I know you will be scared and upset to come out of this relationship, but there is a lot of history there, bad history. This has affected the way you think, your confidence - everything. Sounds like this guy just can't be trusted.

Nine years in this relationship. Nothing has changed. So it is time for you to change things up and get out. Good luck to you in the future and you will be better off.

Joe

Cutting to the chase...

You're still with this guy WHY??