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  • Jun 7, 2008, 04:19 AM
    tiamokiss
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by wontbez
    Feel free to add to this list.


    1. Volunteer
    2. Take a class in something you're interested in
    3. Learn a foreign language
    4. Read a book on the best seller chart
    5. Take up a sport (with friends is best) like Bowling or Golf
    6. Call old friends and family members
    7. Play some video games
    8. Watch some movies
    9. Join a gym
    10. Learn how to speed read (good software is rocket reader)
    11. Learn how to cook
    12. Get a library card
    13. Start a new savings account and make a bet with yourself on how much you can save
    14. Take on a new project at work
    15. Update your resume
    16. Buy some new clothes
    17. Buy that CD you've always wanted
    18. Change the layout of your furniture
    19. Go for walks
    20. Answer questions on this website

    Sometimes when you are so in love with that person you freeze, you feel like you can't move on nor backwards, your just stuck in a moment that was never meant to be, caught in the middle!! So this list may not work for some people!
  • Jun 7, 2008, 10:16 AM
    bigbird213
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by tiamokiss
    sometimes when u r so in love with that person u freeze, u feel like u can't move on nor backwards, ur just stuck in a moment that was never meant to be, caught in the middle !!! so this list may not work for some ppl!

    This list is designed to break you out of that feeling exactly. When you get stuck in that feeling, like you can't get out, and you can't stop thinking about them, performing some of the actions on this list will bring you out of that mode and help you see that there is happiness without them.
  • Jun 7, 2008, 05:20 PM
    talaniman
    Quote:

    so this list may not work for some people!
    It will work for those that work it, and has.
  • Jun 7, 2008, 06:13 PM
    Sikativ
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Tinkerbell24
    the frist thing i did was BURN ALL OF HIS STUFF THAT I HAD. pictures, and some clothes. it helped out a lot

    So she's allowed to burn all her stuff but I have to give it all back to her?

    Wheres my payment for pain and suffering, let alone the money she owes to my father for moving her down here (ive already paid my half!! )

    -grunts in disgust-
    -Sik
  • Jun 27, 2008, 06:43 AM
    bigbird213
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by xxrangerxx
    exercise is a really, really good stress releaser in my opinion.

    I've also been thinking about learning to play the guitar. I've always wanted to and since I'm currently going through an awful breakup, would be nice to try something totally new!

    Go for it man, great way to keep busy. Warning though, it is frustrating in the beginning, but totally worth it.
  • Jul 1, 2008, 05:38 PM
    Meatybune
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by wontbez
    Feel free to add to this list.


    1. Volunteer
    2. Take a class in something you're interested in
    3. Learn a foreign language
    4. Read a book on the best seller chart
    5. Take up a sport (with friends is best) like Bowling or Golf
    6. Call old friends and family members
    7. Play some video games
    8. Watch some movies
    9. Join a gym
    10. Learn how to speed read (good software is rocket reader)
    11. Learn how to cook
    12. Get a library card
    13. Start a new savings account and make a bet with yourself on how much you can save
    14. Take on a new project at work
    15. Update your resume
    16. Buy some new clothes
    17. Buy that CD you've always wanted
    18. Change the layout of your furniture
    19. Go for walks
    20. Answer questions on this website

    Go a complete stranger!
  • Jul 11, 2008, 10:32 AM
    CFZD
    I didn't read all, but join AMHD!:)
  • Jul 23, 2008, 10:19 AM
    Andrew916
    I've put this on almost all my posts so I think I might as well put it here too. I reflect on what the Desiderata says. It has an amazing message an plan on how you should live life and treat others.

    "Go placidly amid the noise and the haste,
    and remember what peace there may be in silence.

    As far as possible, without surrender,
    be on good terms with all persons.
    Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
    and listen to others,
    even to the dull and the ignorant;
    they too have their story.
    Avoid loud and aggressive persons;
    they are vexatious to the spirit.

    If you compare yourself with others,
    you may become vain or bitter,
    for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
    Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
    Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
    it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

    Exercise caution in your business affairs,
    for the world is full of trickery.
    But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
    many persons strive for high ideals,
    and everywhere life is full of heroism.
    Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection.
    Neither be cynical about love,
    for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment,
    it is as perennial as the grass.

    Take kindly the counsel of the years,
    gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
    Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
    But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
    Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

    Beyond a wholesome discipline,
    be gentle with yourself.
    You are a child of the universe
    no less than the trees and the stars;
    you have a right to be here.
    And whether or not it is clear to you,
    no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

    Therefore be at peace with God,
    whatever you conceive Him to be.
    And whatever your labors and aspirations,
    in the noisy confusion of life,
    keep peace in your soul.

    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
    it is still a beautiful world.
    Be cheerful. Strive to be happy."

    Make sure you take the lessons you learned from that relationship and go forth into the world with a newer (positive) outlook on life. Apply those lessons and walk with confidence and peace.
    Move on knowing that you WILL feel better, that you WILL find an even better partner, that you ARE blessed. Don't let life get you down- it's I gift given to us daily. It is here to be cherished, embraced, loved and lived to its utmost potential! Remember- "With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy." tomorrow will be a better day! :)

    -Drew
  • Aug 5, 2008, 05:27 PM
    confuse
    What does it mean if your ex is talking to you again?
  • Aug 20, 2008, 12:20 AM
    jiltedgirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by confuse
    What does it mean if your ex is talking to you again?

    It can honestly mean nothing. They can be feeling lonely or miss you, not necessarily looking to get back together.

    I would prefer it if you didn't proceed at all (unless you are over him/her).

    Proceed with caution,
    J
  • Nov 5, 2008, 04:15 AM
    RUSThammer

    Prepare a plan to kill yer ex :D
  • Nov 5, 2008, 04:16 AM
    RUSThammer

    ^^ LOL just kidding... see this is how funny you shd be after the break off
  • Dec 30, 2008, 03:09 AM
    expat2009

    Move on - find someone better - enjoy



    Hehe wish it were that easy :)
  • Apr 1, 2009, 12:56 AM
    none12345
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by hornistAdam View Post
    being a hornist, I say play the Horn! ha!

    but seriously, music is an amazing outlet. I would say take up the guitar. It's a common instrument, relatively easy, relatively inexpensive, and there's a huge repertoire of music to choose from.

    Lol dude when I first read your name, I thought a hornist is someoen that is horny lol >_< that was embarrassing XD
  • Apr 2, 2009, 03:30 PM
    faye1983

    Aaah thanks this is helping me sooo much
  • Apr 2, 2009, 06:22 PM
    none12345
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ameet711 View Post
    go bungee jumping..it will throw out your past and make you fresh for a new start!!!:)

    With straps or without? O_O
  • Apr 21, 2009, 03:06 PM
    Heartbroken7
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by BiWiccanAndProud View Post
    Cry... I've found crying to be the best of medicine for anything... so yea... just sit and cry... THEN GO AND PARTY WITH SOME FRIENDS AND HAVE SOME LAUGHS!!!! ^.^ always helps!!!

    What if I can't cry? I've literally sat down and played country, YES country, you know, jump off a 10 story building music! I think I cried the day before we broke up, but not since then. I have a hard time doing it un-intoxicated! HAHA! I am really having a tough time with this one, but crying isn't coming when I need it to :(
  • Apr 21, 2009, 03:31 PM
    none12345
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Heartbroken7 View Post
    What if I can't cry? I've literally sat down and played country, YES country, you know, jump off a 10 story building music! I think I cried the day before we broke up, but not since then. I have a hard time doind it un-intoxicated! HAHA! I am really havin a tough time with this one, but crying isn't coming when I need it to :(

    Actually laughter is the best medicine, crying just lets everything out. =P
  • Apr 23, 2009, 10:59 AM
    bc472556

    Number 28 is the best advice. After breaking up with my boyfriend of years I wrote him a 13 page letter I never mailed it but just writing it was the best closer.
  • May 16, 2009, 10:37 PM
    frangipanis

    Take time to heal but don't waste time missing out on the chance to make new friends. I've been feeling really sorry and sad for myself these past few weeks and a bit worthless, so today when I signed on to a dating site and said I was looking for friendship, I was amazed that someone with a great looking face and decent profile who is 10 years younger than me wrote:

    You are 1 very attractive lady, and for a woman of 49 even more so. Would love to see that smile in person.

    Boy, did he make my day :)))

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