact that a beautiful person is a beautiful person, regardless of age or gender. Child, woman, man, grandparent... however you paint it, pretty is pretty.

Your expectations are unrealistic. People are not approached out of the blue based on the kind of person you are. People are approached because they are found to be attractive. Whether that attraction is based on the fact that you're kind to puppies, or reading a good book on the subway, or because you have healthy skin or beautiful fingernails--you aren't approached if something about you is not attractive, unless it is out of pity.

Personally, I'd rather be found attractive than something to be sorry for.

You have unreasonable standards. There, I said it. They aren't even normal unreasonable standards... this is bordering on pathologically unreasonable.

You want a person to give up the basic essence of humanity in order to live up to what you think they should be. Humanity is an appreciation of beauty, whether it's in nature or art or anything else, and avoiding that beauty in the most immediate thing to our lives, which is the people around us, is asinine at best.

The trouble here is that you've had created for you by your father an expectation that everybody in this world should think they way you do. They don't. I'd wager that your father himself doesn't think that way, as he seems to have found the Holy Grail of raising a daughter: You don't think any man is good enough for you, and you seem content to avoid them for the rest of your life, and you thank him for that. It's much more effective than any other anti-boy tirade I've ever heard of. For all you know, he fostered that idea in you out of some perverted need to keep you to himself.

No matter how much you deny it in your subsequent posts, you did, in fact, state that men think about sex all the time, and that you can't accept that fact. Carrying on about how you didn't say that makes you look quite foolish, since it's right there at the beginning of your post. For posterity, "men are constantly sexually attracted to the women that pass by them." I take serious exception to this, in two respects: First, any behavior you want to ascribe to men is equally present in women. Sex is a big thing for both genders, you know, and there's nothing magical about having a penis that puts sexual thoughts into everything. Second, even though I do see women and appreciate their appearance (including, often, in sexual ways), it bothers me greatly that you assume that I do. You don't know the first thing about me, and jumping to conclusions about what goes on inside my (or anyone else's) head is the height of presumption.

Enjoy your life of bitter loneliness or bitter disappointment, depending on whether you end up choosing solitude or 'settling' for a mere human. I have no sympathy for you in either case, because you're the one who chooses to stick with your principles, no matter how clear their absurdity.

I realize you have been deeply hurt and please seek professional help. Good Luck!

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I can be as negative as I want to be if I want to. I wasn't writing a post to be negative, I have negative FEELINGS about men and there is nothing wrong with that, so why don't you keep your useless, lose the negative rant crap to yourself. And, you're male, right, so that's probably why you think what I said was completly negative. Maybe you should actually think about the things I said, really think about, then you'd see I am not a neagtive person at all, quite the opposite, I'm just trying to figure out what others views are concering men and sexuality and relationships...thanks for nothing, greatly appreciated:-) yeah right!

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But it's like I said, and all you have a proved my point, I AM the only woman in the world who has no problem with sexuality in general,

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I think mens thoughts go a little further than that.

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Duh, women DO hold all the power in the world!

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I think if your husband notices a pretty woman and then tells you that she doesn't compare to you is lying, why would he need to look if he feels that no woman compares to you?

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Ok ALL, I'm done posting on this site, I am SO tired of people responding that I am making all men to be the same, when the hell did I ever say that! Anyways, thanks, but no thanks.

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OH, but lastly, to all you men and women out there, I don't ever appreciate a man looking at me with that look that says " I think you're so hot, if only you were mine for a sec..." I am also the woman, who when I see aa couple walking out and the man looks at me, obviously being attracted to me, I call him out right in front of the woman he loves an dI tell him to stop checking out the other women in the world and start focusing on the one you have.

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"I mean, jeez...don't YOU notice when a person is pretty...male OR female?"

No, I don't.

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Shesh!! I'm so glad that you love it for your husband to point out the pretty ones so that you can both agree they are pretty, but move on to talk about 1 aspect about you that makes the other women your husband is looking at not like you. Like I said, and you never answered. IF your husband thinks so much of you then why does he even have the urge, but much more, actually check out other women. I mean, this makes no sense to me. IF you were hi true beauty there wouldn't be other women that catch his eye because you are it.

And no, I don't think holding hands with the person you love and walking past a woman that is attractive in anyway, the same as saying a kid is cute. Are you serious about that?

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Baby, you so sexy when your angry!