I'm still struggling aaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggggghhhhhhhhh hhhhhhhh

Are you happy with the new girl or not? Maybe you got into this to replace the ex, and you can't.

I am happy when I'm with her but a lot of my time is spent thinking about my ex its been sso long and I want her back but I can't speak to her because its been so long, its getting really hard I don't know what to do with myself

I don't think you should be dating anyone yet.

It's not fair on the new girl;she's a rebound,as you don't seem to have allowed yourself to heal from the breakup.

Your ex is in the past,live in the now and look forward to the future.

You have replaced one female for another, and have never allowed yourself to properly heal. Seems you think that getting a new girl, will help you get over the old one. Seldom happens that way, and even though it was 6 months after the break up, the new girl is just a rebound you jumped into. That's hardly fair as you needed more time to unpack your baggage, by yourself, on your own.

The new girl is but a distraction, and its very telling you don't think of her when she isn't there. I suspect you just wanted someone to fed your hurt ego, and bring back yourself esteem, by having someone who is there for you. Those feelings are common after a break up as we feel rejected.

Something you should pay attention too. Maybe when you are not with the new girl, you are doing nothing but dwelling on the past, and not busy moving forward as you need to be.

My advice, when she pops up in your head, have a chore, or project ready for you to jump into.

I seem to worry about what other people think of me too much, I don't have any contact with my ex but have thoughts on my mind of what she thinks of me I don't want her to hate me because I thought we had a good time together but with it ending quite quickly then hardly a word from her in so long just wonder how she can not care but not me

Because she is having a good time, and you are not!

But why do I care so much about what other people think of me? I didn't do anything bad by my ex I don't know if just getting the chance to speak to her then I'll be fine