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  • Dec 20, 2010, 10:21 AM
    mike92331
    Comment on talaniman's post
    Hahaha I hear you. I guess I will just stick to talking to her on chat. Thank you.
  • Dec 20, 2010, 01:13 PM
    acciosnivellus
    Your new found dilemma is a very dangerous one. I found myself in this situation. We had both just broke up with our bestfriend/partners and we were both vulnerable. We ended up, in a sense, using each other to get over our "past". But it was BAD. NEWS. He ended up becoming so extremely clingy because he was scared I was going to desert him like his ex did. I ended up starting to feel guilty and missing my ex because I didn't let myself properly heal. I tried to hide my emotions by distracting myself with this new guy. It felt great at first to be able to express myself and do new things and have good conversations with someone else- until the line was crossed. I ended up going back to my ex and doing the whole thing all over only to find myself here in the same spot again- lonely and depressed. It's a recipe for a dead end. The healing process really is crucial, I was just too scared to face it until now. I'm just emphasizing that you should be very, very careful about this because it can get out of control very fast. All it brought me was a world of drama and regret. Good luck!
  • Dec 20, 2010, 02:23 PM
    talaniman
    Comment on acciosnivellus's post
    It is rather easy to cross boundaries when you have a hole in your soul, and you think another can fill it. All sorts of unseen complications can arise, and do, when you least expect it. Sad because it makes things a lot worse.
  • Dec 22, 2010, 08:16 AM
    mike92331
    Parent Troubles
    Ok me an this girl have been talking for a while now. We like everything about each other and have hung out a couple times now. I know she knew that I really really liked her, because in conversation she has slipped up and said that I have feelings for her. She lives with her Aunt, and she completely does NOT like me. Its because I am 18 turning 19 in April and she is turning 16 in October. I know it seems like a wicked age gap, but if you only knew what we had between us. She moved out of an abusive home, and I talk to her and bring out her happiest emotions, I mean even her ex boyfriend was hurting her. I told her she should never be treated like that because she deserves the whole world and nothing short of that. I told her last night my feelings for her and she quickly signed of her Facebook, and ignored my calls. I don't know what I did, I thought we had something to work on? Does anyone have any advice
  • Dec 22, 2010, 03:58 PM
    talaniman

    My advice is to leave the young girl alone and stop confessing feelings to strange females so fast. After such a hard break up, rebounding to another is a disaster waiting to happen, and you have totally scared the new youngster, high school girl no less the hell away.

    Stay single, and just enjoy making many friends, and having much fun for a while. What's your freaking hurry to latch onto someone else??

    To much, to fast, crash and burn!

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